Waiting on my birth certificate

[RithiaAllen]

So I mailed all my documentation along with the form and money order to California about a week ago. I am waiting with bated breath for my birth certificate with my name and the female gender marker on it so I don’t have to worry about the bigotry for things like the DMV anymore.

 

It said it can take up to four or five weeks so I sit here waiting and waiting. Please let it go through ok.

[Raven1981]

1 hour ago, RithiaAllen said:

So I mailed all my documentation along with the form and money order to California about a week ago. I am waiting with bated breath for my birth certificate with my name and the female gender marker on it so I don’t have to worry about the bigotry for things like the DMV anymore.

 

It said it can take up to four or five weeks so I sit here waiting and waiting. Please let it go through ok.

 

Congrats Rithia.  Have done the same thing with CA

[RithiaAllen]

You got your birth certificate completed already. Did they give you any hassle? How long did it take?

[Raven1981]

I mailed my VS24 form with all my doctors notes and BC to California earlier this week and I am in the same waiting.  I mailed it in with the tracking to I can track the letter to make sure it gets to the place and I saw that it was received.  So waiting on the processing. 

[RithiaAllen]

Oh ok. ? I guess we will both find out soon enough.

[Kirsten]

You really have issues at the dmv? When I went and got my real ID the girl was so nice and so helpful. She loved me. When I went back last week for the title on my wife’s car it was more of the same. People at places like that are so very nice here in mass. It’s hard for me to know what it’s like in these other places. So sorrry you have to deal with that stuff. Come to mass!! We ❤️ Lbgtq+ here. Other than at chic fil a. Those people are a lot of things I’m not allowed to say here. It’s the only place I’ve had issues so far. It makes me nervous about vaca to South Carolina in May. It’ll be my first taste of bigotry possibly. Hope not but idk. 

[RithiaAllen]

Just now, Kirsten said:

You really have issues at the dmv? When I went and got my real ID the girl was so nice and so helpful. She loved me. When I went back last week for the title on my wife’s car it was more of the same. People at places like that are so very nice here in mass. It’s hard for me to know what it’s like in these other places. So sorrry you have to deal with that stuff. Come to mass!! We ❤️ Lbgtq+ here. Other than at chic fil a. Those people are a lot of things I’m not allowed to say here. It’s the only place I’ve had issues so far. It makes me nervous about vaca to South Carolina in May. It’ll be my first taste of bigotry possibly. Hope not but idk. 

In Virginia I had an issue with a clerk. She was dealt with by their management but she purposely misgendered me very loudly.

 

 I’m in Texas now. I get the impression that yes they would probably put a M on my ID. Once I have the birth certificate then I shouldn’t have a problem.

[Kirsten]

It’s so stupid. Eff them!  Only scummy people are like that. 

[Raven1981]

AZ is also very friendly when it comes to LGBTQ+  I have never had any issues in PHX.

[jo jo]

in the uk you cant change your birth certificate but you can legally change your name and other documentation via deed poll

[Kirsten]

Although I changed my BC, I think that’s how it should kind of be Jojo. It’s a record of birth. When I was born that’s who I was. Being able to just change a 40 year old permanent record doesn’t seem completely right to me. I know that’s not a well liked thought. But honestly I cried when mine was changed from sadness. It’s one thing I truly wish I hadn’t done. 

[RithiaAllen]

Just now, Kirsten said:

Although I changed my BC, I think that’s how it should kind of be Jojo. It’s a record of birth. When I was born that’s who I was. Being able to just change a 40 year old permanent record doesn’t seem completely right to me. I know that’s not a well liked thought. But honestly I cried when mine was changed from sadness. It’s one thing I truly wish I hadn’t done. 

I disagree.

 

Primarily because you people use it to discriminate. Once it’s updated I look the part, sound the part, smell the part, and I’ll have my paperwork all complete. I like that I won’t have to put myself anymore for any reason outside of when I choose to.

[Kirsten]

I know you do. Most trans people do. Idk. Guess I’m sentimental. It’s not a record of gender. It’s a record of sex. And I get that many people want to forget their past. But I don’t. I embrace my past. It’s made me the strong woman I am today. Without it, good and most of the bad (some I wish didn’t happen), I wouldn’t be me. Idk. Like I said sentimental I guess. ??‍♀️

[RithiaAllen]

Just now, Kirsten said:

I know you do. Most trans people do. Idk. Guess I’m sentimental. It’s not a record of gender. It’s a record of sex. And I get that many people want to forget their past. But I don’t. I embrace my past. It’s made me the strong woman I am today. Without it, good and most of the bad (some I wish didn’t happen), I wouldn’t be me. Idk. Like I said sentimental I guess. ??‍♀️

It’s not that. It’s a level of protection from the current political environment. California will through code seal the original. It’s still there but for all intents and purposes the new one is the record and shows no indication it isn’t and outside of needing to know it can’t be reopened under law.

 

I lost a job and had a heck of a time getting a job because of that piece of paper. I should have done this a long time ago.

[Kirsten]

I should add the caveat that I don’t have any discrimination to deal with here when it comes to anything that’s important or serious. Like records, doctors, dmv, work, etc.... Basically anything that would require seeing my birth cert wouldn’t matter if it says m or f,  so I’m sure that affects my POV as well. Not trying to upset anyone is my point.