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What you refer to you're body as.


Moira Arista

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I recently went to a therapy session and my therapist and I were talking about my body.  I told her that not only do I not look down at my genitalia but I do not refer to "IT" as a penis. I told her that I refer to it as my external urethra. She said that one of the questions she usually asks her patients at some point is what they call their Penises or Vaginas for our Trans Male friends. I hate it, and even hate the name we as a species gave it. So I do not posses a Penis but a external urethra and external bio illogical genetic organs (AKA as Testicles)

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I really don’t focus on “it” or even refer to “it” much but if I talk to my wife in a general sense, I use genitals or crotch.  I never use the word penis (I don’t like the word either) and it’s too early in the game for me to refer to anything there as vagina.

 

Susan R?

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Its just my "stuff". 

ok "penis" actually sounds strange

Shenis is good. 

Unsure if I honestly hate mine.  I don't want to hate or despise something that I was given that might even be used in a GCS reboot.

Just somehow not really wired for the role as originally assembled.

 

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I have very confused feelings. The word tends to make me cringe, and I don't use it or any other similar term. It's not something which comes up in conversation so seldom an issue.

 

Tracy

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Yep I’ve used external urethra too.  It’s all I use it for now is to pee.   Lol

Im hoping to not worry about the other two troublemakers for much longer.  
The source of all my evil and 30+ years of child support.  
Yeah those lol buggers have to go.   

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I have been watching Stef Sanjati on YouTube a lot lately and she refers to herself as a chick with a d**k. And until she had THE surgery, that's how she saw herself. And I cannot deny that the way she put it made sense to me. Before that I just despised it and hated even using it. Now I always sit like a lady to pee and live as a lady *internally* until I can show/pass as one *externally*

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I don't talk about it a lot, so there is no need for me to have a special name for it.  If I have to refer to it, I call it a penis, because that's the word for it.  I'll be happy when I no longer have to see it in the mirror when I step out of the shower.

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7 hours ago, ToniTone said:

I call it shenis.

 

:) that was a giggle this morning :)

 

I refer to my body as female (thankfully). 

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Shenis is certainly worth a giggle.  I'm stuck with that bit and i must admit it helps one stay tidy and dry when working on a farm.  Fortunately it no longer yells at me.  I'm able to ignore it's presence and while i might choose further surgery that is not an option for me due to a heart issue.

I'll just apply shenis now.  Being hermaphroditic is ok with me.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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I'm glad I got a giggle out of some of ya. It (the term) is both meant to make light of the situation (which has been another name for it, lol), and also me sincerely just owning it. Like many of you stated, I also don't really spend much time looking at or thinking about it. 

 

I've decided I don't want gcs. I have too much hair down there, and some slight urinary issues that I worry would be compounded by a major change in my physiology. I'm not really that dysphoric about that bit. It's the other bits that bother me. I'm eager to get an orchidectomy. Is that a strange disconnect? Wanting the orchie but not the full gcs? 

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@ToniTone I don't believe that's strange at all. But just to point out from my own research, and please someone correct me if I'm wrong, but one part of gcs is hair removal from the area to prevent infection and other health hazards later on. Though I don't know about your other concern, a doctor would be the one to ask about that. 

By no means am I saying you should go full gcs. That is very special for each individual and if they choose to follow the full process or not follow any at all, it makes them no less woman for us, or man for others. It is entirely up to you and your comfort level.

 

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Maybe it's because of the 5 minutes I spent as a pre-med student in college (not literally 5 minutes but you get my point), but I'm fortunate to have a sort of clinical detachment on this topic. I look forward to the day I don't have to deal with the penis and testicles, they've always felt like foreign attachments, something that was grafted on to me against my will, but the words don't bother me at all. I can certainly understand why some would have an issue, though. 

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I just call my penis for what it is.  I wish it wasn't, it is a penis, and I have no issues with calling it that.  However, I learned that the "seam" that runs down the scrotum is where proto-labia fused together in the womb - since then, I've taken to referring to that part on my anatomy as "labicles."  It gives me some comfort to know that my corret anatomy is there, just a bit mis-configured.

 

@ToniTone, it's not strange to me.  I have a history of UTIs that make the idea of a shorter urethra somewhat scary to me.  I don't think I want GCS (or any major surgery) at my age.  I just don't heal like I used to.  We all have to find our own comfort zone. 

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When I have to, I use the word "genitals", but it is very rare that I need to refer to them. When I do, it is with doctors and therapists.

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If I have to be professional (doctor's office, etc), I'll just say genitals. Otherwise, I use dick, since I also use a packer the majority of the time anyway. I've never liked the word V____, even before I knew I was trans I never liked the word. 

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I try to avoid all of that, I have been very uncomfortable with the idea of having a "womb" (even typing it makes me cringe) for my entire life. Instead, I say "d*ck to be" or, for my ovaries (again with the cringe), they are "inefficient producers of testosterone". That is why I need T, because just like how people with diabetes need insulin shots, I need to make up for the hormone that I am not producing right. 

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33 minutes ago, A. Dillon said:

That is why I need T, because just like how people with diabetes need insulin shots, I need to make up for the hormone that I am not producing right. 

I like that one. Thank you for saying it! I'm adding it to my list.

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In my former tenure as a male, I heard and have used the term "Johnson." I think it is a male thing that goes back years to the rumors from news reporters who off the record were talking about President Lyndon Johnson's "Johnson".  Allegedly it was rumored to be large and long.

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