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Hey all. My name is Raven. I am a 47 year old guy that likes dressing. I want to transition into a woman! My wife is very supportive and I hope that I can make some new friends here!

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3 hours ago, Sarahtoraven said:

I want to transition into a woman! My wife is very supportive

Hello @Sarahtoraven, A pleasure to meet you. It’s always nice to see those two sentences together. Too often that is not the case. Your journey should be much smoother having an ally in your spouse. I’m looking forward to reading good things about your transition to womanhood. I wish you the very best!

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R🌷 

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Jackie C.

Salutations!

 

Always happy to meet another Michigander! They never seem to live close enough to hang out though. 😕

 

Welcome to TransPulse! We're glad you're here!

 

Hugs!

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@Sarahtoraven, it's nice to meet you and welcome to the forums! I'm confident you'll find the community here warm, friendly, and supportive as you began your transition. It's wonderful hear that you have your wife's support as well. Looking forward to seeing you around and getting to know you better!

 

Love,

~Audrey.

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Hi Raven, pleased to meet you! :) 

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Hello and welcome!

Glad to have you join us. Happy to hear your wife supports the transition the more on the journey the merrier.

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Timber Wolf

Hi Raven,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf🐾

 

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