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[Cross Dresser's Woman]

My boyfriend is a cross dresser and has hidden it from friends and family since he was a teenager. He's borrowed clothes from girlfriends so didn't stay quite as hidden as he had hoped, as they told their friends and family. His mannerisms and usual clothing are very masculine, and there is nothing about him to suggest that he wears makeup and women's clothing behind closed doors.

I've never even known anyone with this particular inclination, much less been intimately involved with them. I don't have a problem with it - I love and accept everything about him. I'm helping him to accept himself and I really think this site will help both of us. He doesn't know anyone else like him and avoids letting anyone get too close to him. We are getting closer since he realized that his false eyelashes don't scare me. ?

When we have sex, which is daily, it's phenomenal. He's mostly au natural, so the clothing is not really an issue. I am uncomfortable with the padded bras, only because they get in the way, and I don't like kissing him with lipstick on. 

I'm hoping for advice for each of us, as well as learning how other people who cross dress handle heterosexual relationships. He's bisexual but assures me that he can be faithful.

Please feel free to offer any kind of advice or suggestions, and to correct me if I use incorrect or offensive terms. 

Hello, everyone! I'm happy to be here! ?

 

[DeeDee]

Hi "C.D.W." (Hope you don't mind me shortening it?)   Just wanted to say hello to you and that I thought this was a wonderful thing to say:

30 minutes ago, Cross Dresser's Woman said:

I love and accept everything about him

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On a practical note the forums here are a mine of information and I have found the people to be genuinely welcoming and supportive of everyone. If you can't find the question you want to ask covered just post it and someone will see it and respond!

[Jani]

Hello and welcome.  I don't have any specific advise for you both except to look around the site and learn that there others like him.   Please join in the conversation and ask questions.  We'll do our best to assist you on this journey.

 

Cheers, Jani

[Timber Wolf]

Hi Cross Dresser's Woman,

Welcome to TransPulse. I'm glad you've found us!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf?

[Briana]

2 hours ago, Cross Dresser's Woman said:

I am uncomfortable with the padded bras, only because they get in the way, and I don't like kissing him with lipstick on. 

 

Hi and welcome!  Feel free to ask whatever you feel you need to ask.  I had to laugh at the line above regarding the lipstick.  That is one thing my wife does NOT like for sure - kissing with lipstick on.  A quick smooch is ok, but passionate kissing not so much.   We were recently in Vegas and were going to go different ways and she gave me a quick kiss as we parted.  I couldn't resist and "prolonged" the kiss.  When done she looked at me with squinty eyes and said, "damn you".  Then laughed as she bounced off to give away her money.

[Charlize]

Welcome.  You have certainly found a great source of information.  If you and he can be open and honest in your relationship you should be able to do fine.   My wife and i have been married over 47 years now.  When i transitioned it was difficult for both of us but we've done well.  Best of luck!

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Carolyn Marie]

Welcome to Trans Pulse, hon.  I applaud you for your support of your partner.  That really takes an open mind and an open heart, and you have both.  Like my friends have said, ask anything and we;ll do our best to answer honestly.  I wish both of you success with your relationship.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

[Susan R]

Hello CDW,  I completely missed this post from 2 weeks ago. I guess it slipped through the cracks.

 

On 12/5/2018 at 3:48 AM, Cross Dresser's Woman said:

I love and accept everything about him. I'm helping him to accept himself and I really think this site will help both of us. He doesn't know anyone else like him and avoids letting anyone get too close to him. We are getting closer since he realized that his false eyelashes don't scare me. 

You sound like you're doing all the right things.  You've been very loving and accepting for who they are and that is the best thing you could do at this point.  Keep that going and all the rest will fall into place.

 

I just recently gave my wife full disclosure after 21 years together and it's been very up and down.  She loves me but mainly feels left out in the rain with no apparent form of support.  This part of the transition I wasn't prepared for as well as I should have been. So if you feel like you need help, be sure to reach out here or a local Trans group or even possibly check out counseling.  There are so many questions that may come up over the next few months, just don't be afraid to ask for help.  Thank you for sharing.

 

Best of luck to you both,

Susan R?

[VickySGV]

Just now, Susan R said:

She loves me but mainly feels left out in the rain with no apparent form of support.

 

 

On 12/5/2018 at 3:48 AM, Cross Dresser's Woman said:

Please feel free to offer any kind of advice or suggestions,

 

Same suggestion for both of you PFLAG -

-https://pflag.org/

 

The letters stand for Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, but the do have support experiences for the parents and friends of Trans people as well.  The chapter near me is where I send partners of Trans people since the LGBT Center I am part of does not yet have a program for SO.s of Trans, and folks are happy.

 

[Susan R]

Thank you Vicky,  i appreciate the information.  I just scoured the pflag website and there is only a defunct Everett group listed and the links are all dead.

This is the same issue I've found looking for a local Trans group near me.  The closest groups are all at least an hour away one way.  I'm not sure why this is.  I'm north of Seattle in a heavily populated suburb but apparently there's not enough interest or need here.

 

Susan R?