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Plague vacation, and the "end"?


ToniTone

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So plague vacation it is. My store closed yesterday. I have the option of taking one month paid catastrophe leave off, which is an option available anytime during this pandemic. Or l can transfer to a drive thru only store, and take the leave later. 

 

Should I take the leave now, or save it in case this gets worse? 

 

I'm so scared and depressed. The world is never going to be the same. This might be the end. And on a selfish note, I was just starting to get my life back together. Been transitioning almost a year and living for the first time in my life as my authentic self. For once in my life I was content, heck I'd even dare say I was happy. And now the whole world is burning down around me... 

 

How are you all holding up? 

Do you think we'll recover from this?

 

~Toni

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If it  keeps you busy to work the other store. keeping busy is one way to avoid depression's worst parts. 

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1 hour ago, ToniTone said:

Should I take the leave now, or save it in case this gets worse? 

 

I'd go ahead and transfer. This could take more than a month and you don't want to be without income.

 

1 hour ago, ToniTone said:

How are you all holding up? 

 

Bored, but otherwise OK. Thanks for asking! My socializing moved online for the duration. A little sad that I'll be celebrating my birthday Tuesday in the middle of the pandemic, but what can you do?

 

1 hour ago, ToniTone said:

Do you think we'll recover from this?

 

Of course. It's a big deal, but it's not a civilization ending big. There's going to be some changes obviously, but we'll settle into the new normal soon enough.

 

Hugs!

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I've been helping with my town's response to Coronavirus and was told by someone who should know, and I cannot name for obvious reasons, that this will be an ongoing situation for another 12-14 months. I'm now self-isolating, not because I am ill, but because I have underlying health issues and if I catch it, I may well not survive.

 

Having said that, I may already have had it as I was pretty ill (cough, temperature, off my food, almost unheard of, the last) earlier in the year, and came through it okay. SO, if you get the opportunity to work, and work SAFELY without risking your health or the health of others, then take advantage of the income whilst you can.

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As long as you are healthy, transfer to another store.  Why: financially sound and its socially healthy to be in contact with others rather then at home alone.

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This Virus thing has put a complete stopper on my life. Every surgery procedure i was scheduled for has been cancelled. Everything...

 

Even non-intrusive ones like laser hair removal and Carpal Tunnel Release. I a not infected but i know people that are. 

 

We've been on lockdown since Thursday in my county, Riverside. The entire state of California Friday. Hopefully, I'll get paid today so we can get some groceries... The cat has more food than we do lol.

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Hopefully you'll first in line when things return to normal @Michelle F.  Hair removal procedures do involve closeness that isn't recommended so I understand.  I'm not happy about it but...

 

Got to keep your cat fed. 

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My store has shut down completely until further notice.

 

Good old Boris has promised me 80% of my wages. Which is ok. I'm just going to endure the unexpected time off.

 

I have been socially isolating myself.  Giving everyone a wide berth and washing those hands often. However, I'm still really surprised at how many are not really what would seem paying any attention to the guidance. I think its a kind of "It doesn't affect me". or "doesn't apply to me" Problem with that attitude is so it may not affect you if you're young. You may get it and it lingers for a while but. It will affect those that are around you and your older family if they cop a dose of it. It's just so selfish. It really annoys me. That my mini-rant over.

 

 

Answering the original post.

 

ask yourself if you're doing drive-through. is that a risk to you personally?  If it's going like the UK which is a gnat's hair away from enforced lockdown then soon you may not have a choice. To get an idea. Even mac Donalds is now closing its doors and not reopening until this has blown over. Not that im a fan of maccy D,s but for them to close is unpresdented

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Hey T. keep busy, because I couldn't and now I find my sobriety is down the toilet and I feel my depression coming back. I am trying everyday to keep busy, but everything is closed in C.A and now they say you can't even go out for a walk. All of my clients are gone ,but if I had your optiions I would stay as busy as I could. Be safe

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Thanks hun ?

 

I talked to my boss. They made it so the 30 days don't have to run consecutively. So I could take some time off paid, and have the remainder available if I need it later. Also, those who work during this pandemic get paid $3 more an hour than the standard wage, which is tempting and incentive to go back. I'm so glad Starbucks arranged it like this, there's flexibility with my options.

 

I'm gonna take this next week off. I might look for a cheaper place to live closer to my ma (she's really worried), downsize my storage, still need to stock up on essentials (good luck). If I move I need to find a drive thru store that has availability and I can commute to. I have a lot of stuff to figure out. And I'm really stressed with this whole situation, so I need this week at least off to decompress.

 

Keep your chin up ?

~Toni

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Well, the good news is I haven't been furloughed yet, the bad news is I had to agree to a 15% pay cut for the next three months.  It is certainly better than the furlough alternative.

 

Ladies (and gents - sorry about that guys), the best way to shorten this pandemic is to heed the rules and hunker down.  There are so many people still acting as though nothing is wrong.  That's selfish, plain and simple.  Yup, this is hard, and unfortunately, we haven't even flattened the curve yet.  If we all follow the heed the warnings and follow the advice being given, we will get through this.

 

My heart goes out to all, but we are all in this together.  Sorry Toni, didn't mean to hi-jack your post. 

 

Hugs,

 

Sally

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Thanks Toni good luck with all of it and What Sally said.....Althought staying at home is making me drink and eat like crap. To tell you the truth I rather get this stupid virus loss weight and stop drinking or get the Cv and die.,Either way its a lot better then sitting at home  playing the waiting game, good luck

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@Alex C I don't blame you for wanting to drink, but all I'm gonna say is don't burn the candle at both ends hun. This might be a good time for some self care and healing. 

 

Your fine @Sally Stone! I made this post bc I wanted to vent all my anxiety, fear and depression about what's going on. But I also made it as an open thread for y'all to vent as well, or hopefully let us know that you're ok. We are all in this together ? it's a comfort. I can't tell you how much I depend on someone to just tell me it's going to be ok... 

 

~Toni

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