Just Want to Know How you are feeling a this moment

[Heather Shay]

@Abi - my heart aches for you - the burden of surgery for what you really want but for a necessary part of you that is necessary for you to become the you you want to be. I wish with all my heart they are able to be more sensitive to you and your wants and needs. I know the hospital groups are really stressed and I will try to be empathetic but you need to let it be known of your frustration - hopefully it is oversight on their part but make them aware of your frustration and ask for more care and understanding - hopefully they will oblige your needs.

 

Weariness is in your but please keep coming here to find comfort and repose and we will soothe you. We all have our heartaches but together we will help each other smile and get through those hardships.

 

With Love,

 

Heather Shay

[Ivy]

I'm sorry.   This sounds hard.

[Abi]

@Shay

    I don't dislike my given name though I am ready to put it behind me. I do not like the feeling of being called by this name now but, it is how I have lived most of my life. It feels wrong to put negativity on how I was known. It is hardly the way I wish to honor the unconditional love my parents have always tried to show to me. I only want to known the positive feeling of being seen for who I am now. As for the surgery I will need, the real problem is that I live alone and have no adult family close enough to me to help me through recovery. This really applies to any kind of surgery I may need. I am a single parent with children to worry about. I am running out of options. If there is a way to navigate this problem, I will find it. 

[Heather Shay]

@Abi I love your last sentence - that is the right attitude and it will get your through.

 

Neither of my parents are alive to help me, my siblings aren't accepting and I am navigating the rough waters of having my wife accept me - but I know as I continue HRT and therapy - the path feels better each day and that will guide me - to figuring out things like who can support me through my possible surgeries and all that goes with it but as you say 

 

"If there is a way to navigate this problem, I will find it."

 

Words to live by and all that from just your little pinky...

[Ivy]

Had something happen that kinda made me feel good.

 

Yesterday, my youngest daughter called and wanted to come by, and then hesitatingly asked if she could spend the night.  She sounded upset.  She and her boyfriend had a fight(?) argument(?) - a bad thing.

Of course I said yes.

 

She came with her backpack.  I hugged her and just waited for her to talk.

And she did, a lot.  She kinda talked it out with herself and settled down.  Eventually, they got on the phone and sorta made up.  So she went home.

She's a lot like her mother (hard headed) and they have a hard time with each other at times.

 

But It made me feel good that she came to me like another woman to talk it through.

 

Actually she has been one of my biggest allies, having a lot of trans/queer friends herself.

[Heather Shay]

@Jandi That is so good to hear. I always feel joyful when someone confides in me and tells me personal things your want to discuss and feel confident to come to me to discuss. It's great she is so open to you and willing and wanting to confide in you.