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Struggling with liking "boy" things


Ashlee

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Hi. So I've been transitioning for about 6 months give or take. Im pretty feminine, so I'm told, but have been struggling with the fact the I still like so called "boy" things or hobbies. I have a couple motorcycles, a couple tuner race cars I like to fiddle with, radio controlled cars and planes....you get the picture. I enjoy these things. I've been looking at girls that have the same type if hobbies and they are out there, everywhere. There are also trans women in these hobbies. There are even trans race car drivers. It researching has really help me with this.

Anyway, I found a good article that really helped me with this. 

 

https://mobile.abc.net.au/news/2018-03-31/motorbikes-remote-control-cars-transgender-woman-race-track/9598634

 

It's reall great to know that its ok to like this stuff. Its all just part of being your own person. 

:)

 

By the way here is a picture of 2 of my little racers. Im told they are girl's car lol

:)

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All I can say to this is girls like cars too. Watch "Gone In 60 Seconds"

 

Anjolie is totally fem and is one KICK ASS driver!

 

Toys are toys. There are such things as "Big Girl" toys and they are not all shaped like a banana!

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Just now, Michelle F said:

All I can say to this is girls like cars too. Watch "Gone In 60 Seconds"

 

Anjolie is totally fem and is one KICK ASS driver!

 

Toys are toys. There are such things as "Big Girl" toys and they are not all shaped like a banana!

Omg I'm dying laughing. :) that is so true. It is refreshing to say the least

 

:) Ashlee 

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I certainly didn't give up the farm when i transitioned.  All that changed is others can now see what i've always known......that's a woman with that chainsaw, running that backhoe or loading that hay. What's changed?   She's often in a skirt and smiles a great deal more than was once the case.  She also cleans up pretty girl and can sometimes turn a few near sited heads from time to time.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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It was my sister who taught me to drink pints of beer when I was discovering alcohol and persuaded me to do some endurance mountain biking events, I also discovered a trans Youtuber called GoCharlie while I was looking for British inspiration who races cars and went on Ninja Warrior UK.  Do what makes you happy!

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Transitioning should never limit your hobbies and interests.  I can see where it's added a few new ones I thought I never had ...like posting on TransPulse forums and Chats among other things.  That's new to me.  Just enjoy this new life! ?

 

Susan R?

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32 minutes ago, Susan R said:

 Just enjoy this new life! ?

 

Yes ma'am. I agree. I think I was trying to reinvent myself earlier and now I seem to be just finding myself. Its so much better. I love this forum btw. So much goid advice and experience 

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5 hours ago, MaryMary said:

there's no boy or girl things.

I love cars and all mechanical items.  I recently sold my bike (Suzuki 1100) as it wasn't getting much use.  I still have my race car (not street legal), truck and trailer.  I still do carpentry and welding as needed.  I also sew, and tend to all the house cleaning chores.  I love to cook.  It was one of my sisters who taught me how to lay and grout tile.  No gender boundaries here.   

 

3 hours ago, SeekingSadie said:

Do what makes you happy!

Yes!

 

I can think of only one true female activity...

 

Jani

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17 minutes ago, Jani said:

I can think of only one true female activity...

 

I can think of 2. And neither are “fun” lol

 

I agree though. Do what makes you happy. It would be awful to transition only to stop doing all the things that bring you joy for the simple reason that you feel they may be  too masculine. Don’t trade one set of bad circumstances for a new set. Keep what you like and ditch the rest! This is your redo and you get to make the rules! Make sure you like em. ?

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I don't know a lot about cars,. but I am the lighting and sound Production Assistant for Trans Chorus of Los Angeles who works pretty well with about 30K worth of my own sound equipment and also throw up an emergency radio station with my amateur radio gear, including a couple of 30' towers for antennas.  For me its 4 x  8 sheet of plywood that goes pretty fast if I need a special case for my other toys.  I've got the scars to prove it.

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