I thought I was past this!

[Berni]

1 hour ago, Shay said:

I just read your latest. If you have therapist appointment soon talk about you concerns. If not suggest you reach out to your therapist. You need someone close to talk to. I hope this is a bump in her transition stage and she crosses into acceptance stage soon 

Its funny,  I talk with my therapist about almost nothing else but my wife and our relationship. I feel like, mostly, this transission is going so well, but it all feels like ashes in my mouth if I cant take my soul mate with me. I too hope this is just a bump and that things will work out in the end.

[KayC]

3 hours ago, Berni said:

I hope everything worked out with your wife.

Hi Berni .. actually we are not past it, and my marriage is very much like your situation.  So, that's why I can feel your heart ?

 

But!  it has been much better since I entered therapy, and that's mostly from a better self-acceptance/realization and decrease in my anxiety that therapy has brought.  For that part, I think its calmed our relationship and given us both room to breath.  But we have a long way to go.

I concur with @Shay's suggestion to bring this to your therapist, which what I did.  I am hoping my wife will someday agree to join me in therapy, but until then, I can only work on myself.

I am really hoping the best for you both, Berni❣️

[Berni]

1 hour ago, KayC said:

Hi Berni .. actually we are not past it, and my marriage is very much like your situation.  So, that's why I can feel your heart ?

 

Oh, you poor thing. My heart goes out to you. I so hope you make it through this.

[Jacqui]

3 hours ago, Berni said:

I'm sorry to hear you are alone. You must be very strong to hold it all together alone.

 

I don't know which is worse, being transgendered and having a spouse you love who sees it as a possibly insurmountable obstacle to your marriage, or being transgendered and being alone.  I'm alone too, and I'm not strong at all.  Many are the times when I can barely stand it.  Sometimes I can't.

 

Needless to say, I'm rooting for all of you who have spouses or significant others.  I hope that you all find a way to maintain your relationships and see them thrive and grow.

[Heather Shay]

@Berni glad you are talking with your therapist. I know you are doing all you can with your wife so relax. Remember the serenity prayer. Change things you can change (you) and accept things you can't (any other person). Plant good seeds love her show her you love her be patient and work on being the best you you can.