Help understanding my gender

[Gwynivere0819]

Hi, this is my first post on here and i was really hoping you guys could help me figure this out. Im 16 and was born a male, unlike alot of other peoples stories i didnt actually start to feel like a girl until i was around 12 and started puberty. I have always heard that if you are trans u will probably be able to tell around the ages of 4 or 5 and im just wondering if its possible im trans. I personally have wanted to be a female since puberty started and my more masculine traits started showing. I have also been having issuss for a few weeks of hating my body and wishing that i looked more feminine. Is this normal? I would really appreciate some help with this and thank you for reading.

[Jani]

Hi Gwynivere and welcome!  Don't fret over when you "discovered" that you were uncomfortable in your assigned gender.  We are all different.  Some folks realize it early, some later in life.  The question is what will you do with the knowledge?   As someone who is young and still dependent upon your parents for support you need to determine how they would react to this news from you.   You can ask to see a therapist for anxiety, which is not a lie.  You would be able to discuss this with a professional who is not emotionally connected to you or this situation.  

 

As to traits, you are young enough that going on blockers would be beneficial to stop the masculine body attributes.   Something to consider...

 

Please join in the conversation. 

 

Jani

[Gwynivere0819]

Thanks for the reply Jani, I know my parents would be fine with it but im scared to tell them becsuse when i was 14 i told then i thought i might be transgender and they just said it was a phase, well the feeling is still there and its just gotten stronger. I have told a few close friends and they are all very supportive and accepting and have started calling me Gwyn which is what i prefer to be called now. I know i want to move forward but i dont know how

[Gwynivere0819]

Also would talking to my school counselor be a good thing to do before i tell my parents? When i do end up telling them im going to just let them know that im sure about being transgender.

[Jani]

Yes that would be a good idea to speak with your school counselor.  If you are concerned, you might ask if your conversation would remain confidential.  

 

So, you mentioned this to your parents a few years ago.  When the time comes you might begin the conversation with "remember back when I was 14 and I told you I was transgender..."  This would certainly indicate this was not a phase you were going through.  Getting them on board now, if they would be accepting and understanding, would be beneficial. 

 

Cheers, Jani 

[Gwynivere0819]

Thank you so much for the help, ill definitely talk to my school counselor about this then and after that i think ill talk to my parents about it again because I honestly feel like i need to do something about this or its going to drive me crazy. I feel like if my parents knew they could help me try and fix some of my body issues that im having.