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Kaltia_Atlas

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Hi, I'm new to the site and hope I'm not going back to an old topic that has been covered... But I am a 27 year old male who has never really felt complete in my body. I have lived my life wishing and dreaming I could one day see what it's like to feel like a woman. 

Fast forward to the most recent months and I have a family of my own and a beautiful wife and her family that supports and understands how I am and what I want. So now I'm "quietly" trying to find ways to look and feel more feminine. One of my major issues is "tucking". 

I have a rather large genital area and cannot physically move it to the rear in any way, nor can I find the "cavity/canal" that so many talk about pushing the testicles into. And all of my support are CIS women who have no idea. 

 

So to my point, is there a way to get the compression and coverage for males that want to look more feminine without tucking backwards? I found a company called LeoLines that has a seemingly fantastic line of underwear for this matter, but they are a bit expensive. 

 

So to sum everything up, I need to hide my huge junk and get that flatter front look without going toward the back. 

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If you are still at the point where you are becoming sexually aroused when trying to tuck, it is going to be nearly impossible to do it without a lot of patience until you calm things down and become limp then it is easy.  Google or use you health care system's encyclopedia for Inguinal Canal for a picture of where yours are as far as where to coax your testicles up (one on each side)  this will not work if you have an inguinal hernia though.

 

The best idea for you for a while is going to be simply getting used to dressing etc without thinking of tucking.  Good solution at first is to wear clothing that is not figure hugging and is loose in the genital areas. Full skirts feel and look great for that. A regular jock strap can help in the early stages to keep you contained. After a while it will lose its erotic effects and you can get by with a support panty to smooth things out a bit.

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On 6/22/2019 at 11:18 PM, Atlas516 said:

 

I have a rather large genital area and cannot physically move it to the rear in any way, nor can I find the "cavity/canal" that so many talk about pushing the testicles into. And all of my support are CIS women who have no idea. 

 

 

Hello,

Its kind of a nice problem to have, but I can understand the frustration.  I know some well endowed girls that have no problem.  In fact, I think it might work better if there is more to be tucked.  There is more to hold it in place.

Even though, I'm average endowed, it took me a while to figure it out.  You really should be able to tuck it to the back.   

As Vicky said, you're going to have to make sure you're limp or it's going to hurt like the dickens, and you might actually break something.

There are also plenty of videos online.  I would have search for a good one.

However, with some practice and guidance, you really should be able to make it work.  

Laura

 

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So I have spent some time watching videos and doing more research since this post and have possibly found the canal.... But not being limp makes it rather difficult to do more that that. I will work with it more and hopefully one day I will have the completely flat front I am looking for!!! Thanks Laura and Vicky for your support and information!

 

Also, check out LeoLines on ETSY. Chris makes some fantastic panties for both trans women and men! And their reviews are top notch!!

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53 minutes ago, Atlas516 said:

I will work with it more

 

That may not be the best thing to do, depending on how you meant that..   Get dressed, forget about it and have fun.  Then the panties will work.

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When I say I will work with it more, I was referring to the hardness issue. I can't seem to get limp enough to actually tuck. I did find the canal, but still have not been able to move the shaft backwards. That's what I need to work on.

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I have a few pairs of Leo Lines undies. Overall they are well made and smooth things out some. You will never be cis smooth. Being absolutely flaccid is important to tuck well. Try it immediately after going to the bathroom, as that tends to calm things down. Also seeing this as a clothing thing and not a sexual thing helps the mindset. I've tucked most days for the last 2+ years; it gets easier. 

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On 6/28/2019 at 10:45 AM, Atlas516 said:

When I say I will work with it more, I was referring to the hardness issue. I can't seem to get limp enough to actually tuck. I did find the canal, but still have not been able to move the shaft backwards. That's what I need to work on.

Maybe if you thought of something not exciting, filing your taxes, getting a tooth pulled, reciting the entire Beowulf poem in old English....

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On ‎7‎/‎1‎/‎2019 at 1:47 PM, lauraincolumbia said:

Maybe if you thought of something not exciting, filing your taxes, getting a tooth pulled, reciting the entire Beowulf poem in old English....

Ha ha, right, take the attention off Richard Richardson. Gilligan's Island Mr. Howle.

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On 6/28/2019 at 3:45 PM, Atlas516 said:

When I say I will work with it more, I was referring to the hardness issue. I can't seem to get limp enough to actually tuck. I did find the canal, but still have not been able to move the shaft backwards. That's what I need to work on.

 I wear a pair of cotton panties initially, pulling these up snugly, then add a pair of tights (or pantyhose for our US readers) and then a pair of firm control pantie girdle. I may need to adjust the position initially but moving on to do something to take my mind off "things", soon gets  it calmed down and any bulges soon disappear. Use of something like a Playtex 18 hour girdle certainly keeps every thing under control.

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I have the opposite issue.  I’m quite small and short down there.  Tucking is near impossible for me.  I recently tried a tucking device that loops around the shaft and hooks to a string belt of sorts After pulling the loop back n up between the cheeks  I find it pulls my skin so tight that the skin on my penis feels like it may rip.  
I push my stuff in and wear tight undies.  Though I hate gaffs as they do not move well with you and does not stay where it should.  

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1 hour ago, Nivegnal said:

 I recently tried a tucking device that loops around the shaft and hooks to a string belt of sorts

 

OMG, I tried one of those. The literature says, "You'll get used to it." I certainly hope not. Ow. Ow. Ow. It seems like a good idea but ... nope.

 

I get pretty good results with tummy-control cotton panties. The tummy control band helps keep everything tight. If I'm going for REALLY flat, I'll add a pair of tight thong gaffe panties but since I've been on hormones, there's been no real need. Spontaneous visits from the hormone monster just don't happen so my regular panties and tight jeans do the trick.

 

Use powder or something though. I don't "let it all hang out" very often, so I use some fine body powder to keep things from chafing and giving me a rash.

 

Hugs!

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I am happy and lucky to say that I am not very big down there ,and as i'm in my 60's its highly inactive , nothing really going on , so I can tuck easily and comfortably just using pantyhose and knickers and corselette , in fact I prefer it because I can cross my legs comfortably .

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Years ago I bought a gaff and found it really didn't hide any bulge in that area.

I'm not much on thongs and the gaff was rather uncomfortable in that way.

I find a tight pair of panties holds my junk out of the way after I push the Ts up in their place.

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We find that (we're kinda new to tucking since we're DID and not "trans" per se- but several of us ARE girls in a boy body- like me, this is why I'm here) a smaller swimsuit bottom helps a lot. Spandex is a bit "thicker" and more resistant to "loosening" than panties are (any undies, tight when first put on get "looser" as they get worn and warmed and stretched in our experience). A slightly too small (but not dangerously or too uncomfortably) 2pc bottom or like Cheerleaders' bloomers as panties or over panties help TONS to keep things in place and DON'T loosen or "let go" like panties can/will after a while. They are designed, of course, to REMAIN TIGHT for hours on end to preserve modesty. ;)

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