Nice to meet you all!

[Becky Wagner]

Glad to become part of this forum. I just learned about it yesterday.

 

While each of our stories are unique there are often some similarities. In my case I've known I was a female from my earliest memories. I grew up in the 1960s when being trans was unknown to me and, I think, most people. As a result I kept my true nature a secret. There were some times it leaked out but I always managed to deny it. When I was four or five my grandmother was encouraging when I sat at her vanity and put on her pearl necklace or applied a little makeup. My most scary moment was at six when my female friend and I exchanged clothing and were caught by her older brother who told our parents.

 

Flash forward to adulthood, I'm married and the father of three adult daughters. I told my future wife back in 1980 about my being trans. I wanted her to know before I asked her to marry me. I promised her I would not transition and she was accepting.

 

While I have continued not to fully transition, there have been some small steps in that direction that have helped me cope. A few years ago I started estradiol. I had to stop that a few months ago when breast growth started to become evident. I continue with spiro. 

 

As a "funny" aside that makes you wonder if the universe has a sense of humor. I discovered a number of years ago that my birth certificate has a surprising typo. In the "sex" box is typed "Female." I was able to use that to get the gender marker on my driver's license changed to female without having to fill out any paperwork.

 

I'm out to only a small group. In addition to my wife, I've told my daughters and their husbands and a close male friend and his wife. All have been accepting.

 

My current activities include trying to develop a female voice that I could use at times.

 

Thanks for allowing me to be a part of the group! 

[Sandra6sandy9sand]

Hi Becky, welcome. My story is similar to yours except I grew up in the 50’s. When I was eight I was playing with my two female cousins and I put on their cowgirl outfit. Sure enough, my aunt came in and told me to take off the skirt and top. I’ve know almost all my life that there is a woman inside my body.

 

Today, my wife of 40 years knows I wear woman’s cloths all the time and tolerates it. I’m not on HRT and I don’t plan on having any surgery. I accept that I’m transgender and am willing to live my life out the way I am. I love the me that is me.

 

Great to meet you and enjoy Transpulse.

 

Hugs

 

Sandra 

[Carolyn Marie]

Welcome to Trans Pulse, Becky.  I'm happy to hear that you're wife has been supportive so far.  We all have to do what we're comfortable with.  Your path is going to be different than anyone else's path.  As long as you're happy, that's what matters most.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

[Bobbie Scott]

Hi Becky,I,m new also. Glad your here.

[Cyndee]

Welcome Becky, that's great having your affirming birth certificate already ? Thanks for your intro post and nice to have you with us, have a look around, join in the conversations as the mood strikes ya....

 

Hugs

 

Cyndee

[KayC]

Hi Becky!  nice to meet your, and Welcome!

Thank you for sharing your story.  Yes, we are all unique, but from and emotional standpoint you will surely discover that we are all very connected also.  I am sure you will find this Forum beneficial in your continued journey.
 

22 hours ago, Becky Wagner said:

I discovered a number of years ago that my birth certificate has a surprising typo. In the "sex" box is typed "Female."

 Hmmmmm ? that's very interesting.  I think everything happens for a reason.

 

Look forward to hearing more from you❣️

[Timber Wolf]

Hi Backy,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf ?

[Jani]

Welcome Becky!  You'll fit in well here.  Please join in the conversation.

 

Jani

[Selina]

Hi Becky! Welcome! I'm new as well. 

[Susan R]

On 8/24/2020 at 7:37 AM, Becky Wagner said:

I'm out to only a small group. In addition to my wife, I've told my daughters and their husbands and a close male friend and his wife. All have been accepting.

Hello Becky, It’s a pleasure to meet you. You have an interesting story and a few key points of yours sound very similar to my story. I too have 3 adult daughters with children although they are much less accepting than yours it appears. I’m curious how long you’ve been out to them and if their acceptance has improved in time or not. I felt like I had some acceptance after first coming out but as the reality of Dad becoming female, it slowly faded.

 

Its nice to have you with us and I hope you’ll enjoy your time here.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

 

[Becky Wagner]

9 hours ago, Susan R said:

I’m curious how long you’ve been out to them and if their acceptance has improved in time or not. I felt like I had some acceptance after first coming out but as the reality of Dad becoming female, it slowly faded.

 

Hi Susan,

 

It's been a couple of years and their support has not faded. In fact each, in their own way, have offered to help me. One offered a makeover and another took me for a pedicure. 

 

To be fair since I'm not fully transitioning there is not as much for them to adjust to as it was in your case. I do believe that if I should ever fully transition all three would be there for me although I'm sure they would be very concerned about how this would impact their mother.

 

Becky

[Abi]

Hi Becky,

    I think it's really important to keep reminding ourselves of the good things we have. It is easy to fill our cup with negativity and leave no room for sweet delights. You seem to recognize that and have a good balance for your life. That is very positive and quite liberating, I'm sure. Having the love and support of family and friends is a really big plus. I have times that I just can't put my thoughts into the right words to express a feeling. I find, a lot of times, that the people who can help me find those words are right here. It is nice to meet you and hear a bit about you. 

[Ivy]

On 8/24/2020 at 10:37 AM, Becky Wagner said:

As a "funny" aside that makes you wonder if the universe has a sense of humor. I discovered a number of years ago that my birth certificate has a surprising typo. In the "sex" box is typed "Female." I was able to use that to get the gender marker on my driver's license changed to female without having to fill out any paperwork.

This is so cool.

 

[Becky Wagner]

Thank you all for your welcome messages! Glad to be a part of this community.

 

Becky