Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

How do you choose a new name?!


Hellothere

Recommended Posts

Theres to many male names out there! Ive had a couple ive been drawn to but after a tiny bit i change my mind and the cycle repeats. I think it helps im not really out so its not affecting anyone else, but i dont have anyone to ask if they have ideas. How did you choose your name? Is changing your mind ok? Does it have to start with the same letter as my cuttent name? There is so many questions.

Link to comment
  • Admin

Names can be tough, because there are so many possibilities.  I chose my middle name in honor or my paternal grandmother.  For my first name I wanted more than one syllable because my last name has only one,,  plus the initial is the same as my dead name.  Lastly, it just fit me well, I think, and seemed age-appropriate.  Ashley wouldn't have been a good fit for a 60 y.o..  LOL!

 

Carolyn Marie

Link to comment
Just now, Carolyn Marie said:

Lastly, it just fit me well

HelloThere! Carolyn is spot on with her advice.  It can be really frustrating, but start by eliminating names you know you do not like and then make a list of ones you do and say them out loud. I used a random name I liked to start questioning online with before settling on the one I am using now because of the reason quoted above - it just felt right, my sisters effectively chose it for me and it stems from a nickname I've been called for years so will not be hard for people to remember.  This works for me at the moment because I already have a good emotion attached to it and can see myself using it if/when I come out publicly!  That said, you can literally change it anytime you like. Its your name.  :)

Link to comment
  • 2 weeks later...

Hi!  Names can be hard. I had help though.  I wanted to be Joady but it made too many people think of Jody Foster.  Strong as she is she is still a woman lol. I'm a man.  I got suggested Jordy and was like. I like that.  Then I thought, a good strong name is Jordan so I went with that.  My middle name is Ethan for my fiance's high school best friend and my last name is Michaels which is my fiance's name minus the s.  I can't marry my fiance because my ex husband won't give me a divorce (long story) so having his name as my last name is awesome.  You will find a name that means something to you. It can be over night like for me or take time and it certainly is ok to change your mind.

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

I went through a list of one thousand names.  Narrowed that at first by eliminating names of friends and relatives, followed by others I knew.  I finally got to a half dozen names.  Then, I decided on one.  I haven’t changed my mind, perhaps because it turned out to have something similar to my given name.

 

Willow

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

I agree with Carolyn above, in that I choose my name that was popular with girls my age (50's 60's). Growing up, I also had friends named Cynthia, and some dear to my heart, one friend I had passed away shortly before I changed my name, in a way she inspired me and gifted me with that name.

 

Hugs

 

Cynthia -

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

I have a friend in Southern Europe who's Jordi, a nickname for George (Jorge).  

 

Link to comment
  • 3 weeks later...

Personally I followed my Mother's lead and used the fem version of my birth name. 

 

Michael to Michelle

Link to comment
  • 1 month later...

I tried a few for size before I settled on my name.

 

at first I kept my surname or at least close to my surname. However after I went stealth I decided to take a name and stick to it.

 

My first name was actaully picked from many that I pondered. I did ponder quite a few from the famous to the infamous Until I decidedd on one that stood out from the crowd for me. My Middle name was taken from my Mothers Middle name and as for my last. I took my partners. We are not married but it seemed like the right thing to do.

 

It looks really nice on my driving licence and I still have to phychologically pinch myself by taking it from my purse and having a look once in a while. I dont think i could have picked any better.

 

I guess thats the beauty of being able to decide for yourself and not have one you had no control over. At first I did kind of miss my real surname but I did make it easy for myself to try and keep the intials the same. My Signature is just a Spider dancing on paper after dipping in the ink well but the first letters are almost the same so I didnt have to change my signature really.

 

Winner winner chicken dinner for me ?

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   3 Members, 0 Anonymous, 259 Guests (See full list)

    • Lydia_R
    • VickySGV
    • Abigail Genevieve
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.8k
    • Total Posts
      770k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,091
    • Most Online
      8,356

    Layla Marie hay
    Newest Member
    Layla Marie hay
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Britton
      Britton
      (53 years old)
    2. chipped_teeth
      chipped_teeth
    3. james-m
      james-m
    4. jenny75
      jenny75
      (34 years old)
    5. KASS13
      KASS13
  • Posts

    • KathyLauren
      Oh, how I wish we were over-reacting!  But I don't think we are.  The danger is under-reacting. 
    • Ivy
      I understand your feelings. I have the same fears.  NC has made a swing to the right as well, and I'm not optimistic.  I want to tell myself I'm over reacting.  But seeing what these people are  saying, and doing when they do get into power can't be dismissed.  It's proof of what they will do if they take over the federal government. I'm getting kinda old now anyway.  It took me over 60 years to get here, and I'm not going back.  I suppose they can revert my gender markers, but I will still be legally Ivy.  And I have every intention of dying as Ivy Anna.  If I can't find my hormones somehow, I'll do without.  The physical changes I do have are permanent.   Trans people have always existed.
    • Willow
      @KymmieL I think we all have had to deal with a person who would not apologize when they were wrong no matter what.  In my case it was my MIL. Actually called me a lier I front of my wife.  Even when she realized she was wrong she wouldn’t admit it to my wife, nor would she apologize to my wife for any of the things she later admitted she had done that affected my wife.  I had a boss that accused me of saying things I did not say in a manner I did not use.  Even another employee told him that I had not said the things nor used the words but he still refused to back down.     Unfortunately, all too many people in this world believe they are always right no matter what.  Some are very famous.  lol   Willow    
    • KatieSC
      I wish I could cope as well as others. I feel very defeated in that all of the consideration, and then treatment to transition, could all be wiped out by this time next year with the united effort by the R party to eradicate all that is transgender. I fear that the national election could turn out to our detriment, and we will face a national push to eradicate us. Tracking us down will not be that hard to do. Once they know who we are, forcing the legislation to reverse our name changes, gender marker changes, and other records, will not be that hard. We saw an example when the AG in Texas was data mining the driver licenses for those who had gender marker changes. Who will we appeal to? The Supreme R Court? We would have an easier time trying to convince a Russian court.    We need to get out and vote in November. There is not enough Ben & Jerry's to improve my outlook on all of this. In some ways it is a cruel thing in a way. In the early 1930s, Germany was working hard to hunt down the LGBTQ population and eradicate it. Now Germany has better protections there than we have in many of our own states. About 90 years ago, Germany was seeing the rise of their very own dictator...Now the US is on the verge...Oh never mind. What a difference 90 years makes...    History may repeat itself, but sometimes it shifts the focus a little...
    • Nonexistent
      I have the same problem as you, my face is the main reason why I get misgendered I'm pretty sure. I think it's mostly up to genetics how your face will look (T can help, but still genetics will determine how you end up). You can't change your facial structure really, you can get facial masculinization surgery but it's expensive so not an option for most unless you're rich lol.    Experimentally (I haven't done it but want to), you could see if any plastic surgeons around you will give you Kybella in your cheeks. It is an injection that removes fat, and is usually used underneath the chin/on the neck below the jawline, but some may use it off-label on the face. The only potential problem with this is that if your face would naturally thin out at an older age, it could thin out extra and make you look older (though I'm not certain on this). Another option is to get filler in your jaw/chin, which would make your jawline look more square and your face more masculine. I want jaw filler but I'm poor lol, it only lasts one year up to a few years depending on what kind you get, so it would have to be done every so often and can get expensive. I did get chin filler once, only 2 small vials so it didn't make that big of a difference. I would recommend going for the jaw if you can only choose 1, I wish I had done that.   Those are the only options I know of that will bring legitimate noticeable changes.
    • April Marie
      Welcome to the forums, Blake!! We are happy that you found us!!
    • Mmindy
      Good evening Blake.   Welcome to Transgender Pulse Forums.   Best wishes, stay positive and motivated.   Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋
    • Nonexistent
      Thank you.    Trans men and trans women each have their own struggles for sure, but I agree, it can be a hard time to be a non-passing trans guy. There is no specific "man clothes" that only men wear. People could just think I'm butch (which sucks to think about, if people think I'm a lesbian when I'm a dude!!). I mean I would feel better if I got gendered correctly even if I don't fully pass, it would maybe raise my confidence to think maybe I do pass well lol! Instead I'm just reminded I don't.   Though I may just focus on the times I don't pass and ignore the times that I do. Because I rarely remember getting gendered correctly, but I hone in on the times that I don't. 
    • Nonexistent
      Thank you, I'm glad to be here. :)   I have been in therapy for 9 years but still can't seem to accept myself. I think it has to do with growing up trans in a world that hates us, especially in the south. I mean I was discriminated against by adults and ostracized as a kid/teen due to being trans. My family is accepting, but the rest of the world is not. I realize now a lot of people are accepting (even unexpectedly, like my partner's conservative republican Trump-loving parents lol), but it feels like my brain is still in survival mode every time I exit the door. I am a very fearful person.   My body still may change over time, but it feels like I haven't met the same 'quota' (don't know the right word) that a majority of other trans guys have on far less time on T. Most trans guys pass easily 1-3yrs on T, I'm double that and still don't pass well except my voice.
    • Nonexistent
      Thank you. I am just used to seeing trans guys who pass at like... 6 months to 1 year, at the most 3 years. And I just don't meet the mark, all the way at 6 years. It is possible with time I will masculinize more, but it's frustrating when I'm "behind" and may never catch up. It threatens my mental health mostly, possibly my physical health if I'm visibly trans (though I don't ever go out alone). 
    • Adrianna Danielle
      Boss is happy with everything with me and said I will be the only one that works on one customer's truck.This customer saw me clean a small grease spot in the inter of his Kenworh last week,on the steering wheel.A new customer too,saw me walk out with my tub o' towels wiping that grease stain off.This one,he cannot stand a grease spot in the interior.
    • Nonexistent
      Yeah, I am grieving the man I "should" have been. He will never exist, especially not in my youth. But I don't know how to healthily go about it instead of fixating on the life that could have been.
    • EasyE
    • VickySGV
      Going to the conventions has been one of my ways to deal with this stuff. 
    • Nonexistent
      Sorry it took me a while to respond!    I would like to get to know you. :) I only have mental disabilities. Schizoaffective disorder, depression, and anxiety. The last two are severe and very treatment-resistant. I did have physical problems for some time, but it was caused by an antipsychotic medication (Invega). It basically crippled me, muscle weakness/fatigue, basically could barely walk (used mobility devices) and doctors were useless since they didn't suspect the medication I was on! I've finally ditched antipsychotics (hopefully for good, unless my symptoms come back). I usually don't share like this, especially in person, but hey, I'm anonymous. :)   I'm not expecting reciprocation at all btw, these things are personal. There is more to us than disabilities, so tell me about yourself if you still wanna talk!
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...