How to stop my dysphoria

[I_dont_know_my_name]

I have understood recently that I am transgender, this takes a lot to admit. I haven't come out to anyone yet

 

I am wondering how to go about changing my look I want to get rid of my chest because its sticks out so much and I hat it so much and I know there are these things called binders but I looked online an they were like 30 quid I don't have this kind of money atm and I won't for a while, it's sad to admit my family is on the poorer side and I don't know if I'm ready to tell my mom. I also know that it's bad to not wear one and to instead wear bandages because it can cause damage. Im cutting my hair at the weekend and I've never been more excited. I would just like some advice on the issues raised and what else to to make me feel more like a man because it is something I want

 

Sorry I wrote this rushed so it's all over the place I hope it's OK for you to understand. 

[A. Dillon]

If you really need a binder, there are programs that distribute them for free, but it can take up to a year. If you think that you will still be in need of one by then, I would suggest that as a first go to.

[Firenze]

There are sites that offer free binders for youth who cannot afford one. 

 

A few are:

-FTM Essentials Youth Binder Program:  (US Addresses only)

https://www.ftmessentials.com/pages/ftme-free-youth-binder-program

 

-Point Of Pride:

https://pointofpride.org/chest-binder-donations/

To name a few.

 

A few other things you can do is buy/use men's deodorant, body wash, and/or shampoo. 

[TTheta]

Keep us updated on your journey I would love to hear more and possibly even give advice when needed/wanted

 

you do you brother :)) 

[I_dont_know_my_name]

Thank you all for your kind messages I have applied for a binder this evening and just feel so happy which I haven't for a very long time so thank you. 

[A. Dillon]

No problem, happy to be of any assistance :))

 

Although, you should know that nothing is a quick fix when it comes to dysphoria. You can get to a place that you never could have dreamed of just a little while ago, but still deal with it on the daily. That doesn't invalidate you, it shows that you are really trying and that you just have to keep going. What really gets better though is your own self acceptance, even if you can't see yourself reflected in the mirror you can at least recognize it as you. We will be here along the way, the most important thing when you struggle is to reach out, not to hide. 

[TrIIIy]

If you have top dysphoria and can’t use a binder yet, you might still be able to just wear baggy hoodies and the like. They can give the appearance of a flatter chest. Any boxy kind of clothing, including pants/shorts can help with disphoria. Many times you can find good stuff at second-hand or thrift stores.

 

If you have bottom dysphoria, you could try making a packer (prosthetic penis) with   A simple rolled up sock. This is the go-to method for a lot of trans guys just starting out.

 

Getting a short haircut that you like can also help tremendously. Look around on the internet for photos of men’s hair cuts and find one or two that you like. That way, you can show or tell your hair stylist exactly what you want.

 

Good luck!

[ShawnaLeigh]

Sadly getting rid of dysphoria is a long process but doesn’t have to be a hell to deal with all the time.  The others had super ideas and basically they are saying do things and wear things that make you feel more you.  More masculine.  
Ok so what.  Your Family is not rich.  Hardly anyone’s is that I know.  You do whatcha gotta do to get by.  Man up and be tough.  It’s what you want to be right?   I remember playing those roles while trying to hide so I’m not giving you crap.  It is hard but you learn to be that way over time.  Be patient with your self and your situation.  There is no shame in it at all.  
In the end you have to be the one who takes the reins on your journey.  No one is going to do it for you.  They may help but it’s up to you to be you.  
You’ve got this mister!