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The Mean Things You've Done To Girls Stemming From Envy


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Guest amie

Sometimes envy and anger can drive one to be a real meanee, yu know?

Well, I actually hope yu don't know...but if you do, come on and share with me your meanee experience.

I remember bein' so envious of some of my ex-girlfriends when I was younger.

This would often vary in severity and much to my everlasting shame, I can't recall lettin' one ever slide and get away scott-free without breakin' their heart to a degree anyway.

Lemme start with this one:

I broke up with a girl on her 16th. birthday.

Now, I'd like to make it abundantly clear that I'm by no means proud of this...and I'm actually hoping mine to be the worst and most shameful reference to ever be mentioned on this thread.

I deserve all the scorn that any and all can spit out so don't hold back, people. Lemme have it!

I'll be the first to admit that it's pretty sick.

I've always wanted to be that pretty girl and have always felt it befitting of my personality.

If I had the opportunity to spoil a girl's Sweet 16 I was gonna take full advantage of it.

So, Got stories or scorn?!!!

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Guest Soph

There were a few occasions where I outright told girls that they were ugly (even if they weren't) because I knew it would upset them. They, of course, did nothing to deserve this.

My only ex-girlfriend dumped me because I ignored that she existed. I likened her to a whale, among other things. She misspelled healthier once, and I never stopped bringing it up. Heavens, I was a terrible boyfriend. I hope to make a better girlfriend :P

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There were a few occasions where I outright told girls that they were ugly (even if they weren't) because I knew it would upset them. They, of course, did nothing to deserve this.

My only ex-girlfriend dumped me because I ignored that she existed. I likened her to a whale, among other things. She misspelled healthier once, and I never stopped bringing it up. Heavens, I was a terrible boyfriend. I hope to make a better girlfriend :P

As do I, Sweety.

I appreciate your honesty.

I think I'm in a stage where I wish to pay for some of the nasty things I've done.

I seen this as a good opportunity to start.

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Guest angie

I used to be homophobic,giving gays a very rough time of it.

I was relentless and mean as heck.Being a powerfully built(man)

not one would say anything back.Not being physically abusive just verbally.

It was all to hide my hidden inner woman.A ploy to throw others off of my

intense desire to switch genders,and keep my wife in the dark about my true self.

Do I feel bad about it?Yeah I do.

Angie

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Guest Alyssa Leigh

The things I have done include making a mess on a freashly mopped floor and left it there, kept prank calling this girl while she was working. The meanest thing I have done was the time I took garlic spread and wiped it all over her work hat while she was at break.

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Guest 1charlotte1

No one hate me for this pleez!!!

I chose to lose my virginity one month after I broke up with my ex-girlfriend. At her sweet sixteen. Literally @ the party.

I had been dating my ex for almost two years. Even better still. I lost it to her other ex. Who she had a crush on at the time. She was planning on asking him out that night.

Am I going to hell? Because I deserve it.

Had to get that off my chest.

Sorry!!! Charlotte

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Guest amie
No one hate me for this pleez!!!

I chose to lose my virginity one month after I broke up with my ex-girlfriend. At her sweet sixteen. Literally @ the party.

I had been dating my ex for almost two years. Even better still. I lost it to her other ex. Who she had a crush on at the time. She was planning on asking him out that night.

Am I going to hell? Because I deserve it.Had to get that off my chest.

Sorry!!! Charlotte

Hardly, Sweety.

But this is the core of what this thread is about, or so I've begun to feel it such, anyway.

Ours is a challenging and sometimes entertaining life of which maybe sometimes we should express the thoughts of our journey in retrospective?

And let me be the hostess and follow me if only you feel necassary for I have many quite unhonorable stories to tell. Smile and feel good about yourself.

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Guest Evan_J
:mellow: Believe me, it ain't just you ladies that have shameful mean stories they could tell. But I can't tell mine. Its a pg site :P They come from people feeling "stuck " though . When people feel stuck they feel angry and want revenge. "Someone is gonna pay" , "I'm hurting and someone is gonna pay" is that feeling.
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Guest Zabrak

I broke a guys heart and then he had a epileptic seizure - he had epilepsy. I never dated him, nor did I even like him. But he was super obsessed with me in high school(grade 8), and I simply said no one liked him or wanted him around.

Wish I could go back and say sorry to the poor fellow. I could of been a lot nicer with him.

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Guest Elizabeth K

NAW

Not a mean bone in my body!

And you are a rotten person for starting this TOPIC. Go soak your head in vinegar to get some of those vile thoughts you have! And at her 16th birthday - you are hugely evil.

Just some thoughts...

Sweet Lizzy

I would swizzle my sister's tooth brush in the toilet and put it back in the rack.

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Well, I am a Saint compared to some of you - Jacci did you get a shot of that lightening bolt - it was a big one and so close! :lol:

I never really tormented anyone myself but to my shame, I never did anything to try to stop it when someone started telling someone that they were ugly, stupid or useless, I just stood there or laughed when the others laughed I don't remember ever really joining in but that just may be my mind's edit to make me feel better.

Some of the instances were very cruel and involved people with severe handicaps - how could I just let this go on?

Proving that there is no such thing as an innocent bystander.

I knew how they were feeling, I had been the object of a few of these when I was younger and again by some "friends" in college.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Christie
NAW

Not a mean bone in my body!

And you are a rotten person for starting this TOPIC. Go soak your head in vinegar to get some of those vile thoughts you have! And at her 16th birthday - you are hugely evil.

Just some thoughts...

Sweet Lizzy

I would swizzle my sister's tooth brush in the toilet and put it back in the rack.

:mellow: Believe me, it ain't just you ladies that have shameful mean stories they could tell. But I can't tell mine. Its a pg site :P They come from people feeling "stuck " though . When people feel stuck they feel angry and want revenge. "Someone is gonna pay" , "I'm hurting and someone is gonna pay" is that feeling.

Wow what a topic I must say. I think it can actually do some good for ppl to get things out that they feel bad about tho.

I dont feel like I have "a mean bone in my body" I have been going thru things for so so long now even before I came out (15) that I can take so so much. I dont want others to feel anything close to what I have felt and definately not from me. I keep getting into these give and take relationships (with ppl in general). I keep giving all I can and they keep taking everything else from me. . . so I can totally understand "I'm hurting and someone is gonna pay" I take so much for so long . . . (I blame it on being almost half and half Irish/Italian and a Gemini at that) I have ended up doing my fair share of horrible things again tho to people in general. Some I feel horrible about otheres were deserved. . .

As far as being a good bf/gf . . . I was with 4 girls total. The first one didnt know at all. We broke up bc of it. The 2nd I told a few months into the relationship. She was ok w/ it. The 3rd was very short but she also knew (rebound). Then I went back to the 2nd for a while longer lol. (how typical lol) The last WAS the ONLY one I ever got serious with. She knew before hand and her mom would let me spend the nite and everything. I was already going out dressed for a good bit tho it was just here and there for a while. And her brother was gay so her mom used to even let me sleep over. One night there were four of us in her room after going to see rocky horror picture show!!!! I passed out on the bed and they messed w/ me for like 30 min trying to wake me. She was dating someone at the time and he was on the phone (saying things i wouldnt dare repeat to neone) and she was crying. . . I woke up instantly and ran over to her and told the other 2 to leave the room.

All in all I was only truely a bf to one of them. I was more of a gf even then to be honest. And I was a good one for the most part. Ive always said "It may be a little bit depressing but its easy to give someone what they want when you want the same things." It does vary tho. Most of my relationships ended pretty badly w/ both of us going at it. And being horrible to eachother. At this point I have forced myself to put most of it out of my mind.

And as usual you get 2 things you almost always get from me on here. A story and my honest opinion. My point in this is everyone is different and everyone reacts to things differently. If there are things you feel bad about sometimes it really is good to get them out and move on with your life. Be sure you learned the lesson you needed b4 you do all that. There are lessons in everything, everywhere. "we will still be learning the day we die"

I am going to stop there b4 I go off on my own religious/spritual thing I believe because I hate when other ppl go into all that.

2 cents isnt enough for me so Im giving you a couple dimes instead. . .

Being that I have been thru a lot I hope I can help some others out there.

Love Always

Christie

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Trust me... my entire life is like a saga of war with biomales.... I should say though they started it... by not accepting me as equal.

Yes, I badly envy males... I resent manly men in the gym, cause they're stronger than me. I tend to be very verbally mean

and hurtful even with males I really like. I always want to fight biomales... I want to physically fight and win. (I stay out of it... can't take

boxing classes cause my finger joints were damaged before)

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Guest Alyssa Leigh
NAW

Not a mean bone in my body!

And you are a rotten person for starting this TOPIC. Go soak your head in vinegar to get some of those vile thoughts you have! And at her 16th birthday - you are hugely evil.

Just some thoughts...

Sweet Lizzy

I would swizzle my sister's tooth brush in the toilet and put it back in the rack.

I should have done that with other peoples tooth brushes when I was younger. I would probally laugh after they used it.

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Guest Elizabeth K

Considered the coming of age for girls - who mature faster than guys. It's an unofficial stage of beginning womanhood.

Wikipedia: A sweet sixteen party is a type of birthday party in the United States and Canada, usually celebrating a girl's sixteenth birthday. Sweet Sixteen parties were once given as a celebration of the girl's virginity, but are now more generally a coming of age celebration.

Hope this helps.

Lizzy

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In Hispanic cultures it is the fifteenth birthday when they 'present' the daughter to society (so all the young men and their families can take notice) it is called a Quincennera.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Evan_J
I've never understood what the big thing is about your 16th birthday.

You have to imagine that since as early as this girl can remember understanding "what a birthday was" , her mother(<--key figure) and society (its even in movies) have "carried on" that this is a big event for her. Based on an old tradition, it was her "entry into society" or in plain terms "date of eligibility to be dated". For that, it also is implied that it is her "date of entry into social womanhood" as opposed to "girlhood". Many moons ago, a party for this birthday was a biiiiig deal, families spent lots of $ (she was "on display" and the better she looked the higher the possibility of them getting her chosen), in some circles a huge balll was even thrown for all young women reaching that age in a certain season and following it any interested young men (and sometimes not so young <_< ) were allowed to "call upon her" since she was then marryable. Even now, although the age of consent to marry is typically 18, with a girls family's permission she may (in most states) be married at 16. It is one of the things produced by the mind frame that a girl child only has the value of getting selected and mated by a buyer .... err I mean "husband".

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Guest April63

Yeah, I wasn't allowed to date until 16, but I still never understood what was so special about the a 16th birthday party. I mean what's so different about it? I guess it could have been different historically, but not really anymore.

As for mean things I've done to girls, none really. Maybe I've done something not so nice, but not because of envy or anything like that.

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Yeah, I wasn't allowed to date until 16, but I still never understood what was so special about the a 16th birthday party. I mean what's so different about it? I guess it could have been different historically, but not really anymore.

The party itself was an "advertising" opportunity. Families seldom see male bodied children as needing that. "Males" (not that you were one) are "the choosers" of the world, their social status is beyond having to wait for someone else to want them before they are of value.

You would be surprised how many people still think like this :( When I was growing up my grandmothers neighbor was "agast" that they were saving for me to go to college. Their granddaughter was the same age and the statement was "for what???? All they are going to do is get married!!!!" I can remember going to job interviews at 18 and having people flat out say "we prefer not to hire females, especially young ones because all they do is get married and then you need to hire someone all over again". And its really prevailant (or seemed to be) in certain ethnicities and religious backgrounds. One of my classmates from gradeschool was engaged by her family to someone she had never met at 15, pulled out of school at 16 to be married to him, and they all "celebrated" because they had gotten her "accepted" by someone. This was 1985 not 1905. In senior year (I graduated in 1986) "the big senior project" was to plan your wedding. To the detail. If it was not detailed (so that you had a working plan) you were marked "incomplete" for senior year. Your chemistry grade was irrelevant, your economics grades, political science, none had the "weight" of this "wedding".

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Guest LightNebula
Trust me... my entire life is like a saga of war with biomales.... I should say though they started it... by not accepting me as equal.

Yes, I badly envy males... I resent manly men in the gym, cause they're stronger than me. I tend to be very verbally mean

and hurtful even with males I really like. I always want to fight biomales... I want to physically fight and win. (I stay out of it... can't take

boxing classes cause my finger joints were damaged before)

Shouldn't you only be that way though with males who aren't nice and friendly to you? or maybe at least just to ones who're rude, mean, etc. to you?

I've never done anything mean to anyone out of envy. I also haven't felt envy or jealousy for a long time.

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I didn't date or kiss until I was 21....

In my home country it's normal... As to coming of age, it seems like in America people do that way before 16... I mean all the stuff I hear about kids getting pregnant and having relationships, as young as 13. For me, sweet 16 was a big deal, it was the best time (and best birthday) of my life, I know I won't be happy like that again.

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Guest amie
Shouldn't you only be that way though with males who aren't nice and friendly to you? or maybe at least just to ones who're rude, mean, etc. to you?

I've never done anything mean to anyone out of envy. I also haven't felt envy or jealousy for a long time.

Good for you. It's a rather pathetic emotion. I'll be the first to stand up and say it.

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When I was growing up my grandmothers neighbor was "agast" that they were saving for me to go to college. Their granddaughter was the same age and the statement was "for what???? All they are going to do is get married!!!!" I can remember going to job interviews at 18 and having people flat out say "we prefer not to hire females, especially young ones because all they do is get married and then you need to hire someone all over again". And its really prevailant (or seemed to be) in certain ethnicities and religious backgrounds. One of my classmates from gradeschool was engaged by her family to someone she had never met at 15, pulled out of school at 16 to be married to him, and they all "celebrated" because they had gotten her "accepted" by someone. This was 1985 not 1905. In senior year (I graduated in 1986) "the big senior project" was to plan your wedding. To the detail. If it was not detailed (so that you had a working plan) you were marked "incomplete" for senior year. Your chemistry grade was irrelevant, your economics grades, political science, none had the "weight" of this "wedding".

:o *goes into anaphylactic shock from his allergy to antifeminism and passes out on the floor*

Um, anyways, back to the topic. I'm too much of a coward to really do anything.... But I have certainly been extremely jealous of a few bio-males. I just stew privately about it, though, and glare at them when they're not looking.

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Guest Cait

sometimes being too nice is just as bad.

i hear what a nice guy i am several times a year.

i'm sure i have been mean to at least several girlfriends

the first one used to fool around with at least three other boys.

mostly girls have been mean to me, it wasn't even until the last few years that all that many seemed attracted to me, which is probably a waste of their

time. At one point I decided i must be some kind of "love primer" as they slept with the next guy they dated about 3 or 4 times. I guess this was intended

to be hurtful, although it generally back fired on them.

oh, i did date another girl that had met my previous girl friend...the former girlfriend had made friends with her replacement for some reason.

the whole reason i was dating the other girl was because my relationship with girlfriend number one was over.

she acted really weird about the new girlfriend and made trouble for me in that area, and i never dated again for years.

the interesting part was she was a crappy girlfriend (number one)\

it fit the usual pattern of me spending alot of money and time on them.

while they did not much in the way of pleasing me.

perhaps i was a big cash cow for them?

i guess that does suck with the cash cow, or provider moves on.

who could blame me, all the benefits were going to other guys.

when i think of my ex-girlfriends, i mainly feel they wanted to be with their father's.

who could say what they are into now, many people I know are hurt when i don't speak to them in public

I"m just not the same person anymore, i guess.

i doubt the girls you folks have "pranked" are too hurt, all the ones i know have dated so many people, i take a sense of joy in the fact they can't remember

me if they tried.

hehehehehe

Cait ;)

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