The next stage?

[Belle]

I realized today I have hit a milestone (or I am really close). I am no longer questioning if this struggle is real.

 

Now the next stage is figuring out exactly what I am and then what I need to become whole.

 

Belle ❤️

 

[VickySGV]

54 minutes ago, Belle said:

what I need to become whole.

 

I think if you work on that part of the question,

 

54 minutes ago, Belle said:

figuring out exactly what I am

 

is actually pretty simple to get to.  Try that order to the things and you may find that it does not matter exactly what you are other than simply a YOU!!

[Belle]

1 hour ago, VickySGV said:

 

I think if you work on that part of the question,

 

 

is actually pretty simple to get to.  Try that order to the things and you may find that it does not matter exactly what you are other than simply a YOU!!

Oh, that makes perfect sense. Thank you Vicky!

[ShawnaLeigh]

1 hour ago, Belle said:

I realized today I have hit a milestone (or I am really close). I am no longer questioning if this struggle is real.

 

Now the next stage is figuring out exactly what I am and then what I need to become whole.

 

Belle ❤️

 

We are here for you!  I am for sure.

 

[Charlize]

You is certainly all we need.  Don't worry too much about pinning down what that is.  I have found i am very much a work in progress and all i can hope for is peace and acceptance of the changes as they come.  Being open and honest with others is perhaps what helps more than anything.  Perhaps that is one reason while time here, with others who understand without judgement, has helped me grow in self acceptance.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Belle]

 

On 12/19/2019 at 12:44 PM, VickySGV said:

On 12/19/2019 at 12:28 PM, Belle said:

what I need to become whole

 

I think if you work on that part of the question, 

 

On 12/19/2019 at 12:28 PM, Belle said:

figuring out exactly what I am

 

is actually pretty simple to get to.  Try that order to the things and you may find that it does not matter exactly what you are other than simply a YOU!!

 

On 12/19/2019 at 2:23 PM, Charlize said:

You is certainly all we need.  Don't worry too much about pinning down what that is. 

 

This is starting to sink in. This evening my wife and I ended up at the mall. We were holding hands as we walked, and I was expressing myself with a feminine stride.

 

All my life I have felt threatened by "manly men" and worried one would take my significant other away from me. But this time I was feeling very secure in my wife's love for me. That made it easier to be myself.

 

She didn't notice my walk, but I told her about it once we got back to the car. She was fine with it and said "I don't care how you walk. I love you."

 

My point is that I am starting to understand that my anatomy is only one piece of the picture. And I realize I need to slow down on the permanent changes and focus first on the less permanent. And who knows, by the time I get to anatomy part (assuming I ever get there), maybe she will have warmed to the idea ?

 

Belle ❤️

 

[TommieAnne]

10 hours ago, Belle said:

 

 

 

This is starting to sink in. This evening my wife and I ended up at the mall. We were holding hands as we walked, and I was expressing myself with a feminine stride.

 

All my life I have felt threatened by "manly men" and worried one would take my significant other away from me. But this time I was feeling very secure in my wife's love for me. That made it easier to be myself.

 

She didn't notice my walk, but I told her about it once we got back to the car. She was fine with it and said "I don't care how you walk. I love you."

 

My point is that I am starting to understand that my anatomy is only one piece of the picture. And I realize I need to slow down on the permanent changes and focus first on the less permanent. And who knows, by the time I get to anatomy part (assuming I ever get there), maybe she will have warmed to the idea ?

 

Belle ❤️

 

Belle, I'm very happy that you've gotten through that rough patch!

It sounds as if she may actually come through this, which will certainly make life better for you. As you make your way through this, time and patience will work wonders.

Just finding your "you" and being her is the best gift you could receive, I believe.

TA