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The 'Girls are forced to shower with boys' meme


Dana Michelle

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There's a lot of memes online that say that girls are being forced to shower with students who are physically male in high school locker rooms. Does anyone know what is actually happening with the debate about transgender students in school locker rooms? This video by a transgender person https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lw-6d2z_RkU&feature=youtu.be&t=330 doesn't think students are allowed to take communal showers at school, but I've heard a lot about showers being required after PE at some schools. A therapist asked me a couple times to make sure I didn't have to take showers in PE, and said it was good when I told him I didn't.


Does anyone know if transgender students are taking showers with students with opposite sex genitalia, or is it at schools that don't require showers (so they keep their underwear on)? I heard one school allowed transgender students in a part of the locker room and students who were uncomfortable could get a locker in the other part of the locker room. "Girls are forced to shower with boys!" makes a provocative meme, but does anyone know what is really happening?

 

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OK, my five-minute internet search reveals that transgender students are to be allowed to use either private facilities or given a different starting time (i.e. You go ahead, the rest of us will come through in ten minutes). So, as usual, the thing that the transphobic meme is screaming isn't happening and normal people are trying to be both accommodating and reasonable.

 

https://transequality.org/sites/default/files/images/resources/trans_school_district_model_policy_FINAL.pdf

 

https://www.qvschools.org/cms/lib/WA02215530/Centricity/Domain/63/3211P-Transgender-Students-.pdf

 

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Here in CA, the cis student does not have to use locker room or shower facilities with a Trans student, and the cis person will be provided with a private facility on their request.  Conversely the Trans student can ask for the improved privacy and they will get it instead of the cis person.  Parents, school counselors / faculty, and the student will all decide what is best for the Student.  This is per our State Education Code.  I know of schools here in the state where no special arrangements are in place, and others where one or two Cis students are accommodated for the privacy, and about the same small number of Trans students who request the privacy.  No one is FORCED in the end game there.

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The one from transequality suggests that students should be allowed to request a private changing area but that transgender students should not be required to use a separate space against their wishes.


It's hard to know what is real from Internet searches since people are quoted out of context and important information is omitted because they want to make the story juicy. This site https://www.asumag.com/construction/washrooms-locker-rooms/article/20855374/pennsylvania-student-who-objected-to-sharing-locker-room-with-transgender-student-sues-school says that a boy was changing when he noticed a student of the opposite physical sex wearing a bra.


I found a video on youtube a while ago titled "High School Forces Girls to Share Locker Room with Biological Man" (I'm just posting the title instead of the link since linking would help it in the Google searches) about a decision to allow a trans girl use the girl's locker room. A cis girl talks about how she is on the swim team and gets naked in front of other students in the locker room. The video is on a very biased far-right channel. One thing that makes me wonder is that the cis girl talks about being on the swim team, so it sounds like this is an extra curricular activity after school, as opposed to a PE class. It could be that the trans student is only using the locker room for PE and would not see anyone on an after school sports team. It is also misleading that they used the word "Man" in the title instead of "Boy" when talking about a school (making it sound like adults, rather than their peers, are sharing a locker room with students).

 

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2 hours ago, VickySGV said:

 I know of schools here in the state where no special arrangements are in place, and others where one or two Cis students are accommodated for the privacy

In the schools with no accommodations in place, is it because they are unwilling or because nobody requested them?

 

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6 hours ago, Dana Michelle said:

In the schools with no accommodations in place, is it because they are unwilling or because nobody requested them?

 

The students and parents were just fine with the Trans person using the appropriate facilities, and thus no requests. 

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