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I would love to see that latest wardrobe items you are adding. I am defining my style more and more and thought I'd share the latest blouse I got yesterday and it brings back fond memories of the '70's - and I am buying more and more peasant dresses and hippie wear I envied SOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCHHHHHHHHHHH back then that is current and still age appropriate for me.

 

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I very much like that blouse. My first ever dress I bought myself after coming out to my wife was a Zanzea one. 

 

Currently I'm waiting for this dress to be delivered (hopefully should be tomorrow morning in time for me to go and see a trans girlfriend in the afternoon):

 

white-spot-puff-sleeve-midi-shirt-dress.

 

 

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OMGosh that's gorgeous - I'm going to buy one right after this response. 

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21 minutes ago, Shay said:

OMGosh that's gorgeous - I'm going to buy one right after this response. 

Not sure if New Look is a UK/Ireland only store only. Hope they deliver outside UK if it is.

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Looking through Amazon - need the longer sleeves - I've still got too manly of arms - the pattern is sweet - I have a red with small white polka dots but this one is so cool

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24 minutes ago, Shay said:

Looking through Amazon - need the longer sleeves - I've still got too manly of arms - the pattern is sweet - I have a red with small white polka dots but this one is so cool

Guess this is one of the areas where I'm quite lucky. I do wonder if I've always had limited Testosterone levels (yet to find out what they are at present), but my frame is quite slight and when my daughter first saw me in a cold shoulder dress she said that she thought my shoulder and arms looked more feminine than hers. I'm only 5ft 6in and can get into most regular sizes in womens clothes. Still want some curves though! I epilate my arms every other week which keeps them visibly hair free and not on any HRT yet.

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I see New Look is around but I couldn't find any like yours so I settled for a peasant dress style I also love and fits my style - I once was pretty slight (when I went anorexic and down to 98 pounds on a 5' 10" frame) but I am still pretty slim and sadly no butt or hips but a little upper arm muscle that will fade more as the HRT works whatever wonders it can on a 68 year old who has had T do horrible things his entire life.

Count your blessings lady and I sure am happy you are here and sharing your music on "What are You Listening To Today" as you have given me some really nice stuff to listen to and learn from.

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just bought this

DEARCASE Women's Long Sleeve Casual Loose T-Shirt Dress not quite polka dot but looking lead me to this pretty dress.

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I have determined I shouldn't do anymore shopping until I start going through clothes as the closet is busting at the seems. Having two sets of clothing I think is the problem, so my solution is just start coming out.

 

@Shay I love the blouse you originally posted, though I can't do the full sleeve thing because of the length.

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@QuestioningAmber I like your plan - take the coming out slowly with the safest choices first is my advice - it hopes to grow in confidence.

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@Shay Yeah, I am not jumping to anything extreme, like I have been wearing capris instead of shorts almost all summer at this point with like a T-Shirt. My next step might be a cute top, and try some light makeup. The key is going to be coming out to the longer term friends and my family which has me more stressed. I am learning there isn't anything wrong with me, that this is just who I am. If someone has an issue, it is their issue not mine. It is going to be hard to keep that in mind to be honest, but something I am working on.

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OMG @Shay I love that dress. 
 

I’ve been wearing mostly flare leg pants and t-shirts. Surprisingly I haven’t been wearing much black lately. I am a goth girl after all. 

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@ElizabethStar I am dinging more and more clothes from my college years that are in fashion now and still age appropriate and I am loving it. Feel like I am finally getting to go to Woodstock dressed as I should have been had nature made me correctly from the hot to.

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15 hours ago, QuestioningAmber said:

The key is going to be coming out to the longer term friends and my family which has me more stressed. I am learning there isn't anything wrong with me, that this is just who I am. If someone has an issue, it is their issue not mine. It is going to be hard to keep that in mind to be honest, but something I am working on.

Sounds exactly like the discussion I was having with my therapist today, Amber.  The big point being "there is nothing wrong with us". 
Still, I am in the same place as you, so I understand the battle between the logical mind and the reality of the obstacle.

I am the same on clothes buying ... would love to shop/try/buy more things (love some of those on display here) but at this point I would be/am all dressed up with no place to go ?

Let's do our best❣️  one step at a time

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