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My first post here, not familiar with online groups, but this seems to be a good place to start.

I’m  MTF, 63 y/o, 10 months on HT, and I can’t find my place in the world.  I’m scared and confused, I had no idea I was trans until 2 years ago. So, a super late bloomer! I’m hoping to find friends, sages, and mentors here. I realize everyone’s journey is different, I’m having difficulty with the mental aspect of transition, my internal homophobia is very prevalent. On the other hand, I’m happy with the changes occurring in the body.

Covid has made it even more harsh due to the isolation, as I said I’m not good with online groups, so I hope to learn and connect!

Love to all.

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Hi Joi, It’s a pleasure to meet you. Know that it takes many of us most of our life to learn about, trust and accept what our inner being has told us. Mine from a very early age, Hey, something is not right here...”I’m not what everyone says I am!” It’s good that you’ve reached out here. There are others like myself who want to help you any way we can. If you’re looking for friendship, advice, or just some simple acceptance, you’ve found the right place.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

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Hi @Joy!  nice to meet you and Welcome!
I'm a (very) late bloomer too!  I call us Boomer Bloomers ?  Its never too late, as I am sure you will find many of us here in the same situation as you.
I've been in the Forum for a bit over 6 months now and this Community is the only one I have (I am not Out publicly yet and only to my wife) and its been the source of my growth.
My new found self-awareness caused a great deal of anxiety to myself (and to my wife, to say the least) and finding a good gender therapist was extremely beneficial, and the source of my eventual self-acceptance.  If you have not already found/started therapy it is highly recommended.

As you spend time in the Forum my hope is you become more comfortable with yourself and can move forward with less anxiety, but everything you are feeling is VERY normal. 

Welcome again❣️  Deep breaths ... one step at a time

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What a warm welcome! So sweet and encouraging for this first encounter, thank you so much!

I am discovering how profound this journey is, way beyond the physical (though important), I do have a gender therapist, very valuable indeed. I find myself alone (no partner, no close family) so I have a blank canvas and the freedom to move forward as I wish. Thank you @Susan Rfor your words, I’m touched. And @KayCgreat to meet a fellow Boomer Bloomer, looking forwards for more tips and guidance. Happy to be here!

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Welcome @Joy! It's nice to meet you. The community at Trans Pulse is very warm and friendly, I've ben active here for about a month, and I'm confident you'll find the support, guidance, and acceptance you're seeking here. I think many of us relate to the experiences of fully understanding and expressing our gender identity over a lifetime. As Kay said, it's never too late to start living authentically. The journey is quite profound indeed.

Looking forward to getting to know you!

 

Love,

~Audrey.

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@Joi welcome young lady... I am 68 so I can say that. Also congrats on HRT I am only 6 months in.

You my dear have found the most important find of my life in finding TP.

The ladies here are warm and insightful, wonderful listeners and give comfort and advice based on experience and understanding your challenges, struggles and worries. You have truly found a safe haven in the storm.

Welcome welcome welcome.

Michelle

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Hi, Joi!  Welcome!

 

I am another Boomer Bloomer.  I remember how daunting it seemed to consider actually living as myself.  The physical stuff is relatively easy: "Sign here and we'll fix you up."  It is the mental transition that is the hard part.

 

But there are plenty of us here who have made it through the mental and social transitions and are starting to enjoy life.  You can do it, too.  I admit it feels a bit like jumping out of a plane without a parachute, but you are among friends here who will catch you.

 

Regards,

Kathy

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Welcome Joy!  As you can see you are not the only oldie but goodie here.  63 was an important year for me as well.  By the end i had moved virtually all of my male clothes out of the closet.  My therapist mentioned that there is a classification for those who come out later in life.  I'[m just glad i did and this site has been important in helping me.

Glad you found us and i will echo Shay (another young one) and say:  "welcome young lady!"

I'm having the time of my life!  
Hope you will as well.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

 

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OK I'll chime in also as another late bloomer!  Greetings Joi.  You are not out of the ordinary in this.  Please join in and I believe you will find all you are seeking here.  There is something here for everyone!

 

Cheers, Jani 

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Welcome to Transgender Pulse, Joy.  Congrats on beginning your journey to womanhood, although I understand your anxiety and doubts.  Most of us, especially late bloomers, have experienced those feelings.  I began my journey at the age of 55, more than 10 years ago.  I hope you explore all that there is here in the forums and learn all you can.  The more you participate, the more you'll learn.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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13 hours ago, Joy said:

I’m having difficulty with the mental aspect of transition, my internal homophobia is very prevalent.

 

@Joy, welcome!  Yet another, even later-bloomer here.  If you haven't yet worked with an experienced gender therapist, I can recommend it highly, as do others here who have done so.  It's a solid way to address and work through the mental challenges inherent in our journies.

 

 

13 hours ago, Joy said:

On the other hand, I’m happy with the changes occurring in the body.

 

Oh, yes!  I'm approaching 13 months on estradiol and I, too, am happy with the changes.

 

Stay safe in LA, with all the current Covid issues present there just now.  I grew up in the San Fernando Valley and know the area well.  Traded it many decades ago for the four seasons of New England <grin>.

 

Hugs,

 

Astrid

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@Audrey@Shay@ElizabethStar@KathyLauren@Charlize @Jani@Carolyn Marie @Astrid@Jani
Again I’m floored by the welcoming and responses here, never imagined it would be so supportive, thank you all, from my heart to yours. Happy to be in such good company. BTW, I needed to tweak my name but didn’t find a way of doing it in the profile settings, can you show me?

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5 hours ago, Joy said:

@Audrey@Shay@ElizabethStar@KathyLauren@Charlize @Jani@Carolyn Marie @Astrid@Jani
 BTW, I needed to tweak my name but didn’t find a way of doing it in the profile settings, can you show me?

Please tell me what you would like and I'll do it for you, or you can PM me.

 

Carolyn Marie

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Hello Joy and welcome. Also a late bloomer. Came out at 56 (I'm 72 now) and I've never been happier. Congratulations on beginning your transition. 

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