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Ashlee

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So I went bra shopping yesterday and guess what happened. Nothing. Nothing happened. Nobody even looked at me or noticed me. I bought 2 really cute, small but cute bras. Kept my head up, didn't feel or act nervous or anything. Had confidence. 

So to any girl out there afraid to go get what she wants, go get it. Walk in with confidence, keep your head up and proudly buy what you want. Take time to make sure It fits so you don't have to return stuff. (I use too grab, pay and run only to be disappointed when I got home)

Anyways, go get it. You are beautiful, you are someone special. Be proud! 

On a side note, my bras cost over $1000 because I somehow ended up with a new pretty pink phone during my shopping excursion lol. 

Ashlee ???

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Wonderful Ashlee, except you blew the budget with the phone!  You're right about being confident, you rock it! 

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Lol, the $1000 bra!?! Well as long as you are happy and found something that makes you happy then good on you! Phones are a worthwhile investment, so getting a better made phone instead of a cheap one can pay you back in dividends if you use it as a tool and not just a toy. I’m guilty of that too but don’t feel bad about it because I can do a lot on this phone including eventually having a side income. That’s the excuse I gave myself anyway. But yeah. Glad you had confidence bra shopping because it makes me feel better about shopping for such simple items like that. I’m a scaredy-cat but I’m going to have to get over it.

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That is awesome Ashlee.  Reminds me when I went bra shopping in VS and I even had a VS employee measure me and help fit me so I know that I got the right size bra.  Just keep your head up and be confident and should not have a problem.

 

Lots of Love

 

Amy

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Great Ashlee, I cannot wait till I can do that. Hopefully soon. I was out to the local mall with the whole family on Thursday. I so wanted to do some girl shopping, at VS, OLD Navy, Etc.But I am only out to my wife so had to control myself.

 

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Ashlee, up until this week and throughout my entire marriage, I never owned a bra.  My wife and I have been shopping for "all things girlie" this week and bras were on that list.  I did buy a few but I'm really enjoying these "bralettes".  There are so many different varieties too.  They fit so comfy and if you buy the right one they look and feel amazing.  These bralettes are sort of new to me.  I don't remember owning one 35 years ago.  Do any of you wear these?  With my breast just starting to fill out, they feel wonderful.  I rarely hear anyone talk about them but I absolutely love wearing them.  My wife likes me wearing them too which is always a plus.

 

Susan R?

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1 hour ago, Susan R said:

These bralettes are sort of new to me.

These are the pull on type if I recall.  I initially started with pull on sports bra's but quickly found them annoying to take off, particularly when I got hot and bit sweaty.  After I "grew a bit" I bought a real rear clasp bra and have only bought that type since.  As I'm tall finding one's with long enough straps is tough but I recently found the right material to extend them so they are much more comfortable now.  

 

That said, when we're not quite filled out it seems these are a great way to get some support as they come in all manner of band width and cup sizes.

 

Jani 

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7 hours ago, Josietg said:

I’m a scaredy-cat but I’m going to have to get over it.

I was so scared even just buying jeans but it went away. I valued clothes that fit more than a strangers opinion of me and my shopping habits. It really is a lot of stress gone?

 

6 hours ago, Amy LeBlanc said:

Just keep your head up and be confident and should not have a problem

I think that's the key to it. Just shopping like a person needing something. Not really thinking "I hope nobody sees me" or "do I pass" or anything. Instead I think"oh my, this is cute" and "oooohhh I love this or that" it has become fun. I love love love shopping. ?☺️

5 hours ago, KymmieL said:

cannot wait till I can do that. Hopefully soon

Yes, the sooner the better. I think the stress of it is truly unhealthy. Im dealing with anxiety issue because of it but slowly not caring about opinions has helped so much with the anxiety. ?

 

7 hours ago, Jani said:

Wonderful Ashlee, except you blew the budget with the phone!  You're right about being confident, you rock it! 

Lol. Yes, blew the budget by about $900 lol. The phone is great though. It's a pink note 9. It's so pretty. I love it.?.Im a creative photographer and the note9 has 3 camers. The main camera is the best camera in the world on any phone. 

I'm a happy girl

 

Ashlee ?

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Just now, Jani said:

 I initially started with pull on sports bra's but quickly found them annoying to take off, particularly when I got hot and bit sweaty.  After I "grew a bit" I bought a real rear clasp bra and have only bought that type since.

Yes, me too. I also use the bras with a clasp up front. I have a push up that clasps it the back. I ordered it online. I hate it. That's why I went bra shopping. Now I know my size and loving my bras ?

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I’m not able to get a bra yet but I’ll be glad to get one soon. I’ve been noticing the girls jiggle a little more than usual and I know with the cold weather they can get chafed so that’s huge on my list. Plus even with my small cup size I have just enough to get a push-up with inserts to make some good cleavage, which is something that will help with dresses and plunge cut shirts. So yes I’m going to need to get past my fears and just go for it. 

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34 minutes ago, Jani said:

As I'm tall finding one's with long enough straps is tough but I recently found the right material to extend them so they are much more comfortable now.  

 

That said, when we're not quite filled out it seems these are a great way to get some support as they come in all manner of band width and cup sizes.

I've recently seen some of these bralettes that have the look, feel and comfort I like but with an easy to "put on/take off" front clasp on Zulily.  I bought some with adjustable straps and they are wonderful.  A few adjustments and it seemed made just for me.

i can't believe all the different styles that are available these days.

 

Susan R?

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I grew up trying to live female and my best friend has grown up trying to live male.  Now we're switched lol. I love taking her clothing shopping especially for under things.  She helps me find what fits me and I help her find cute bras. It's fun to go shopping with friends if you can.

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1 hour ago, Jordy said:

I grew up trying to live female and my best friend has grown up trying to live male.  Now we're switched lol. I love taking her clothing shopping especially for under things.  She helps me find what fits me and I help her find cute bras. It's fun to go shopping with friends if you can.

I love shopping with my friends, well or without them.....well I just like shopping I think lol. It is fun with friends, and then lunch and stuff. My girlfriends are cis and bi. We're a mixmash. It's funny because one of my closest girlfriends has really short hair and doesn't wear makeup and wears Jean and teeshirts so we strut around as us. Me as feminine and her as not. Me and 3 of my besties are shopping Sunday  having lunch and then ice cream. Fun fun times. 

Ashlee ❤️

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That does sound fun! I’m trying to get there this summer with some of the people I’ve become acquainted with. 

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On 2/1/2019 at 7:58 AM, Josie Beth said:

That does sound fun! I’m trying to get there this summer with some of the people I’ve become acquainted with. 

I love clothes shopping now. Either alone or with friends. Either way. I don't care or even feel wierd at all anymore. I don't know if people are staring or not either. I haven't really paid attention in a while. If I could give advice I'd say just go get what you want. I don't think people even care, even in my local redneck town. I've kinda became sarcastic to "haters". I'll hold up a bra and thong together and ask a stranger if it matches and if they think my boyfriend would like it. You should have been there when I came out of the dressing room in these shorts and asked my friends what they thought. Yup, I just don't care anymore ? I'm not going to be pushed back in the closet by anyone and/or their ignoring opinions. I'm proud. Yuppers. A strong independent proud trans woman. 

Ashlee ❤️

 

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Hey Ashlee. I really like those shorts. I got a couple of shorts last year and can't wait to wear them! And as far as everyone else goes, I really don't care what they say or think. This is me and one one can change it nor will I change for anyone. Even my own mom or family. Hugs all!

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