Job stress

[Tariane90]

I just need to vent. I feel back into a corner. Just started a new job where I thought I'd be comfortable and feel extremely out of place among my co workers, most are trans so I thought it would be a good fit but everyday I have my doubts and it sucks because I have much on my plate as it is and I feel alone in dealing with it all I don't know what to do. I'm stressed everyone's about gossip and nonsense here it seems with no real regard for hard and understanding of others situations. It's seems like a regrettable situation that I wish I'd thought twice about it only I'd known all the details however people have a way of pretending that works and that's hope I got sucked in.  I wish there were more decent people in this world, because in most cases that's what it comes down to.

[Jani]

I'm sorry to read things aren't as you expected.  But try not to worry about this.  As to all the things in front of you, try to prioritize and take them one at a time.  Don't let them overwhelm you.  You also don't have to participate or even listen to others gossip.  It seems there is never a good point to it.  Remember that transgender people are just like everyone else in many ways, with our good and bad sides.  

 

As to being alone dealing with everything, you have a few things going.  You have us here to talk to and vent if you want.  You might consider a support group.  The one's I used to attend we're really formatted well to help those who needed a bit of support and encouragement.  Lastly you might look into an appointment with a gender therapist.  I was reluctant at first but found it to be a wonderful experience.  

 

It's ok to vent.  We're here listening.

 

Hugs, Jani

[Josie Beth]

That’s unfortunately the nature of the beast. It would be great to be able to say that a transgender friendly workplace is without drama but our culture can get very catty at times. There’s no telling what the true motives are behind everything but there’s other pressures in the typical work environment that add some cutthroat competition into the mix usually. Jealousy is bound to happen. People get uneasy around the new person. It’s like they’re afraid that if you succeed they will look bad and then they will have a negative light put on their own work. So they turn to underhanded methods to make the new person uncomfortable or even quit. I too had a similar experience as a manager and eventually the same people I had spats with became my closest allies. What made me decide to eventually leave was another issue entirely. I didn’t feel backed into a corner until that issue became unbearable and I had to leave or cause myself more problems. It’s something to take into consideration. It’s not easy to find decent employment opportunities. Yes I’m much happier now that I left the place but I’m also struggling to find decent stable work. I still get worn down and irritable but it’s less frequent because I have control over my sleep schedule more often than before. So with that in mind, do think about your options before you decide to leave and try to prepare for whatever decision you have to make to be happy. Just realize what that decision will mean in the future. There’s always a cause and effect to the things we decide to do. This place is always a great place to vent and get some feedback from people who might have a different perspective. Thanks for sharing. You’re not alone.

[Tariane90]

Thank you for the feedback!

[SaraAW]

Sorry to hear things aren’t going as planned. I agree with Jani, there are lots of options out there if you know where to look. 

 

I use my GT regularly to work on general coping skills. I am not out at work, creating some stress, but I can tell you that even if I was cis, my job would still be insanely stressful. My therapist has provided me with great tools to self-manage my stress around this and she is also just awesome at being a listener and letting me unburden. 

 

Remember, you’re never alone with a site like this and it’s amazing members. 

 

*hugs*

[AnnaD]

also, the chat room we have on here might be a good option to keep in mind, but yeah i'd agree with Jani, we're all here, and support groups are a very good idea

[Kris-Boston]

When you start a new job or transfer to a new location it can take some people time to get friendly . Some people never are , some you wish you never worked with . Find a connection, could be a tv show , a band or a favorite place to travel . I find that a lot of more youthful co-workers  don't even like talking its texting or instant message .  

[Lexi C]

Hey T-90...Things will always get worse until they don't. I used to work at social club and this made guy  would say that me when every stuff happen...It took me for  every to understand but when I did..it real help me out...So think about:  " Things will always get worse until they don't"..

Message me if you want  when you got, the light blub will click...Be Proud, Stay safe and Kick Ass..