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Health care is a personal choice. The patient is the customer. If one is 18 and legally competent, informed consent should be the one and only care model for both HRT and surgery.

 

Why WPATH is supported by anyone in the transgender community is beyond me. That’s an outdated care model, written by cis gender elitists who have no clue whatsoever with transgender issues. 

 

It’s time to claim our issue and our healthcare rather than being the subject of institutionalized gate keeping.

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Just now, Nebulous said:

Why WPATH is supported by anyone in the transgender community is beyond me. That’s an outdated care model, written by cis gender elitists who have no clue whatsoever with transgender issues. 

After watching this 2 hour medical conference lecture recently held by Dr. William Powers, I have to agree with you completely.  New research, new studies are changing the face of this entire TG paradigm.  It may be one of two accepted standards right now but that's about to change very soon.  This is the best and most current information I've been given on the subject and I can follow right along with most of it even though it is a bit technical in some parts.  Well worth the watch IMHO.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fefu33e8O-0

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I think another issue may be that there are doctors and clinicians that are seeing transgender patients for the first time and this will give them something to learn from.  That said, I've read that transgender health (to some degree) is being taught in some medical schools now.  While I see a doctor at an LGBT health center for HRT (informed consent), my primary is full on with me but admitted he knew nothing about transgender health or patients when I started.  My BIL is a doctor and he's asked numerous questions as well.   I still think there is a place for it but as a guideline not strict roadmap.

 

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OK, have you thoroughly read the Standards Of Care V7 completely to see what they have opened up from 6 to 7?    Version 8 is being considered even now and is about ready for adoption. (A friend would like me to go with them to their next convention and is willing to buy me associate membership.  I was at their 2010 convention where SOC 7 was adopted.) 

 

What does V7 say about Conversion Therapy?  Laws banning Conversion Therapy for us have used V7 as a scientific reference wherever that type of law has been adopted. 

 

WPATH has probably seen and its members have peer reviewed over 150 research papers submitted to it each year, so the stuff cited by many detractors actually came through them.

 

WPATH members are also members of the major APA's and are on the boards of the WHO who recently made some good findings for European Trans people.

 

I can go on with other points as well, but where the work needs to be done is on the Health Insurance and hospital and physician malpractice liability insurance companies.  That is one of the most heavy roadblocking sources even for doctors and hospitals where surgery can be performed.  Most are using the SOC 6 for their contracts.  Just a bit more complicated than often comes out.  Have fun with your protests, but be safe and learn what you are doing.

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1 hour ago, Nebulous said:

Health care is a personal choice. The patient is the customer. If one is 18 and legally competent, informed consent should be the one and only care model for both HRT and surgery.

 

 

While i agree if you 18 you should be able to choose. I do not agree that the choice you make would be the correct one. Thats why wpath is there to ensure you are making the right one.  If you do not make this desion correctly then the concequences are dramatic and irreversable.

 

This is what the standards are for. Its a checklist to ensure this is right for you.

 

It would be also your choice to have a frontal labotomy because you have a headache. is this the model you would like?

 

Where does this choice end?

 

Ill cut my nose off to spite my face?

 

You need gatekeepers. Self identity is just a road to anachy when it comes to being transgendered. Yes its not the best but its at least its a pause point to ensure you are making the right desion. Its not a case of how old you are. Its a case of it being correct for you.

 

So many storys of people that have had all the surgerys then relised it wasnt the right one.

 

 

1 hour ago, Nebulous said:

Why WPATH is supported by anyone in the transgender community is beyond me. That’s an outdated care model, written by cis gender elitists who have no clue whatsoever with transgender issues.

 

 

Its surported because it stops the transtrenders and those who are not really trans but want to be fashionable. Who in a few years will just turn to the next trend. and make a mistake they cannot be released from

It stops those who are not making the right desion.

It also stops those who want to have the title with little or no effort. I have read storys of those who have made no effort whatsoever and can call themselves female with the flick of a pen. Then expect to be accepted without question to female oreintated places.

Im very sorry but if im in the ladies bathroom and someone walks in with a full beard. They would be politly informed they are in the wrong room. Even if they are swearing they are a woman because thats how they feel today.

You earn that right to use the relavent bathroom to your portrayed gender it isnt just given when you wake up in the morning feeling like a woman today.

With all respect. being transsexual transgender whatever you want to use is not just  words. Its a way of life. A dramatic way of life completly diffrent to your past life. it isnt just a land of milk and honey. Its almost a term of indearment and should be given some sort of gatekeeping.

 

Dont even get me started on overdosed on hormones. Just another risk of it being open to all. They are not sweets. Because they can destroy aswell as create. No standards then expect them to be avaliable at the local pharamcy. Take as many as you like and to hell with the concequences.

 

I would like to believe the gender elistists as you call them. Would have some sort of clue on gender issues and not just any doctor from anytown with there standards written on a beer mat on a friday night in the bar.

 

 

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The World Professional Association for Transgender Health promotes the highest standards of health care for individuals through the articulation of Standards of Care (SOC) for the Health of Transsexual, Transgender, and Gender Nonconforming People. The SOC are based on the best available science and expert professional consensus.

The overall goal of the SOC is to provide clinical guidance for health professionals to assist
transsexual, transgender, and gender nonconforming people with safe and effective pathways to achieving lasting personal comfort with their gendered selves, in order to maximize their overall health, psychological well-being, and self-fulfillment.

 

There it is. To promote. Not to law over. If it wasnt for this guide then good luck with that as no doctor or gender specialist would have a clue. You would just get past from pillar to post. perhaps back to shock therapy to cure this mental disorder you would be percieved to have.

 

It may not be perfect but its better than nothing.

 

1 hour ago, Nebulous said:

It’s time to claim our issue and our healthcare rather than being the subject of institutionalized gate keeping.

 

I hope not. If anyone could just claim it then what a truly scary world this would be.

 

 

 

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!The Standards of CareVERSION !World Professional Association for Transgender HealthIPurpose and Use of the Standards of CareThe World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH)I is an international, multidisciplinary, professional association whose mission is to promote evidence-based care, education, research, advocacy, public policy, and respect in transsexual and transgender health. The vision of WPATH is a world wherein transsexual, transgender, and gender-nonconforming people benefit from access to evidence-based health care, social services, justice, and equality.

 

this is page 1 standards of care. Evidence based is the key here.  Show us your transgender and we will give you the tools you need to live your life to the fullist.

 

If you do have gender dysphoria then you will have no problem. So you wouldnt as i said early "Cut your nose off to spite your face"

 

I do honestly invite you to give us some evidence of how the standards do not work. We will listen to this and not just a statement. How did you come to this conclusion?

 

I willl agree its not perfect but its better than none at all.

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1 hour ago, Maid In Bedlam said:

 

While i agree if you 18 you should be able to choose. I do not agree that the choice you make would be the correct one. Thats why wpath is there to ensure you are making the right one.  If you do not make this desion correctly then the concequences are dramatic and irreversable.

 

This is what the standards are for. Its a checklist to ensure this is right for you.

 

It would be also your choice to have a frontal labotomy because you have a headache. is this the model you would like?

 

Where does this choice end?

 

Ill cut my nose off to spite my face?

 

You need gatekeepers. Self identity is just a road to anachy when it comes to being transgendered. Yes its not the best but its at least its a pause point to ensure you are making the right desion. Its not a case of how old you are. Its a case of it being correct for you.

 

So many storys of people that have had all the surgerys then relised it wasnt the right one.

 

 

 

 

Its surported because it stops the transtrenders and those who are not really trans but want to be fashionable. Who in a few years will just turn to the next trend. and make a mistake they cannot be released from

It stops those who are not making the right desion.

It also stops those who want to have the title with little or no effort. I have read storys of those who have made no effort whatsoever and can call themselves female with the flick of a pen. Then expect to be accepted without question to female oreintated places.

Im very sorry but if im in the ladies bathroom and someone walks in with a full beard. They would be politly informed they are in the wrong room. Even if they are swearing they are a woman because thats how they feel today.

You earn that right to use the relavent bathroom to your portrayed gender it isnt just given when you wake up in the morning feeling like a woman today.

With all respect. being transsexual transgender whatever you want to use is not just  words. Its a way of life. A dramatic way of life completly diffrent to your past life. it isnt just a land of milk and honey. Its almost a term of indearment and should be given some sort of gatekeeping.

 

Dont even get me started on overdosed on hormones. Just another risk of it being open to all. They are not sweets. Because they can destroy aswell as create. No standards then expect them to be avaliable at the local pharamcy. Take as many as you like and to hell with the concequences.

 

I would like to believe the gender elistists as you call them. Would have some sort of clue on gender issues and not just any doctor from anytown with there standards written on a beer mat on a friday night in the bar.

 

 

 

There it is. To promote. Not to law over. If it wasnt for this guide then good luck with that as no doctor or gender specialist would have a clue. You would just get past from pillar to post. perhaps back to shock therapy to cure this mental disorder you would be percieved to have.

 

It may not be perfect but its better than nothing.

 

 

I hope not. If anyone could just claim it then what a truly scary world this would be.

 

 

 

 

this is page 1 standards of care. Evidence based is the key here.  Show us your transgender and we will give you the tools you need to live your life to the fullist.

 

If you do have gender dysphoria then you will have no problem. So you wouldnt as i said early "Cut your nose off to spite your face"

 

I do honestly invite you to give us some evidence of how the standards do not work. We will listen to this and not just a statement. How did you come to this conclusion?

 

I willl agree its not perfect but its better than none at all.

 

 

I hope this response is a joke^^^

 

The bottom line is if you’re an adult your health is your health. If you believe you need your hand held, fine. That doesn’t mean the rest of us aren’t capable of making our own decisions.

 

WPATH was written by cis gendered who have no real understanding of what we go through.

 

Again, just because you want to be told what’s best for you, doesn’t mean I should be bound by the same nanny state rules.

 

 

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2 hours ago, MaryMary said:

I would not be in favor of abolishing it but I'm certainly in favor of improving it.

 

 

WPATH is like a government program. The only way to improve it is to DESTROY it.

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44 minutes ago, Nebulous said:

WPATH was written by cis gendered who have no real understanding of what we go through.

 

Not true at all.  Considering the table partners I had at the Convention where SOC 7 was ratified in 2010 and people I spoke to there youo are just plain wrong.  Many researchers that contribute to the studies that are considered in forming the SOC's are Trans or Enby. Friends of mine who are psychologists working on the problems of Trans youth  are fully transitioned Trans folk themselves.  My own surgeon who is a Trans Woman is a member of it and contributes to their discussions of changes in the SOC.  One of the ways people get into the field of Transgender care is by being Trans and trying to find out about themselves.  I only have a BA in Behavioral Science but my experience at the Convention was sought and listened to.  I attend professional conferences several times a year where once again my presence and status are honored and ideas and positions re thought or outright changed.  . 

 

I gave you the real direction that things need to take above and you seem to have not seen them or given them any regard.  OK, so they do not give you what you want when you want it and they have used the SOC 7 as a reason and so destruction of the whole is your only solution based on your haste to get something that may well kill you. . 

 

1 hour ago, Nebulous said:

WPATH is like a government program. The only way to improve it is to DESTROY it.

 

Again not at all true, it is an organization that has brought order and hope to the Trans and NB community over its half century existence beginning with the Harry Benjamin Society for Transgender Health and research and without WPATH's status  you will be finding that NB people as you claim to be have fewer medical choices for our lives.  Without WPATH and several other organizations the medical care you are seeking will dry up.  You mention destruction of government but if our government had its choices we would not even get an aspirin tablet to help us. 

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26 minutes ago, MaryMary said:

You are aware that they are on version 7 and going on version 8? We will have to agree to disagree here. I think it's a good thing and especially after talking to someone who knows what she's talking about like VickySGV. Besides, even if my therapist have been less then ideal I choose to view them as ally and help and not gatekeeper. My story would not be as happy as it is if it was not for other transgender woman who helped me and my healthcare professionals.

 

Guidelines are one thing- I think they’re good to have when used as ...guidelines . The issue I have is when they’re treated as rules and thus leads to gate keeping which is the case with WPATH.

 

 

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Just now, Nebulous said:

gate keeping which is the case with WPATH.

 

Not true again.  It is in the hands of the individual health care providers and their local medical communities, and as I said before, their malpractice insurance companies.  WPATH has no legal power over any entity.

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Just now, VickySGV said:

 

Not true at all.  Considering the table partners I had at the Convention where SOC 7 was ratified in 2010 and people I spoke to there youo are just plain wrong.  Many researchers that contribute to the studies that are considered in forming the SOC's are Trans or Enby. Friends of mine who are psychologists working on the problems of Trans youth  are fully transitioned Trans folk themselves.  My own surgeon who is a Trans Woman is a member of it and contributes to their discussions of changes in the SOC.  One of the ways people get into the field of Transgender care is by being Trans and trying to find out about themselves.  I only have a BA in Behavioral Science but my experience at the Convention was sought and listened to.  I attend professional conferences several times a year where once again my presence and status are honored and ideas and positions re thought or outright changed.  . 

 

I gave you the real direction that things need to take above and you seem to have not seen them or given them any regard.  OK, so they do not give you what you want when you want it and they have used the SOC 7 as a reason and so destruction of the whole is your only solution based on your haste to get something that may well kill you. . 

 

 

Again not at all true, it is an organization that has brought order and hope to the Trans and NB community over its half century existence beginning with the Harry Benjamin Society for Transgender Health and research and without WPATH's status  you will be finding that NB people as you claim to be have fewer medical choices for our lives.  Without WPATH and several other organizations the medical care you are seeking will dry up.  You mention destruction of government but if our government had its choices we would not even get an aspirin tablet to help us. 

 

if one has done their research and has had all the risks and benefits spelled out, they should be free to live with their decision.

Many of us don’t need or want to talk to a therapist who may or may not truly understand our issues. 

 

 

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Just now, VickySGV said:

 

Not true again.  It is in the hands of the individual health care providers and their local medical communities, and as I said before, their malpractice insurance companies.  WPATH has no legal power over any entity.

 

Medical malpractice insurance is another reason we need to get government out of health care.

 

WPATH is largely fear based, a byproduct of government involvement 

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1 hour ago, Nebulous said:

WPATH was written by cis gendered who have no real understanding of what we go through.

I'm sorry dear but this is quite wrong.  i know several trans folks who are very involved as doctors in the review and use of WPATH.

I personally have no problem with any of the "barriers" good medical care may have to someone's rush to transition.

It is a scientific based approach whose only fear is that the best, safest care is provided.

As you mentioned we are all able as adults to care for ourselves.  Hopefully that allows for a respect for those who spend their lives working with and studying this journey.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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43 minutes ago, Nebulous said:

Medical malpractice insurance is another reason we need to get government out of health care.

 

There's an adjunct issue here that hasn't yet been considered in this thread.  First, I'll qualify the above: malpractice insurance is wholly separate from any government involvement in health care.  As litigious as people are, particularly where their health is concerned, it's just a cost of doing business for the entire medical profession.

 

That said, it does have an extremely large bearing on the treatment of trans patients for good reason.  Akin to dysphoria is a condition called dysmorphia.  The last statistic I read said it occurs in about as many people as does dysphoria, but it's not a condition that can (or should) be treated medically.  It's not specifically focused on sex and gender characteristics, for one thing; it can manifest with regard to just about any physical feature.  This is the underlying condition behind people who want, for no clear reason, to be amputees.  A news article about a woman who blinded herself went viral not long ago; that's another example.  

 

The trouble is that it can manifest as a desire to have different - or, in some very rare cases, no - sex attributes.  Those cases often masquerade as gender dysphoria, particularly in patients with co-morbid Borderline Personality Disorder.  The existence and validation of gender dysphoria can contribute to people with dysmorphia thinking they'll be happy if a doctor alters their sex characteristics in some way, when in fact such a physical change would be disastrous; even hormone therapy tends to make things worse.

 

There's also the matter of the small percentage of gender dysphoric people who, while legitimately identifying and possibly presenting as a gender other than they were assigned at birth, don't realize that surgery isn't the right step for them until it's too late.  I've had the gut-wrenching experience of talking with several of those people after their surgeries were complete.  Those in the medical profession are absolutely right to look for some kind of solid professional confirmation that surgery is the right treatment option.  

 

If a doctor were to prescribe hormones or surgically alter the body of anyone I've described in this post, there is a very real chance a court would consider it to be malpractice.  Because of that, the insurance companies have a vested interest in minimizing their risk.  That letter from therapists is one of the ways they do this.

 

Ideally, yes, it would be easy to spot gender dysphoria and be confident that the medical transition the patient requests is the right way to go.  There are just too many confounding factors that have to be ruled out before that can happen, though.  This is unfortunate for those who do need to go through with medical transition, but one can hardly blame any involved party for wanting to be as certain as they possibly can before they make a permanent, life-altering change for someone.

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1 hour ago, Nebulous said:

Medical malpractice insurance is another reason we need to get government out of health care.

 

So, all of our legal history needs to be re-written?   Interesting!  Do you even understand the connection between the two?  From that statement it appears you do not understand the way that works.  Government does provide some regulation of the insurance carriers as to prices they can charge, and what coverage they must provide for markets within certain jurisdictions.  Government also provides the court systems and does have laws as to the rights of the parties in a lawsuit.  Malpractice insurance covers judgments and keeps the loser from being forever chased out of the medical profession if the doctor loses.  The insurance companies bet the patient will lose.  Actually it makes it easier for you  to get medical care at a price you can afford.  Imagine paying $10 thousand or $11 THOUSAND for a single doctor visit so the doctor can self insure against legal judgments, or imagine that if a doctor negligently injures you that you have no way to get him to correct the injury and make you whole again because there are no courts.  That is what it seems you mean here.   Your reasoning is a bit confused here and while I will write it off to your not having gotten a good education in the U.S. and Common Law I hope it is for that reason and not other impairment.

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3 hours ago, VickySGV said:

 

So, all of our legal history needs to be re-written?   Interesting!  Do you even understand the connection between the two?  From that statement it appears you do not understand the way that works.  Government does provide some regulation of the insurance carriers as to prices they can charge, and what coverage they must provide for markets within certain jurisdictions.  Government also provides the court systems and does have laws as to the rights of the parties in a lawsuit.  Malpractice insurance covers judgments and keeps the loser from being forever chased out of the medical profession if the doctor loses.  The insurance companies bet the patient will lose.  Actually it makes it easier for you  to get medical care at a price you can afford.  Imagine paying $10 thousand or $11 THOUSAND for a single doctor visit so the doctor can self insure against legal judgments, or imagine that if a doctor negligently injures you that you have no way to get him to correct the injury and make you whole again because there are no courts.  That is what it seems you mean here.   Your reasoning is a bit confused here and while I will write it off to your not having gotten a good education in the U.S. and Common Law I hope it is for that reason and not other impairment.

 

 

Medical malpractice insurance exists because of a government that promotes the litigious culture we’re in.

 

WPATH exists due to the regulatory environment that is created by the medical profession and government regulation.

 

 

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6 hours ago, Charlize said:

I'm sorry dear but this is quite wrong.  i know several trans folks who are very involved as doctors in the review and use of WPATH.

I personally have no problem with any of the "barriers" good medical care may have to someone's rush to transition.

It is a scientific based approach whose only fear is that the best, safest care is provided.

As you mentioned we are all able as adults to care for ourselves.  Hopefully that allows for a respect for those who spend their lives working with and studying this journey.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

 

If that’s the case, why does WPATH contain outdated guidelines like the need for therapy letters for HRT?

 

A standard question that therapist like to ask is- Have you played with dolls as a kid?

 

If you believe the decision to allow care should be based on such outdated and ignorant questions, that explains your belief that we shouldn’t be in control of our  own healthcare .

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I don't know the actual stats but I do know that many who have gone the "informed consent" route have later regretted their decision and have transitioned back to their original gender.  I would much rather counsel with a therapist and be absolutely sure before making such a life altering decision. As out dated as WPATH is, it is a much better policy to follow than to do it on your own.

 

MaryEllen

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Just now, MaryEllen said:

I don't know the actual stats but I do know that many who have gone the "informed consent" route have later regretted their decision and have transitioned back to their original gender.  I would much rather counsel with a therapist and be absolutely sure before making such a life altering decision. As out dated as WPATH is, it is a much better policy to follow than to do it on your own.

 

MaryEllen

 

 

Counsel is all well and good- But that should be up to the individual. 

 

Gate keeping is not a prevention of bad choices

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I didn’t set a good tone in a few of my responses to the responses and this has devolved into an argument I didn’t intend.

 

I therefore ask that this thread be deleted and that we move on.

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I’m personally grateful for informed consent but will not negate the value of a therapist who can help work through issues that HRT is not going to address fully. I’m not entirely in agreement that those who go through the informed consent route are prone to detransitioning. What seems to be more common is they are caught up in pressure from hostile mentors or peers and who take advantage of their vulnerability and they bend to that pressure. I can think of two examples off hand where that’s definitely the case and they don’t look happy at all with detransitioning. They seem to be parroting the negativity directed at them by people who didn’t respect their identity and they have no way to get away from it. Usually because they are completely dependent on these people financially. So in this type of situation I can definitely see why WPATH is valuable. 

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The discussion in this thread is becoming much too circular, and one element has not been addressed here: that of Individual Professional Judgment on behalf of medical care providers which even in a non-government regulated environment will still exist  Even physicians go to another physician for their own health care and put their lives into the other physician's hands.  Even with informed consent, the decision is still up to the individual therapeutic agent; doctor, chemist/pharmacist, Behavioral Health professional as to whether they will give care on demand of the patient.  Back-alley "providers" such as the ones that use industrial silicone "injections" for a variety of body modifications are available but the harm done is phenomenal and often deadly.  In the recent past this site has rejected information on "do it yourself" castration and our rules on the discussion of medication dosages and specific protocols is not going to change since there are even those of us on the staff here that have had full medical supervision have had adverse effects from our medications. 

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      DON’T ADD JUDGEMENT TO YOUR FEELINGS by Olga Lacroix | Anxiety relief, Happiness, Mindfulness I’m sitting here drinking my favorite coffee, and as I enjoy this moment I cannot wait to share with you the thoughts that are in my head.  Recently, I have talked about how circumstances don’t determine your future. And somewhere along the line, I wanted to explore a little bit more about our thought process. How we discourage ourselves so often from our goals and from the things that we want, because we have beliefs that go against what we want. In this episode, I want to talk about how it’s important for us to learn not to judge our feelings. Aside from being a Life Coach, I’m also a Certified Mindfulness Instructor. And non-judgement is one of the learnings that I enjoy understanding, applying, and teaching. WHY BEING JUDGEMENTAL IS HARMFUL Sometimes it’s so difficult to be non-judgmental, especially if it’s coming from a bad experience or emotions. For example, a client of mine just had a pregnancy loss and a part of her coping mechanism is to hate or be indifferent to people who have babies.  It’s her way of processing the grief and protecting herself from anger and sadness. And recently someone close to her had a baby. She wanted to feel excited for that person but somehow her bad experience was holding her back. Like her, a lot of people cope this way. Some people try to hide their feelings and emotions just because they’ve already judged them as maybe improper or inappropriate emotions. And what happens is, those emotions stay inside them longer, they don’t get to process their emotions, and it becomes more painful. HOW NOT TO BE JUDGEMENTAL When we judge our feelings as bad, our natural response is to avoid it. We go through crazy lengths just to avoid the feeling, but by avoiding it we’re actually growing it. So what do we do? Do not judge the emotion, allow yourself to feel the negative emotions. Don’t mask it, instead embrace it.  DON’T IDENTIFY WITH YOUR EMOTIONS For someone like me who experienced Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD, a common side effect is anxiety. I have learned that the more I try to repel the anxious thoughts, the stronger they feel in my body, and the longer they stay. But when I’m courageous enough, and I say to the feeling, I’m not gonna judge you for existing, you’re just a feeling. I tell myself something neutral. There is anxiety, not I am anxious. Separate yourself from the feeling. The feeling is not you and it’s just temporary. FINDING THE BALANCE Now when the feeling is good and positive, we jump into attachment, wanting that feeling to linger longer and even forever. But according to Buddha, that’s when the suffering begins, when you want to make something last forever, and when you’re not ready to understand and accept the impermanence of emotions. Find the balance in your emotions. Learn to separate yourself from the emotion. Feel the emotions whether they’re good or bad, but don’t dwell in it. It’s an emotion that we need to feel, process, and eventually let go. Through this, we will achieve a healthier mind. STEPS TO FREE YOURSELF FROM JUDGEMENT The first step is awareness. Being aware of the emotion and how you have judged it. This step will allow you to think of the next step to free yourself from judgement. Step two is processing your emotion in neutrality. Go to a quiet place, close your eyes, and meditate. Bring all of your senses, all of your awareness to the feeling. Give it attention and wait for it to dissipate.  The last step is to pay attention to the lesson. Become curious and think about what this emotion is teaching you, what wisdom can you take from it. Be an observer of your emotions. You need to react, you need to fix them, change them, modify them, you just need to notice them. And then you need to open the space, let them be felt. These are moments of growth, these are moments of transformation. And most importantly, these are moments where we allow the emotion to be processed. Reset Your Mindset is opening in January of 2022. A program that helps you with making decisions, set clear boundaries without drama or guilt. Stop the hamster wheel that keeps you in overthinking mode, switching off the mean inner voice and switching on confidence and compassion instead. Reset your mindset and discover your true self. Click here to know more! Bonus: I’m also giving participants lifetime access to Detox The Mind online course. A course that emphasizes on helping you create new neurological connections so that you have a happier mind and healthier habits. See you inside!
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    • April Marie
      Welcome to the forums, Felix!! It sounds like you keep yourself very busy and have some wonderful musical talent. My wife enjoys playing the ukulele, too.   There are lots of veterans here - not sure if any were Marines, though.   The forum is filled with lots of information, links and amazing people. Jump in where you feel comfortable.
    • Roach
      I just want to mention, where I live there are tons of cis guys your height or shorter. Among them is my dad and one of my professors (who are well over 17 y/o lol), and I honestly don't think twice about it. Every time I go to the grocery store I see at least 4 different guys around that height too. I don't think your height will be an issue towards passing long-term. (Well, maybe it's different in your region, but just wanted to throw in my 2 cents.)   I can relate to the hands thing though. If I ever hold something in front of the camera to take a photo of it, I feel like I have to crop my hands out so they don't "out" me. (I admit that that's silly.)  
    • Roach
      I noticed something like this too once I socially transitioned. I am so accustomed to people referring to me as a guy and using the right name, that socially I feel fine most of the time. This just makes me more aware of how physically uncomfortable I get sometimes.
    • KymmieL
      I have wondered how basic training is for transgender recruits?   Kymmie 
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Some of them are us.  I view while logged out sometimes.  But I also know that so much of this forum is public.  I really wish more areas were "members only."  I'm aware that stuff I post here is publicly viewable, so I never post last names, first names of other people, pictures, or give my location.  I tend to think my husband and GF would be displeased at the few things I do post here.... and they may be right.   Our times are pretty uncertain, and it seems to be "fox hunting season" out there. 
    • VickySGV
      Welcome to the Forums Felix, enjoy yourself, but please get the homework done!!
    • VickySGV
      On May 4, the Trans Chorus Of Los Angeles did a whole 90 minutes of music that was all written by Trans composers and all of our singers and musicians were Trans / NB.  Several of the pieces were actually written by our chorus members.  (I was running a $3,500 set of video cameras on the show and am editing the the massive gigabytes they put out today. We had several guest artists either on stage or who contributed material.  One of the artists was Wrabel who wrote the song The Village which he has dedicated to the Trans Community and describes a young Trans child and the problems they had in their village.  The other MAJOR Trans Artist was Jennifer Leitham, a Bass Viol and Bass Guitar player who as a young man played with the Big Bands of the 60's and 70's in her male self into Transition, and wrote an autobiographical song entitled Manhood which tells of her love of the men she played with in the bands but her not really fitting as a man. Jennifer has played with the Chorus before and is always good music fun to have around.  Two of our members collaborated on a music and poetry piece simply entitled "I'll - - " which brought some tears with a promise to Trans Young People with the whole chorus shouting "I'll be there for you, I will be there for you" said for Trans Kids.  (We actually had a few Trans kids in the audience to hear it.)  My video editing program has about 40 minutes to go producing the main body of the edited video which has the actual song clips in the right order.  Next to put in the Title slides and the credits.  The stuff I get myself into.   The concert took place at the Renberg Theater which is part of the Los Angeles LGB Center in Hollywood.   
    • FelixThePickleMan
      Hi, I'm Felix a little trans guy from a small town. My pronouns are he/they and I enjoy music and all wildlife, I doodle on all my homework assignments. I really don't know what to say but, my favourite animal is a cow, my favourite musical genre is country, I play electric bass & acoustic guitar as well as the ukulele a little bit of piano and drums (hand drums and drum sets). I like things of all sorts and I like food, a lot. My favourite meal is French fries and a good steak. My Personal Record for dead-lifting is 310 lbs and I like to sprint and play basketball. My mum's a "bit" overbearing but what can you do. I love reading Manga, I'm currently reading Assassination Classroom, I also enjoy reading Stephen King. I plan on joining the Marines after high school and become a k-9 handler.  I think that's all. For now :) 
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      I didn't use makeup even in my girl form.  And certainly not now in my boy form.  I don't even like sunscreen...it just feels greasy.  I've always disliked putting stuff on myself.  Partly because of the physical feeling, and partly because I don't want to pretend to anybody.    My partners are mostly the same...makeup isn't really a thing for our faith.  But my GF and husband have one particular vanity - covering up gray hair.  IDK if I will feel differently when I start getting some of my own, eventually.
    • Jet McCartney
      I'm ftm but I still wear makeup on occasion to cover up my rosacea. Just primer and sunscreen usually. Sometimes I'll fill in my eyebrows too
    • DonkeySocks
      I think some of "them" are just us. If I log out, I might come in and putter around the forums for a minute before I commit to logging in and reading or participating. That probably shows as a guest visit.
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