What is YOUR passion

[Jackie C.]

Nice! Now I want to put some chainmail flair on one of mine...

 

Hugs!

[Heather Shay]

That is so cool and yes you have changed for that better I must add. You are turning into a very beautiful young lady. Congrats.

[Elizabeth Star]

Thank you Shay.

 

Now that I see it, I need more butt.

 

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[Jackie C.]

I think we all need more butt. On the other hand, not every cis-woman has a great butt either so... I'd still like to be able to fill these jeans out better.

 

Hugs!

[Heather Shay]

@ElizabethStar you're way ahead of me - I have always been cursed with having no butt as a boy I sure hope the HRT does something back there

[Moira Arista]

I Have a few passions. 1980s anything, Movies, Music (preferably old music.) The major one is Cars. I love them. I tend to like old vintage cars.  My parents say that I could name every make and model of car before I was 3 years old.

[Heather Shay]

That is so cool..today I have a hard time figuring out the different companies...most cars seem to be all looking the same no matter what company.

[Robin]

I am also interested in old cars.  This 1931 Ford Model A is the oldest one in my collection at the moment.

 

 

 

Robin.

[Heather Shay]

That is so cool...how many in your collection?

[Robin]

Hi Shay,

 

At the present time I have fifteen classic cars in my collection.  I would rather not list all of them, but they range in date from the 1930s to the early 1970s.  Some are American and some are British.

 

Robin.

[Jani]

I had twelve in my "collection" for quite some time, often swapping out one for another.  They were primarily German sporting machines.  

[Bri2020]

19 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

I've found myself rethinking my hobbies. I feel a lot of my little projects were nothing more than distractions. I didn't want to come to terms with who I am so I found things to do that I could/would never finish. I have a jacket I had been putting chain mail on, taking off, re-arranging, staring at, remaking over an over for literally 20 years (it wasn't the only thing I made though). I kept telling myself "it's art, it's never done". Than in July, 3 years ago, Around the time I finished it my whole world started to change. I realized I had spent a lifetime sitting at a table with tools in my hands, drinking coffee and not actually living as myself.

I just needed to get that out.

I was that way with building wooden canoes/kayaks.  I hid in my shop for 12 hours a day sometimes, avoiding my issues.  Didn't turn out well for me. (had some beautiful boats though). I learned from that and now try to pick hobbies and crafts that I can do socially and in moderation.

[Heather Shay]

I'm loving hearing about all these passions - they are beautiful and so are all of you for sharing and enjoying what brings you joy.

[Robin]

The problem that I have is that when my hobbies involve mixing with other people, such as club meetings or car shows, my dysphoria seems to flare up.  I start feeling horrible about myself, and lose a lot of the benefit of going to the event.

 

Robin.

[Heather Shay]

Sorry to hear that - somehow maybe your therapist can help you with a strategy to overcome that. I know I force myself to do things that make me uncomfortable hoping to desensitize myself. I love playing live in my band but I spend most of my time eying the women and wanting to be them and that hurts...a lot. I don't do well socializing at gigs but do and 

[Moira Arista]

That is the best part though. Men secretly HATE when a women can out talk them in things that THEY feel like they know more then us. I can talk Makes, Models, Options, engines, Company histories, one to one with a man. Most people of all genders are amazed how much knowledge I have on 4 wheeled things. 

 

I can recite movies almost word for word after only watching a movie once.

 

 

 

[tracy_j]

That's a lovely old Ford Robin. My passion used to be bikes. I would still be miffed if someone pushed me aside as not likely to know much about them but, with cars, even though I probably know as much about them as many, I am not unhappy at bowing to male superiority. I just cannot be fussed with them.

 

Tracy

[Heather Shay]

I find out so inbred in men that women don't understand cars. I look male and when my wife and I go to get our cars serviced they ALWAYS look to me to tell the issues. My wife really gets ticked and I see why. I know that will be more obvious when they ignore me the more my HRT changes my appearance.

[Ivy]

This is a thing.     One of my daughters is a professional mechanic.  She has quite a few stories. 

[Heather Shay]

I bet

[Selina]

I'm passionate about flowers and making/creating beautiful displays for the different seasons of the year. I have worked in the landscaping industry for years and have shied away from this aspect of it for fear of appearing feminine or girly. The past couple years I have allowed myself to delve more into it. 

 

I am passionate about women's clothes and shoes,  not just wearing them, but the fashion, styles, etc and would absolutely love to work a job helping women find and develop fashions that bring out their beauty. 

 

 

[Heather Shay]

As you grow in confidence I am sure your passion will become more and more beautiful as are you

[Ivy]

1 hour ago, Selina said:

 I have worked in the landscaping industry for years and have shied away from this aspect of it for fear of appearing feminine or girly.

 

 

This was always a big thing for me, I felt I had to hide these parts of me.   I don't know… was this fear of appearing feminine internalized transphobia?  In my case I would have to look at it that way.

Coming out to myself was a big step.  Coming out in public was scary, but easier in a way.

[Heather Shay]

Wonderful...a definite weight off your shoulders now you can show the beauty of your passion to a starving humanity that is in need of want beauty we can get. Please post some of your passion pleas.

[Jackie C.]

3 hours ago, Selina said:

I'm passionate about flowers and making/creating beautiful displays for the different seasons of the year. I have worked in the landscaping industry for years and have shied away from this aspect of it for fear of appearing feminine or girly. The past couple years I have allowed myself to delve more into it. 

 

I am passionate about women's clothes and shoes,  not just wearing them, but the fashion, styles, etc and would absolutely love to work a job helping women find and develop fashions that bring out their beauty. 

 

 

 

Hey now, my dad, who is older than you, has been into flowers and gardening longer than I've been alive. He got his Master Gardener certificate in the late 80's and his yard is always alive with colorful flower beds season permitting. Honestly, I think he missed his calling. Personally, I don't see anything especially girly about it (though I'm wickedly allergic to... well, anything that leaks pollen, so my view might be skewed).

 

There are lots of male clothing designers out there too. If you choose to go that route... and I'm begging here... could you look into a line of cute shoes for those of us with, say, size 13 feet and above? I promise you'll find a lot of gratitude from us big girls.

 

Joking aside, I get the urge to shy away from "girly things" while we're trying to protect our real selves. The number of us that go into "ultra manly" careers like soldiering, mechanics, police work, etc... is staggering. I think we all do it to some extent before we come to grips with who we really are.

 

Hugs!