Started HRT Last Night

[MirandaB]

7 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

It was about 6 weeks when things started for me. Then for another 6 weeks it was just nothing...nothing....nothing. Then one day, one of my friends pulled me aside at work and was like, um...hey....a...you gotta do something. You're kinda poking through your shirt...a lot. Seemed like they popped overnight. I was really embarrassed, it was the afternoon when she told me.

 

The fun is just starting.

 

I'm almost at the point where I'd like the breasts to slow down their evolution a little bit. I thought it would take months not weeks and not sure my wife is ready for such a visual change as she works on getting adjusted to all this. 

 

And I had visions of gradually changing in front of the people at work and having to be out for more of the family by Thanksgiving but it seems that I won't be back at work in person before it's too late to be gradual and doesn't sound like Thanksgiving is just going to be just us 3 who live together like every other meal. 

[Ann W]

That's what worries me @RhondaS, It seems HRT starts the clock.  Countdown to coming out.  Something I'll be discussing with my therapist next week.

[MirandaB]

Yes, @Ann W, it started the clock and apparently my clock decided to run faster than I thought it would. 

 

I don't know what the breakdown is between 'slow down' and 'hurry up' going through my head right now though. 

[Elizabeth Star]

@RhondaS, @Ann WYep, the countdown has started.

 

I remember looking down and telling myself it was too soon but wait, this is what I needed to happen. YMMV. I had thought they slowed down or even stopped growing until I bought a new bra. Same size as my other two which are apparently stretched out.

 

 

[MirandaB]

I definitely wanted it to happen but thought I had some leeway time-wise to get the important people in my life up to speed on what was looming.

[Astrid]

7 hours ago, Ann W said:

That's what worries me @RhondaS, It seems HRT starts the clock.  Countdown to coming out.  Something I'll be discussing with my therapist next week.

You're very correct! HRT does indeed start the development clock.  Because of that, I chose to come out first to my significant others (May 21, 2018 -- I'll never forget the date!) and then progress through therapy (jointly with my spouse), and finally to start HRT in December, 2019.  For me, it was important to not start HRT as a "me" decision, but an "us" decision, like any other major occurrence in our marriage.

 

With best wishes,

 

Astrid

[Ivy]

I'm kinda jealous of you girls.

It was a long time before I was satisfied that any significant boobage was happening for me.  I assume it was because of my age and the low doses I was on.  But the girls are there even if not particularly impressive.  But feeling their presence is what I needed anyway.  And that is a fact now.

Enjoy the new you.

[MirandaB]

Yeah, I'm in my late 50s so thought it would take longer than it has.

 

I came out to my wife a couple months before starting hormones, but she's still working on accepting that her marriage will now will not match the traditionally gendered version we started out with. 

 

 

[MirandaB]

2 month anniversary (of starting HRT) update...

 

Still feeling happier than I used to remember being, resting happy face. 

 

A bit of semi-obvious breast development. 

 

Came out to adult daughter a week or so ago, couldn't have gone better, she's reading things, watching docs, joining in her company's presentations for trans awareness week, so out to everyone in the immediate family and who knows how much it's spread because as you know the old saying, three can keep a secret if two of them are dead!

[Astrid]

5 hours ago, RhondaS said:

Came out to adult daughter a week or so ago, couldn't have gone better

Wonderful to hear!!  So glad it went well.

 

Hugs,

 

Astrid

[Ann W]

5 hours ago, RhondaS said:

three can keep a secret if two of them are dead!

That's so funny.

I was thinking about how a fair amount of coming out may get done for me.  After all, it's a pretty juicy bit of gossip.

[Elizabeth Star]

Congrats @RhondaS. I'm happy to hear it's going well.

[Elizabeth Star]

5 hours ago, RhondaS said:

so out to everyone in the immediate family and who knows how much it's spread because as you know the old saying, three can keep a secret if two of them are dead!

Word didn't spread that fast when I came out. Guess no one wanted to be responsible for dropping that bomb.

[Ann W]

Yeah maybe...I brought it up to a couple of people close to me years ago (including bothers), and they seemed happy to never mention it again if I didn't.

 

Glad to hear you're both doing well with the meds.  As someone who sees HRT likely starting sooner for me than later, I'm always interested in your experiences and happy for your successes.

[MirandaB]

7 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

Word didn't spread that fast when I came out. Guess no one wanted to be responsible for dropping that bomb.

Mrs spread it to her best friend, which is fine, but didn't tell me until after she'd been over to the back yard a couple times after the outing. But hoping you're right for people I won't mind talking to!

[Gabriel]

Ronda, congrats on your hrt developments, and so glad it went so well with your daughter!

[godonohue]

Rhonda, congrats on the developments. New to the forum, and the messages on here are so helpful, positive and inspiring. Thanks to you all.
 

Really do need to pick a name. 

[MirandaB]

Well, I think Rhonda's just a placeholder. There are a lot of names out there to ponder! 

[godonohue]

I apologize if that came off the wrong way, my bad writing obviously. Rhonda’s a great name. I am the one that needs to find my name. You are right there are lots of great names to ponder, I think I have narrowed the long list down to 4 names. 

[MirandaB]

I didn't take it as a criticism, @godonohue

 

It's just when I picked it (mostly for internet handles) I wasn't anticipating doing anything much out in the world so if I do decide to go for another name I want to spend some time workshopping it. 

 

I looked at a list of baby names from when I was born and found my birth name and looked on the other side and Rhonda was right around there and I haven't known a real life Rhonda in a while...

[Ivy]

2 hours ago, RhondaS said:

Well, I think Rhonda's just a placeholder. There are a lot of names out there to ponder! 

Personally, I suspect the same thing about "Jandi".

Its origin is complicated.  I am hesitant to work toward an official name change with this because I'm not sure I will want it forever.  I'm still growing into my true self, and I don't know how much baggage I want to bring along.

[MirandaB]

Three month anniversary today!

 

Breasts still trying to pop, skin definitely softer, maybe some body hair thinning or disappearing, and the mental benefit has been amazing. 

 

As the holidays approach, the people who I'm out to on my side of the family is split 50/50 and on the other side it's 5 out of 7, what I'm thinking about as the idea of Zoom holiday gatherings are dancing in my head. 

 

Yesterday I got word we're upping my E pill intake, 3 pills a day instead of 2. 

[Gabriel]

Rhonda congrats on your three month aniversary and your progress! For me the mental benefit sounds like the best of all. So glad you got that.

 

Yup, the holiday gatherings are going to be interesting this year.

[Audrey]

2 hours ago, RhondaS said:

Three month anniversary today!

 

Breasts still trying to pop, skin definitely softer, maybe some body hair thinning or disappearing, and the mental benefit has been amazing.

I'm so happy for you Rhonda!  Happy three months! I feel like mine are trying to do the same thing, like they're waking up from a long slumber but not quite ready just yet. One morning I'll look in the mirror and be like OMG! Agree so much about the psychological benefit, it's like a fog lifting and the sun starting to peek through. Feels amazing really.

Stay safe in the storm headed our way later today!

 

Love,

~Audrey.

[HollyElizabeth]

@RhondaS
3 months! Doesn't seem like 3 months. I'm right behind you girl in HRT. Congrats on the 3 month annaversery.