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Matty

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So I recently cut my hair and came out to all my friends. I stopped wearing makeup too. Had my former bf freak the -expletive- out about my identity. He keeps guilt tripping me to stay female. He also said I'll never reach my goals. Makes me feel guilty and depressed for being who i am. I deserve to be happy right guys? On the other hand, got a date with a new nice girl. She seems chill as -expletive-. A few former friends also threatened me and abandoned me. So for all who's been here before. What would you recommend? I plan on transitioning. I'm planning to find a gender therapist as soon i get insurance so I can start the testosterone. I like the new me, its way more comfortable and im happier but I struggle with how people are treating me. Thanks all here for being supportive. 

 

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Hi! First of all, it’s your life, and you deserve to be YOU. Continue to do what makes you feel good on the inside and out. Surround yourself with real friends and people that you want around you. Look into LGBT centers, they have support grounds and people that can help advocate for what you might need. They will have councilors and therapists that could help you with your transition. Find areas that are friendly, and stay strong. Best of luck in your journey. 

 

Peace and Success, Ellora

 

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Doing fine there sir!!  Here and in the Trans community near where you live, you have more than enough friends to replace those who fall by the wayside or go into outer-space over the changes they see happening.  Some people have the mistaken idea that they own us and control our lives which is far from the truth  .

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Just now, VickySGV said:

Doing fine there sir!!  Here and in the Trans community near where you live, you have more than enough friends to replace those who fall by the wayside or go into outer-space over the changes they see happening.  Some people have the mistaken idea that they own us and control our lives which is far from the truth  .

 

 

thanks vickY! I feel more manly and certainly more handsome lol. Feel like a 12 year old boy haha. I'm down to make friends here too. thanks guys for being so cool.

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Matty you look great.  As Vicky says don't worry about losing (non)friends.  You will find new ones soon enough.  And they will accept you as you are.  Lose that BF.  

 

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Looking good Matty!  The most important thing is feeling comfortable with yourself so if you're happy with who you are, then don't listen to any of those idiots who might try and bring you down.

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