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Hello everyone,

I'm happy I found this place. I was needing a safe and appropriate place to talk.

Since I was young I questioned who I was. A lot of times I would say or do things that were not gender appropriate for a boy. My family made sure to constantly remind me that I needed to be a man about things. I wasn't until I was 18 that I was able to identify it. At that point I was living on my own and life quickly got in the way. Survival became more important than my identity. For 25 years I suppressed myself, trying make myself believe I was just confused and dealt with the depression. That day when I acknowledged I was a girl my whole world started to shift.

For a years and a half I struggled with the thought of transitioning and all it would entail. Then during my darkest hour, I had a moment of absolute clarity. What did I have to lose at that point? I accepted my true self. A few months later I started seeing a therapist, a few months after that I started HRT.

The changes have been, to say the least, amazing. Without realizing it I drifted into living full time as a woman. Hopefully within the next month I'll get my gender maker updated and by the end of the year my name changed.

I look forward to learning and sharing my experiences with every one as I navigate through mu journey.

~Liz~

 

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Welcome dear.  The journey you describe ,while different, closely mirrors my own.  My time here has helped.

Hope you find the same.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Welcome Liz to the forums.

 

I hope you find the site useful and enjoyable.

 

Congrats on living full time :) and good luck with your name and gender marker changes coming up.

 

Post away as the mood strikes ya

 

Hugs

 

Cyndee

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Hi Liz and welcome! Our journey's appear similar, upto the part where you're living full-time. I hope to get there soon, but working on my relationship my wife and needing to move at a slower pace than I would really like.  I look forward to learning more about your journey. This is definitely a great place with lots wonderful people. Have a wonderful day! Hugs!

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Hi Liz,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf ?

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Sara,

I can relate to what your going through. My wife is not very understanding. I decided my emotional health was a higher priority than debating for permission. If I find myself alone on my journey, so be it. I’m finally finding inner peace and self love. 
 

~Liz~

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Liz, I have started to hit that point and have been making small changes without waiting for permission, but holding off on full presentation, for now. I've set a mental timeline of 1 year from the time I came out to her, to give her time to adjust and come to acceptance. After that timer expires, I start moving at my own pace. She has until September. The little things I am doing, along with therapy, are helping me get through until then. I think it was @Jackie C. that said in a recent post, something along the lines of, being in limbo with no end date is hard, at least have a firm goal/date that you can see yourself heading towards and things will be easier. I have always tried to live that way.

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Hey Elizabeth. I am also new here. Happy to see you find a safe place and I hope you continue with a sense of happiness down your journey.

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Welcome to the forums Liz

 

You shall meet many lovely people here, I too am new to the forums and terribly shy as well.

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Welcome Liz, Glad you decided to join us. You’ve come quite a ways already on your journey. It’s never a bad idea to add more supportive allies to your life. As others have mentioned, you’ll likely find what you’re looking for here. We in return will have the benefit of your knowledge, expertise and experiences. Its good for us all.

 

8 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

The changes have been, to say the least, amazing. Without realizing it I drifted into living full time as a woman. Hopefully within the next month I'll get my gender maker updated and by the end of the year my name changed.

I look forward to learning and sharing my experiences with every one as I navigate through mu journey.

I feel the same way as you regarding becoming a woman. I wake up each day and can’t believe how much my life has changed. Becoming ‘yourself’ is such an amazing experience that cis people rarely experience, if ever...at least in the way we do. I want to wish you the best on your journey and will support you here as you move along in your transition. Hope to read more about you in the near future!

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

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10 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

I'm happy I found this place. I was needing a safe and appropriate place to talk.

Welcome Elizabeth,

 

We're glad you found the Forums.

Best wishes, stay positive, and safe.

 

Mindy???

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15 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

For 25 years I suppressed myself, trying make myself believe I was just confused

Nice to meet you Elizabeth, and Welcome❣️

I think you will find many people here who will relate with your story, myself included.  So, you're in a great place. 

For me, just finding a place where I can speak openly without judgement has been amazing.  It has encouraged me to finally start taking steps (small as they may be) to move forward.  Hoping the same for you!

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