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Hello, I'm Jester, he/him, 22. I have recently recovered from The Sickness and have come out the other side with a fresh determination to make the rest of my life a happy one.

 

I'm very isolated IRL, socially speaking, and kind of lack the confidence to make any friends. I feel completely anonymous, online and off - honestly not seeing anyone during quarantine has not changed my daily life at all. I don't want to presume that I'll make friends here, but would love to just talk a little bit and hear different perspectives!

 

I would love to hear from some other transmasculine folks with larger chests. It's a bit demoralising to hear people talk about binding like it's easy - for me it's always been painful, unsatisfying, and obscenely expensive, and the whole thing usually just makes me feel worse. I'm pre-HRT, mostly because I can't stand the thought of looking even a little more masculine while still having F-cup breasts (Aussie sizes, not sure it'll mean anything to anyone here).

 

Thank you for listening/reading, and I hope you have a good day!

 

(PS - Is it a breach of etiquette here to forego capital letters and punctuation? I'm much more comfortable with a 2013 tumblr lowercase typing style, but don't want to break the rules!)

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Hello Jester and welcome.  

I suppose the lack of upper case letters can be adapted to by many but please maintain use of punctuation!   Its hard to determine where sentences begin and end.  There are no Grammar Police yet we may edit for clarity at times.  

 

I'm glad you've recovered.  I think you'll find this to be a good place to converse with others about things that are on your mind.   Please join in and ask any questions you might have.  

Cheers, Jani

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Hi Jester, pleased to meet you! I am happy to tell you that you'vecome to the right place to make friends, there are quite a few men active on this site so they will no doubt be able to talk to you regarding binding et al. I would say type however you are comfortable as long as folks can understand as some use english as a second or third language.

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@jester It’s a pleasure to meet you. Welcome! Thank you for sharing a little about yourself here. Maybe you could share with us a bit of your back story, how you came to the “ah ha!” moment about yourself or how things in your life are changing. Absolutely no pressure but everyone has a unique and interesting story.  It helps us all get to know each other a little better. 

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

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Hey Jester, you have come to the right place and I am the right guy ya looking for. 

 

I have a larger chest and know what it's like to not be able to bind like it's a walk in the park. I am not sure of what it's converts too in Australian size but I am a DD cup in US sizes. Only once in a blue moon am I happy with how my binder works, even then it's only when I wear layers as well. 

 

Anywho, welcome to the forum :))

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thank you, Aidan! sorry to hear about your situation but honestly happy i'm not in it alone, if that makes sense... seems like all the advice out there is for very different body types!

 

and thank you Susan, it's a pleasure to meet you too :) thank you for being interested in my story! i'm a bit too nervous to type up the whole thing, sorry - but would love to share it someday when i am a little more comfortable!

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12 hours ago, jester said:

I don't want to presume that I'll make friends here

I think you already have made friends, Jester.  Welcome! and we are happy to meet you and hope to hear more from you in the future (CAPs or not ?)

hugs

Kay

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you're welcome, jester ❤️  its almost our bedtime, isn't it?

have a good night and great weekend!

Kay

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1 hour ago, jester said:

thank you, Aidan! sorry to hear about your situation but honestly happy i'm not in it alone, if that makes sense... seems like all the advice out there is for very different body types!

 

I totally get it :)) Yeah sometimes it feels like I am making it up as I go with very limited resources haha. Welp looks like we are in the same boat :D

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Salutations Jester and welcome to the site!

 

As a total aside, Australian and US cup sizes match up (I checked). Band sizes however are labeled in a wildly different fashion. The more you know.

 

Hugs!

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thank you all!

 

wow Jackie that explains so much about American clothing sizes honestly? in Aus the band size is usually the same as the size of shirt you'd wear, so I had kind of assumed that American sizes ran from, like, size 2 to size 36 or something... the more you know indeed!

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Nah, American bra bands are sized by the literal number of inches wrapped around your body directly under the breasts. I'm a 48A for example. Very few bra manufacturers make a 48A. They assume that if your chest is that big, you must be gigantic.

 

Hugs!

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oh that makes so much more sense! i've had the same problem in the other direction, especially when i was younger and thinner - it's such a bummer!

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22 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

Very few bra manufacturers make a 48A

Yes, Jackie!  Isn't so difficult to find those type bra sizes?  I finally was able to find a 42A push up.  Fits nice.  Hmmm .. maybe that could be a good business .. unusual bra sizes ?
Kay

 

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