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Hello everyone!  My name is Tory Aoi.

I'm a transgender woman, pronouns she/her.

Not out yet so in public I'm quite stealth, but someday in the near future I want to transition.

I'm 44 now, going on 45 in June.

This isn't my first attempt at accepting my identity, but that's a long story for another time.

I'm a musician and I play tuba (perhaps a bit unusual)

I work as a software engineer, always been a technical computer geek.

My favorite color is green. ?

I'm somewhat obsessed with Japanese culture and language.

I'm married and have a very supportive wife that I've been able to come out to and be very open about who I am. ?

 

Nice to meet you all! ?

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Hello, Tory and welcome to Trans Pulse.  It's great to hear that your wife supports you.  That's so important and will make your journey much easier.  Please post questions and comments and let us know how we can help you.  That's what we're here for.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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Hello Tori Aoi

 

 

Im Maid in Bedlam.

 

Im a Woman. My pronouns are Legend/awesome But most of my freinds just use my name

Im stelth also but in a diffrent use of the word i think. I hide behind the sofa and go BOO to anyone walking past

I never reveal my age. First rule of being a woman

I hope you get some help in finding yourself here. Theres plenty to guide you on your quest.

Musically. I sing. But not very well.

Im a kept woman mostly but do work part time in retail.

My fav colour has got to be cerisse

I to love japanese Culture. In fact to go to japan is on my bucket list so for you こんにちは。 はじめまして

I live with a Fella and hes lovely. who also supports me in all the right ways.

 

As you can guess im maybe one of the slightly more eccentric characters here. So welcome to the forum. I hope you enjoy all of the fruits it may bare for you

 

:thumbsup:

 

 

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Hey Tori, why so blue? ?

 

Welcome to the forums. I think you'll find us a supportive and friendly bunch. Feel free to poke around, join the conversation... you know, forum stuff. Happy to have you!

 

Hugs!

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Greetings Tory and welcome to the forum.  I think you'll find a supportive group here to converse with.  It's nice to have an understanding spouse.  Please join in.

 

Cheers, Jani

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Hi and welcome Tori! Glad you're here.

It's a very friendly and caring family here.

TA

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8 hours ago, Tory Aoi said:

Hello everyone!  My name is Tory Aoi.

I'm a transgender woman.

Nice to meet you all!?

Hello Tory Aoi, it’s nice to meet you too. You sound like you’re at a very good place in your journey right now. Having a very supportive wife like you have is such a plus in my experience.  Your journey thus far must have been very interesting. This is a safe place if you ever decide to share more of your story. I’m sure many of us would enjoy reading even more about you if you’re ever open to it. Thanks for joining us here and sharing some of your uniqueness.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

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Arigato Girl Friend. Hang on and enjoy the ride. This place is a great source of Knowledge and support. So come on in...OH..Not a oppose to Green but Forest Green now we're talking.Hugs

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11 hours ago, Maid In Bedlam said:

I to love japanese Culture. In fact to go to japan is on my bucket list so for you こんにちは。 はじめまして

 

はじめまして、よろしくお願いします。

Sounds like we could have much to talk about, that's awesome!  I do recommend visiting.  My wife is from there and we have visited multiple times ourselves, so much so it's practically a second home to me.

 

 

11 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

Hey Tori, why so blue? ?

 

I see what you did there. ?

 

And everyone else, thank you so much for the warm welcome.  Looking forward to telling more of my story.

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Hi Tori Aoi,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf ?

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Please accept my apology for contracting your name so that ended with an "i" instead of the spelling you chose "Tory".

But once again, welcome.

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1 hour ago, TammyAnne said:

Please accept my apology for contracting your name so that ended with an "i" instead of the spelling you chose "Tory".

But once again, welcome.

Ah, it's ok.  I actually didn't notice until you mentioned it, I've been distracted by a lot of other things today. ?

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14 hours ago, Tory Aoi said:

Ah, it's ok.  I actually didn't notice until you mentioned it, I've been distracted by a lot of other things today. ?

Hope your days are wonderful!

《《《 Big Hug 》》》

TA

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Off and on the past week I've been writing up a more detailed accounting of my experience, but even abridged it's somewhat long.  I think I'm almost finished with it, although I wonder if it might be easier to break the story into smaller digestible pieces.

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You could put it in a blog. That way you could keep it whole.

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Hi Tory sorry I am late to the party!

Welcome to the family and enjoy it.  It is the best place to learn and make some friends too.

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18 hours ago, MaryEllen said:

You could put it in a blog. That way you could keep it whole.

 

Ah yes, that's an excellent idea.  Thank you! ?

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