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Jeanette Is Having Surgery!


Jeanette West

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Tomorrow 01-23-21 is the big day!!? I am off work until 02-25-21, in Chicago preparing for my surgery Saturday.

Background: I was diagnosed gender-dysphoric awhile ago, back when information was extremely limited. So I buried my insides and got on with life. I returned to university for the Fall '98 semester, bought and ancient military surplus PC that was all-steel, it weighed 70 pounds, which I had to carry to the top floor of my dorm! While I was hooking it up, one of the computer wizards down the hall asked me if I'd ever heard of "The Internet". I hadn't, at which a group of these adorable geniuses set up my comp for me and introduced me to the wonders of Netscape Navigator and I was off!

That first week I did a search under "transexual" and found Dr. Zukowski's clinic in Chicago. I would read every sing;e page at least once per week while I was at University of Alaska Fairbanks, just musing about The Day. And here I am 23-years later. I told this story to Dr. Z last summer when I met him for the first time, kind of like meeting a Hollywood star, I had to remember to breath. He mentioned this story to the surgery team I met while at the pre-op yesterday; there were tears involved. The good kind.

I'll have the following:

1. Browlift with frontal bone contouring, scalp advancement and fat-grafting to fill soft tissue hollowing.

2. Upper and lower eyelid lifts with 35% YCA chemical peel.

3. Feminizing rhinoplasty/septoplasty.

4. Upper lip lift and length reduction.

5. Chin-bone contouring, chin soft tissue reshape with tracheal shave.

6. Jaw body and jaw angle contouring, some muscle work, and fat excision.

7. Full mid, lower face, neck and jaw skin facelift.

8. Fat graft to the lips, soft tissue to the cheeks, and naso-labial folds.

9. Breast augmentation using Mentor Classic Round Medium Smooth Cohesive I Silicone 640cc.

These will be done over ~12 hours. I have contracted with a nurse to be with me from the recovery room for 72-hours continous with an option to extend depending on how I feel.

I would like to add; this is not a plug for Dr. Z, but a story of one individuals', more than a decade of dreaming, hope and sometimes striving towards a goal. Anyone can do it, I know, I am here to tell you it can be done. A little here, a little there, the warchest will grow.

 

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Could an edit function be added so I could correct spelling and grammatical errors? Thank you!

 

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1 hour ago, Jeanette West said:

Could an edit function be added so I could correct spelling and grammatical errors? Thank you!

I am sorry, but we cannot do that for members. Please let any of us on the Moderator / Administrator team know what you need to have corrected and we will do it for you with no question and no charge.  I do not see any problems up in your post that would keep others from understanding what is going on, and I wish you the very best results and rapid healing.  Dreams can come true for us.

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That's why I always proof read anything I've written before hitting the Post tab. At one time we did have an edit function for members but it got out of hand. Unbeknownst to us, we had been infiltrated by 4chan and a certain religious denomination. They would make an innocent post and once that post had been moderator approved, they would change it to something hateful and demeaning toward other members. That's why members can no longer edit their posts. As Vicky stated above, we will make any corrections for you as long as it doesn't go against our community rules.

 

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Congratulations Jeanette!  I know this is a dream come true!!

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I'm so excited for you, Jeanette! Sending you well wishes from NYC for a successful surgery, a speedy recovery, and dreams realized. ❤️ 

 

Love,

~Audrey.

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Congratulations @Jeanette West! May your results be better than expected and your healing swift and without scars!

 

Hugs!

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For anyone who wishes, or as in my case, needs to check spelling and grammar, look for Grammerly and install it on your computer, there’s even an app for iPads so properly one for android smartphones too. It checks your spelling and grammar and although it does tally how you are doing compared with other users, it’s never used that against me. ?

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Firstly - @Jeanette West - I wish you all the best for a quick recovery and that the results alleviate your dysphoria.

But then I had to laugh at your post @Petra Jane. I think you meant "probably" rather than "properly"! (Sorry - just my strange sense of humour) - An instance where both spell and grammar checkers can be fooled.

4 hours ago, Petra Jane said:

For anyone who wishes, or as in my case, needs to check spelling and grammar, look for Grammerly and install it on your computer, there’s even an app for iPads so properly one for android smartphones too. It checks your spelling and grammar and although it does tally how you are doing compared with other users, it’s never used that against me. ?

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Thank you everyone! Went to Best Buy and picked up a Sony 4K player and hooked it up to the TV in my hotel room. $199 and now I have beautiful, razor sharp movies to watch. I'll get one, then time to get some sleep; I'll be up for my Hibiclens shower and relax before my car gets here to take me to the clinic. The magic starts at 6:00 a.m. as per the doctor. :)

 

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This was yesterday. I was in so much pain. I will write a more in-depth review, but here I am, all better now, swelling going down, having so much fun with my nurse. Yes, I would do it again too. Love all you gals....!

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OOOHH!  Yes it must be painful, but it will pass and yes I completely understand that you would do it again.  The bruising won't last long.  I know you will be happy.  I feel good for you already.  

 

Hugs, Jani

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