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Hi-hi! My name's Jonathan, soon to be changed to Ivy, but I go by Dearhart online.

I've only recently started seeing a gender therapist and acquired the vocabulary I needed to properly express all the feelings I've grown up with but have apparently been presenting myself as gender-nonconforming for quite some time, now. So, there's that. I haven't "really" started transitioning, yet, but I've done a lot of reading and just today realized I won't do as well as I think I can without reaching out to the community. 

 

I feel luckier than some in that my friends and family never reacted with anything more negative than "Yeah, okay. Whatever. Just wait till the commercial break." And I am VERY thankful for that. 

 

I have so many questions (and twice as many worries) that more often than not, I feel like going back to my usual course of action when overwhelmed by just ignoring it and going about my day, but that's the old, unhealthy me.  I'm quite excited about joining the forums here and all the progress towards transitioning that I expect to make in the coming year. So, I'm here now!
 

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Don't kid yourself. There are no words for all the girl emotions. Blame the patriarchy. I do. ?

 

So yeah. Welcome to Transpulse! We're happy to help with whatever questions you might have so nose around, ask questions and join in the conversation! Pleased to meet you.

 

Hugs!

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Welcome Ivy.

My time here certainly has helped me live as and accept myself.

Hope you find the same!

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Welcome Ivy! This forum is a very supportive place with lots of friendly people. Glad you are here with us ?

 

~Toni

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4 hours ago, Dearhart said:

I haven't "really" started transitioning, yet, but I've done a lot of reading and just today realized I won't do as well as I think I can without reaching out to the community. 

 

Waving to you, Ivy!  Good to see another non-binary person join us!  We're all here for each other.

 

Best wishes on the journey ahead,

 

Astrid

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11 hours ago, Dearhart said:

I feel like going back to my usual course of action when overwhelmed by just ignoring it and going about my day, but that's the old, unhealthy me.

It’s a pleasure to meet you, Ivy. You might not think you’ve started your transition but you’ve already worked past a difficult part of your journey.  You recognize that the roller coaster is just going to continue moving along the endless track unless you stop what you’ve been doing and get off.  You’ve taken a few steps in the right direction.  Counseling with a therapist specializing in gender issues was a smart move and joining us here is another great step in the right direction.  You'll meet others to help you gain perspective which in turn will help you sidestep the land mines along the way.  Often you’ll discover something here that you’ll want to discuss with your therapist.  You sound like your in good hands.  Take it slow and enjoy yourself.  I’m glad you're here!

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

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Welcome to TP Ivy!  Yes like the others had mentioned you have found the right place to find answers about yourself and ask as many questions as you can think of.

No judgements here.  Only love acceptance and support.

I like what @Susan R had said about you already well into your journey just recognizing you are on a journey and it seems you already have a good direction. 

Finding and communicating with others in your same boat helps tremendously.

You are definitely not alone.

 

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