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are there any other balding M-F out there. What do i do? dont want to wear a wig for the rest of my life


Lexi C

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I am balding. I tried to let my hair grow out but I still have a big bald spot in the back of my head. Plus my hair is turning grey and I look like an old Ebenezer Scrooge. I don't want to wear a wig for the rest of my life. I would like to go to beach ..go to the pool wearing my two piece not my three piece. anyone have any suggestions or ideas. thank you alex 

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Time to see a doctor and get them on board with your gender issues and forward motion ideas.  Testosterone blockers will result in some hair re-growth but it will take a year or  two.  There are also hair transplants to be had and some Trans women have good results.  You do not need a full wig for your problem, there are wiglets called top pieces, and I used one with good results before my E kicked in big time.  There are also hair extensions and what are called "weaves" that anchor wefts of hair and string the weft or two or three over the spot.  In other words there are a wide variety of ways to do it without a full wig.  As for color, my gray has taken a red color mix that my hair stylist mixes up every 5 weeks and slathers on my head.  Even with a now full head of hair, I  still use my wigs and hair pieces to have fun with. 

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I’m having a similar issue but it’s only the beginning stages so maybe it’s not for everyone, but I have read a lot about it and sometimes it’s exacerbated by deficiencies in our diet. I found out that zinc and biotin are two things that can help but there’s a lot more to it. I don’t have the link but there’s a really good article about it that you can find on google search. 

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13 minutes ago, VickySGV said:
8 minutes ago, Josie Beth said:
14 minutes ago, VickySGV said:

Time to see a doctor and get them on board with your gender issues and forward motion ideas.  Testosterone blockers will result in some hair re-growth but it will take a year or  two.  There are also hair transplants to be had and some Trans women have good results.  You do not need a full wig for your problem, there are wiglets called top pieces, and I used one with good results before my E kicked in big time.  There are also hair extensions and what are called "weaves" that anchor wefts of hair and string the weft or two or three over the spot.  In other words there are a wide variety of ways to do it without a full wig.  As for color, my gray has taken a red color mix that my hair stylist mixes up every 5 weeks and slathers on my head.  Even with a now full head of hair, I  still use my wigs and hair pieces to have fun with. 

I’m having a similar issue but it’s only the beginning stages so maybe it’s not for everyone, but I have read a lot about it and sometimes it’s exacerbated by deficiencies in our diet. I found out that zinc and biotin are two things that can help but there’s a lot more to it. I don’t have the link but there’s a really good article about it that you can find on google search. 

Time to see a doctor and get them on board with your gender issues and forward motion ideas.  Testosterone blockers will result in some hair re-growth but it will take a year or  two.  There are also hair transplants to be had and some Trans women have good results.  You do not need a full wig for your problem, there are wiglets called top pieces, and I used one with good results before my E kicked in big time.  There are also hair extensions and what are called "weaves" that anchor wefts of hair and string the weft or two or three over the spot.  In other words there are a wide variety of ways to do it without a full wig.  As for color, my gray has taken a red color mix that my hair stylist mixes up every 5 weeks and slathers on my head.  Even with a now full head of hair, I  still use my wigs and hair pieces to have fun with. 

8 minutes ago, Josie Beth said:

I’m having a similar issue but it’s only the beginning stages so maybe it’s not for everyone, but I have read a lot about it and sometimes it’s exacerbated by deficiencies in our diet. I found out that zinc and biotin are two things that can help but there’s a lot more to it. I don’t have the link but there’s a really good article about it that you can find on google search. 

 

Hey take so you both have should beautiful hair. I wish the where a way to save this info. so I don't forget it. Be beautiful, Be proud and stay strong.. 

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Just now, Alex C said:

so you both have should beautiful hair.

Hmmmm!  I need to change that avatar, it is a wig and it is 15 years ago!!!  LOL.  My own hair is the only straight thing about me but it is the red color. . 

 

To save this, copy the page and paste in in a word processing program.

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This is a major concern of mine too, that particular horse left the stable long ago - realistically I know there are plenty of cis women who have no hair too for one reason or another and either work the shaved head look or rely on wigs full time, but it is a sticking point for me balancing blending and my idea of self authenticity (though I don't have an issue with glasses for eyesight correction, go figure) so it will be something I discuss when I finally start to talk to someone from the UK gender clinic later this year.

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Hair is rough. I was nearly 100% bald on top pre transition. I have regrown a really good amount of hair now with rogaine, finestaride, biotin, and very healthy living. But it’s not even close to being full enough that I can wear my hair down and look half normal. The hair that has regrown is about 1/2 baby fine light hairs and 1/2 normal hair. But the follicles are still stressed and they grow much slower than the rest of my hair. I am still hoping for more regrowth and I think I’ll get more, but it’ll probably still be pretty thin vs the rest of my hair. And eventually after surgeries, I want to save for a transplant. But that’s very limited too. But every little bit helps. At times now with a tinted dry shampoo, a strategically placed pony tail, and a bit of hair spray I can make myself look almost not bald. It’s at least enough for me at the moment. 

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If by chance you can't find any success in feeling comfortable with your own hair i have found that it is quite possible to live comfortably with a wig.  For me it has become a lot like wearing a hat except that i look 15 years younger and almost cute at times.  Not the end of the world.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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I am completely bald on top.  No way I can go without a wig.  But I haven’t figured out how to manage the pool or the beach except don’t get wet.  Anybody got ant hints for that?

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I have found with my hair that it grows very super slowly cause my hair is naturally curly.  So as my hair grows, it is growing in curls, so it is taking longer to even grow.  I started out completely shaved head and then let it grow.  Then I got mad at my hair cause it was growing slow and curly and I shaved it off, so I had to restart all over again.  I take Biotin and finestaride and I use a sulfrate free shampoo and conditioner that is enriched with biotin and I also eat very healthy now and make sure that I dont have stress in my life cause stress can have some effect on hair growth and also I use a hair mask to make sure my hair can hold in the moister and get my hair back being soft.

 

I have heard different hair growth from various different people and realize it just comes down to the individual.  I have heard that you have a crome dom spot on your head then hair wont grow there, but if there is some hair then hair will grow back there.  I have heard of a body builder being 100% bald and in 2 years they have a full set of hair growth.  So I figured it is based on the individual and how well you care for your hair and take care of it.

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I would be careful with minoxidil because I was using it for my widows peak and it ended up getting on the back of my neck and I started getting unwanted growth. If I ever use it again it’s probably going to be the foam and women’s version. I’m not trying to increase my future hair removal bill. 

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15 hours ago, Willow said:

But I haven’t figured out how to manage the pool or the beach except don’t get wet.

 

Not really for the hair loss, but my daughters both used swim caps regularly for swimming and beach.  They still make cute ones that are very female looking.  Mine went to the beach with one of them recently and has not come back. 

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16 hours ago, Josie Beth said:

I would be careful with minoxidil because I was using it for my widows peak and it ended up getting on the back of my neck and I started getting unwanted growth. If I ever use it again it’s probably going to be the foam and women’s version. I’m not trying to increase my future hair removal bill. 

The women’s is the exact same stuff as the men’s. Just different packaging. And 2x the cost. It does have a slightly better smell, but is a slightly better smell really worth double the cost? Be sure to get the 5% and not the 3%. Kirkland has it on amazon and it’s 60 dollars for a years supply of the liquid. It’s 140 for the foam. 

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5 hours ago, VickySGV said:

Mine went to the beach with one of them recently and has not come back. 

That is so cute Vicky.  I remember the caps my mom wore. At times as a child one was the equivalent of a wig today.  I'd put on my mom's cap and feel it was just right for me.  One issue today might be in taking the cap off and removing too much.  It takes practice to even get a motorcycle helmet off "gracefully".

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Vicky ad Charlize, thanks for the suggestions.  I guess I'll look for some type of swim cap.

 

Willow

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