Married but am I Bi?

[JodyNZ]

I’m 30 yrs married and recently permanently out with my spouses support so far. I have always been infatuated with women and always will be. My intention is to fully transition. But I have Bi thoughts and question my future relationship with my spouse as my wife questions it as well. 
When I go the HRT path, are these Bi tendencies go to be consuming enough to cross me over to make the male form more attractive to some extent. 

[Jackie C.]

Let me ask you a question. Do you love your spouse?

 

You already like women, but you're not rushing out to find other women are you? Why do you expect that to change because you're curious about men?

 

You might appreciate a good looking man more, but you're with your wife. Hormones aren't going to change that unless YOU decide to change that.

 

Hugs!

[Susan R]

27 minutes ago, Jackie C. said:

Let me ask you a question. Do you love your spouse?

 

You already like women, but you're not rushing out to find other women are you? Why do you expect that to change because you're curious about men?

 

You might appreciate a good looking man more, but you're with your wife. Hormones aren't going to change that unless YOU decide to change that.

 

Hugs!

Perfectly stated...It comes down to faithfulness. My wife has to trust me as I trust her.

[VickySGV]

Welcome to the Forums.  First item is that Gender and Sex are two different pastures on the farm.  Transgender people are all over the Gender and Sexuality pastures though, and while HRT will affect some functions of your genitalia in a variety of ways (we are each different) it does not by and large change sexual orientation.  I have Bi friends who are now a bit more Pan (with other Trans people) but are still basically Bi.  How you act on your sexuality though is still another place.  HRT will not make you a raging nymphomaniac.  If you and your spouse have a good relationship that both want to continue HRT will do little other than the erotic stimulation changes to alter a loving committed relationship. I have a whole roomful of married couples where one is trans, and while there may be more of a propensity to hug others, relationships are honored by all, and they are considered sacred by our community. 

[KayC]

Hi Jody!  Welcome and nice to meet you!

I had similar questions about my own sexuality and gender identity.  I am not on HRT yet, so have not transitioned in any way other than how I think of myself.
I really don't see my preference for women changing, and that's good, because I am married to one. hah!  So what everybody says above holds true I believe.
I believe therapy will be beneficial for me to clarify my feelings in both areas, so it might be something for you to consider also, if you haven't already started.

Lots of great information and support here, so welcome again❣️