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Happy National Coming Out Day!!


TiaMaria

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Hi everyone,

Happy National Coming Out Day!

It’s been a while since I’ve posted here, but I just wanted to share some of the things that have been going on for me.

So recently, I came out to my parents, and they were pretty accepting of it (Still had a bunch of questions for me). So, I’ve been thinking of coming out to my brothers and sisters today, since it is National Coming Out Day. I’m still not really sure how they would react, but I really think I should get it over with. I know I want to start transition soon, so I’m gonna have to tell them soon before they start noticing some… significant changes.

Other than that, I’ve been working out my orientation and identity some more. I know for a fact I am bi/pan now, but the guy I liked isn’t over his ex, so that idea is kind of out for now. I also know I don’t want to get back with my ex. So, since I’m not really focused on dating, I’ve been focusing more on my identity. I have been doing a lot more shopping lately, and I love it. I can’t really stop either. It’s like every few days I have to go into a store and try on clothes and stuff. It kind of feels like an addiction lol. Has this happened to anyone before?

Also I tried looking into banking sperm (I really don’t like that word anymore) before I started HRT. I tried going to Planned Parenthood, but it looks like they actually can’t help with this. So I’ve had to look into other places. If anyone has any ideas of places I could go for help with this, could please help me out? Thanks J

P.S: Is anyone here a big fan of D&D? I recently started playing this too, and it is SUPER fun lol J If anyone is a fan, could you help me figure out if there are ways to play online? We only play once a week, but I really wanted to try playing some more. That, and WOW. Any info would help. Thanks!!

Sorry for the longish post lol. Ok, now I’m done lol J

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Happy NCOD to you too.  Sounds like you have things up and moving even though still putting on speed.  Since you have told your parents, the cat is out of the proverbial bag, Genie out of the lantern, and all of that, so while it is a risk to tell your siblings about t, you may as well take it but be ready for some resistance even though it may not show up.  My coming out was 10 years ago and there are no regrets for that at all.  I will be attending a special Health Fair tonight and if it is like the past few years, I will see a few people just coming out who are being welcomed and hugged by oldsters like myself.  I may even get to talk to some family members who are still in some degree of shock, but who love their child / sibling very much.

 

The shopping thing sounds about right.  You do get a little high on it when you first come out to yourself and feel comfortable looking for your new self's new clothing. 

 

I do not have the attention span needed for D&D I am afraid so I can't relate to it.

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I'm a D&D nerd! I play in a couple different games, and DM a game of my own.

 

Roll20.net is the best way to play online that I have found.

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I have yet to come out to my wife and family. Only out to my counselors at VA. They had a Coming out day spot on the nightly news. They interviewed it seems like only L and G where talked too. Not any trans that I noticed or identified.  I watched with my wife and youngest son. The way I have been lately I was almost expecting the question. Yet, I was anxiously scared to even open my mouth. I feel that I will be coming out to my family soon. But alas not today. Maybe if the news did interview a transgender person I may have opened my trap.

 

Kymmie

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Just now, KymmieL said:

I watched with my wife and youngest son. The way I have been lately I was almost expecting the question.

Kymmie you may be surprised.  Even though they may be shocked when you tell them the news, it may not be a total surprise after they give some thought to it.   Prepare carefully what you will say and how you will say it.  Hope for the best and prepare for the worse.  It may take a bit of time for the news to sink in before you get a "real" reaction.    All my best to you dear! 
Jani

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I'm not in the nation of National Coming Out Day but I wanted to say that it was really helpful when I recently told the GT doing my surgery assessment that I'm out to everyone except my parents, that she thought that was fine. She understood that there are good, valid reasons for not coming out to older parents, and that that's an OK, even loving, decision that some of us need to make.

 

My son, on the other hand, was completely nonplussed when I told him. I might just as well have told him that I was planning to buy new jeans next week! Young people are so much better at this than we are :)

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