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So here lately I am finding out more and more about myself. I have dated guys in the past but years ago. I have been trying to pass as a cis guy for like 15 years up until this last 6 months. I've dated mostly women in that time and still am attracted to women but lately have also had attraction twards guys. Some guys I find sooo beautiful. So I considered myself bi. No biggie. Well, after being pretty much out now completely, people are approaching me and showing my their trans friends and/or family members and asking questions about "would I date him, her, them or they or whatever. Well, it turns out that I am not bi. I really would date anyone I guess. Well, as long as I find the attractive. Race, gender, orientation, whatever. It really doesn't matter to me. I find attractive people from all groups. My friend is dating a trans guy and he is soooo cute. I'd date him. I'd also date her though and she is a bi woman. We bull crap all the time about it. So I think that's call pansexual? I'm not sure. I guess If someone is attractive to me I just don't care about "what" they are. If they make me feel good and laugh and whatever then yeah, we can date. A lot of stuff going on in my transition lately and I like it 

Ashlee ?

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Looks like you enjoy exploring all your available options.  You have many more now.  I think this is a good thing.  I'm very happy for you and all the positive things you are experiencing now with your transition.  You've sure come along way, Ashlee.

 

Susan R?

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My fiance is pansexual. I consider myself a gay man.  He says for him being pan means it's the person not their gender that matters to him.  I hope that helps.

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1 hour ago, Jordy said:

My fiance is pansexual. I consider myself a gay man.  He says for him being pan means it's the person not their gender that matters to him.  I hope that helps.

Yes that is how I feel. It's really the person. Me, a friend of mine and a cis male coworker were discussing sexuality. He had so many questions. Im trans female and my friend is a bi female. Well, she thought she was bi. She found out she is pansexual tonight. She just got out of a relationship with an gay female but before that has 2 children with her ex. The cis guy asked if she would date me. She replied "of course", wich made me feel good. He told her I wasn't either tho, a boy or a girl. She said I was a girl. She also said she doesn't care what a person has downstairs only how the make her feel and laugh. I explained, thats "that's pan" open to anyone. He still doesn't quite understand but is very curious another girlfriend I work with has a boyfriend who is a trans guy. She stepped in and said she would date me also. He said he wouldn't date me because I hat a penus but would it I didn't. Lol. We laughed said and I'm still the same girl with or without it. I am so blessed and fortunate to have my awesome friends. Crazy how this tiny town has a lot of LGBTQ+ people in it. I have found so many people here that already had me identified as trans and approached me to just hang out or talk if I needed. 

 

20 hours ago, Susan R said:

Looks like you enjoy exploring all your available options.  You have many more now.  I think this is a good thing.  I'm very happy for you and all the positive things you are experiencing now with your transition.  You've sure come along way, Ashlee.

 

Susan R?

I am definitely exploring all options. I guess the way I feel is to treat others as I want to be treated or accept others the way I want to be. I'm very attracted to cute guys, always have been but openly accept it now, and also attracted to girls. A person's genitalia would never be a deal breaker for me. I don't care about that. I'm so thankful for my friends and this forum for guidance and support. Also my family. They(mostly) rock. I've socially changed my name which was easy because my last name is actually Ashley so I just switched my names around. I've been called Ashlee all my life so I just stuck with it. I'm scared if what tomorrow holds but at the same time and the first time in my life excited to see what tomorrow has in store. All tomorrows. 

Ashlee ❤️

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I'm having issues with that right now. I always have been attracted to women and so considered myself Lesbian. I'm MtF just FYI. Then as I found that I liked both genders I then modified it to be Lesbian pan. Now it changed to Lesbian Bi. I'm not sure who I would have sex with. I'm still leaning toward Lesbian though.

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Moi, there are no one way to be if you are uncertain.  Take life as it comes and eventually things will sort themselves out.  Have fun, be safe and see what happens.

 

Cheers, Jani

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Hey Ash yeah I kinda of having issues as well. Mostly because I guess I am older but I can't seem to find anyone I am attractive too. I super attractive to wm, but I date guys. However, all the mn I dating have all turn out to b A.holes...and I was never confident in myself to ask out a wm ..So I don't know..Wish I was more like you.....congrats..Be Proud, Stay Safe and Kick Ass 

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I like to relax when possible and let things find their level, pretty much as Jani is saying. These terms bi. lesbian, gay etc float about all over but my opinion is to forget about them and follow your feelings. I find it hard enough to understand a partners take on things without trying to use a label myself. For example, recently I did wonder how I can be feeling an intermate relationship with a man is not gay but heterosexual when I am physically male too? To me it's not gay but to him it likely would be?  In this I think the termenology could easily destroy the relationship even if the attraction is there. It gets too deep! :hairpull:

 

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i've been out of the dating scene for some time now.  I'm not in a rush to start again but i was to i have no idea where it would lead.  I guess i'd follow Jani's advice.

8 hours ago, Jani said:

 Take life as it comes

 

Hugs,

 

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