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[Kris-Boston]

I would first like to say welcome , it took some time but I am glad I am here .   Took some time a workplace bullying , he could tell I was different , called me both a carpet muncher and a fagot . I am more into women and if I transition plan to keep it that way . Reporting it is key thanks to places like  Communities Against Hate on 4/26/2018 in Boston MA of all places  . Thanks to all the medical professionals at Fenway . Happy Thanksgiving to all . 

[MaryEllen]

Hello Kris,

 

Welcome to TransPulse.  Thank you for sharing with us. 

 

MaryEllen

[Carolyn Marie]

Welcome to Trans Pulse, Kris.  Sorry you had an experience with workplace bullying.  You did the right thing in reporting it.

 

I hope you find a lot to like here in these forums and our Chat Room.  Please participate to whatever extent you're comfortable and ask any questions you like.  You may also want to visit our Community Rules page.. 

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

[Susan R]

Hello Kris, Welcome to TransPulse.  Glad you found us. We're here to discuss anything you feel comfortable with sharing about you and/or your journey.  I'm sure you'll meet many here that have had similar difficulties in the workplace. I'm sorry you had to experience this and I agree with you did the right thing by nipping this in the bud.

 

Take Care,

Susan R?

[Timber Wolf]

Hi Kris,

 

Welcome to TransPulse. I'm glad you've found us!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf?

[Charlize]

Welcome Kris.  

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Jani]

Hello Kris and welcome!  I'm not too far north of Boston and I go to Fenway too.  There is no need to put up with bullying.  Please join in the conversation.

 

Cheers, Jani

[Kirsten]

Hi Kris!! ?

[RithiaAllen]

Hi Kris.

[DeeDee]

Hi Kris! ?

[Kris-Boston]

I have always found bully’s to be cowards, they need to be the center of attention and put someone down to make them feel good. They lack true inner peace and self-worth.  While my workplace bully is still there, the progressive discipline takes forever. But the key is the employer does not want the liability. Managers can lose their jobs and be liable for not stopping disgraceful behavior in the workplace , keeping a workplace free of fear is both smart from a business perspective but also in a productivity sense .  Work in government so the process is much slower. But most employers have rules of conduct as well as federal and state law. But for the most part he is now walking on eggshells, but not the first person he has done this to.  Keep a log and journal, take pictures, get a sound measurement app, witness, and report it to the chain of command and keep on doing it, keep your head held high and keep on moving forward. But love and happiness work and hate, envy, and spite does not.

[VickySGV]

1 hour ago, Kris-Boston said:

 Work in government so the process is much slower. But most employers have rules of conduct as well as federal and state law.

 

I was an administrator with the State Of California where our rules in regard to Trans people date back nearly 20 years and I agree that the process in Civil Service seems to take forever for actually terminating as person, it does give management direct responsibility for creating a safe and non-hostile workplace.  As a manager my employees actions reflected on me so I had to be on top of things as well.  I had the real experience of a hostile environment affecting one group with numbers I had to provide to my higher managers with a sad look on my face.  I did get very busy.  This was long before I was out as Trans, so it was down and dirty personal. 

[Kris-Boston]

I was state before now federal .  The sad thing is this guy has a role with the general public but behind the scenes.  I involved EEO and an anti violence program at work .  He gets away with it because his boss is 1,000 miles away or I should say did .