Now I'm screwed.

[SabrinaMcG]

I was hoping that my first post on here would be upbeat, but last night was disappointing.  I am trying to save money to get FFS and implants. I work third shift and up until last night my manager let me put up a donation bin at night so customers could donate. I also have a FB donation, but it hasn't done much. Word came down that I couldn't put up the donation bin anymore. There is no way I can save much money in a reasonable amount of time. This hit me harder than it should but I just feel lost. I have friends telling me we will figure it out and I appreciate them, but I am the one who has to look in the mirror every day. I just needed to rant. Thank you.

[Charlize]

Glad you have joined us but sorry you have had a setback.  If it helps, many of the folks here have been through similar difficulties.  I have certainly experienced difficulties but with time i've found a path and peace with myself and the world.  

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Carolyn Marie]

Welcome to Trans Pulse, Sabrina.  I am sorry that you have had a disappointment with fundraising.  You may have to just accept that things won't happen as fast as you would like them to.  That isn't much consolation, I know.  Any surgery is very expensive without insurance, but very few companies will cover FFS.  Sometimes patience is required while you save and think things through.  Perhaps prioritizing would help.  I would think FFS would be more important than implants for most folks.

 

Anyway, we're her to offer whatever advice or solace you need.  There are folks here who have gone through FFS and can offer some practical advice.  In the meantime, please tell us more about yourself if you like.  It's not required, but it helps us understand your situation better.

 

(((HUGS)))

 

Carolyn Marie

[Jackie C.]

6 hours ago, SabrinaMcG said:

I was hoping that my first post on here would be upbeat, but last night was disappointing.  I am trying to save money to get FFS and implants. I work third shift and up until last night my manager let me put up a donation bin at night so customers could donate. I also have a FB donation, but it hasn't done much. Word came down that I couldn't put up the donation bin anymore. There is no way I can save much money in a reasonable amount of time. This hit me harder than it should but I just feel lost. I have friends telling me we will figure it out and I appreciate them, but I am the one who has to look in the mirror every day. I just needed to rant. Thank you.

 

Oh sweetie, you've got some time yet. You don't really know how your breasts are going to come out yet or what hormones are going to do to your profile. That said, I understand COMPLETELY how you feel. There was a rough patch where it didn't look like I'd be able to get my bottom surgery. When I learned the news, I cried so hard no sound came out. It's hard. The first thing you should do is have a good cry. That makes it easier to deal with after.

 

Then next thing you need is a plan. Implants won't happen for another two years. Get used to that. It can take the breasts that long to finish growing. You don't want to put implants under expanding breast tissue. Breasts are also easier to fake (Hey, cis women do it every day), so I'm going to assume that you're looking at FFS first.

 

So you can't finance it yourself. You still have some options. GoFundMe is a crapshoot, but if you write a good story it might take off. What does it cost you to try? Secondly, there are grants available for us to help fund our surgery. Again, there's a lot of us and not so much grant money, but your chances of getting a grant are zero if you don't apply.

 

Have a plan. If you really want this, work out a way to make it happen. Maybe you tighten your belt a little. I cancelled every entertainment subscription I could (there were some things my wife refused to do without) to free up money, started walking more places, got rid of things I don't really need. What have you got that you could sell? Could you take a part-time job? These are all suggestions obviously, I don't know your circumstance, but nothing worthwhile comes without a little sacrifice. I'm not saying it wouldn't be NICE if we could just get corrective surgery and move on, but that's not how it is in the USA.

 

I have every confidence that you'll make it. We're all pulling for you.

 

Hugs!