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I love this place! It's because people here are real, they are emphatic and they are forgiving. I had forgotten that I had posted here previously under another pseudonym, one of the moderators noticed it and brought it to my attention, it was a blank spot in my memory from the moment when I decided to quit transitioning and returned to my former self. What I hadn't considered is that this internal drive never goes away and ultimately we have to come to terms with it. The moderators here know that and are wise enough to understand it and are considerate enough  to make concessions for our own forgetfulness and faults. I am most thankful for that and love them all for it.

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12 hours ago, NB Adult said:

What I hadn't considered is that this internal drive never goes away and ultimately we have to come to terms with it

This is one of the major reasons i went full time.  During therapy i saw how my gender issues had been part of me from before puberty and then throughout life.  I was going to die with this secret but am grateful that folks here gave me the vision to see i could live my reality in the world.  I am grateful that i am able to help pass that vision on to others.

 

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Charlize

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Unfortunately the "need" never does go away.  I love this site as well.  Like many, long after I have completely integrated my feminine life I stay for the community.  

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You're right. It's very relaxing to talk to a supportive group of people who know what you're going through and can offer you tips about how to make things a little easier. Dysphoria is hard to live with and society doesn't make transitioning easy... though there are apparently difficulty levels based on where you live. I've been lucky. Not everybody has and my heart goes out to them. Anything you can do to ease another's suffering, right?

 

Hugs!

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4 hours ago, Charlize said:

I was going to die with this secret but am grateful that folks here gave me the vision to see i could live my reality in the world.

This is the single most important reason I finally went forward with my transition.  I didn't want to take it to the grave.  The idea of my wife and family never knowing the true me was horrifying.  After my younger brother's death a year or so ago, I realized life was too short and it was now or never.  Like Charlize pointed out, I found hope, understanding, and so many others like myself here to help me make it a reality.

 

Susan R?

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1 hour ago, Susan R said:

This is the single most important reason I finally went forward with my transition.  I didn't want to take it to the grave.  The idea of my wife and family never knowing the true me was horrifying.  After my younger brother's death a year or so ago, I realized life was too short and it was now or never.  Like Charlize pointed out, I found hope, understanding, and so many others like myself here to help me make it a reality.

 

Susan R?

(((Hugs))) My younger brother went nuts on chemo and committed suicide a few years ago too. it broke my heart, I loved him dearly.

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48 minutes ago, NB Adult said:

(((Hugs))) My younger brother went nuts on chemo and committed suicide a few years ago too. it broke my heart, I loved him dearly.

I am so sorry for your loss.  My heart goes out to you this morning.  Our memories of our brothers will have to carry us along.  I'm thankful I had the time I was given with him.  It still hurts inside when I think about him.

 

Warmest Condolences,

Susan R?

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