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Hey there! My name is James and my pronouns are he/him.

 

I've identified as nonbinary for the past four or so years but it never felt quite right, and I never felt any need to come out to anyone other than my closest friends. I finally realized the other day that I'm a guy and I immediately want to tell everyone. So far I've told my husband and a couple close friends and they've been very supportive and loving about it.

 

I'm 32 and I'm a stay at home mom (not sure what language I'm gonna use there so I'm sticking with mom for now) to very fun 3 year old. 

 

I'm looking forward to meeting you all and figuring myself out a bit more ?

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Hello James and welcome to TransPulse!

 

It's great when your spouse is supportive isn't it? With him in your corner, you can do anything! I hope you find what you're looking for here. We're good at listening!

 

Hugs!

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1 hour ago, Jackie C. said:

Hello James and welcome to TransPulse!

 

It's great when your spouse is supportive isn't it? With him in your corner, you can do anything! I hope you find what you're looking for here. We're good at listening!

 

Hugs!

 

Thanks for the welcome! It is definitely a huge plus that my husband is so supportive. I was really nervous because despite him being amazing through my whole journey, until recently (like, the past couple weeks) I still viewed myself as a female-aligned enby and to the best of my knowledge, he still considered himself straight. As soon as I tore down the last bit of female-ness, I started to think "wait...am I..." but would panic before I could even consider the possibility because I was afraid he wouldn't want to be with a guy. I finally told him I was questioning (while crying a lot) and he told me that over the past few years, he'd redefined his orientation to being "attracted to femininity" because he obviously couldn't be  completely straight if he loved me, and he would be happy to redefine himself again if he needed to ❤ Once I felt safe to explore it I knew within an hour. I know it'll still be an adjustment for him, but hearing him say "I love you James" for the first time was just the absolute best!

 

I'm also very fortunate that I'm not the first trans person in my family and everyone was really supportive of my cousin when she came out so I feel like I have a great support network among the people I care about. 

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I had a similar chat with my wife. She decided that her sexuality is "straight plus me." I couldn't be happier.

 

Hugs!

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Hello James.  Welcome!  That's great news about your husband and your relationship.  Its good to have a strong support network as you move through the process.

Jani

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Wow J you hit the Trifecta of support. You husband is on board, yor fam is aboard and you found trans pulse!!!..

Congrats. Welcome  great place for research, support and love

  

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Welcome James! Sounds like you’ve got a great foundation of support, with your husband on you side. With several other folks in your corner, that makes it all the better. Looking forward to hearing more of your story, when you’re ready to share. Have a wonderful day! Hugs!

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Hi James!  nice to meet you and Welcome!
Really happy to hear you have a solid foundation of support with your spouse and friends.  That is so important for a happy life and relationships.

 

Look forward to hearing about your progress in your journey❣️

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Thanks everyone! Obviously this is a pretty big change but I'm excited to see where it takes me. This community seems great so far and I'm happy to be here.

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