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Guest erorave

So I read up Don't Ask Don't Tell on wikipedia and i get the part where you cannot discolse any information about being homosexual and that you cannot commit any acts considered homosexual (which i think is unfair, you agree?). What I do not get is how this policy affects transgender individuals. Aren't there heterosexual transwomen and transmen? At any case, what about people who want to have surgery during active duty?

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Guest Donna Jean
What I do not get is how this policy affects transgender individuals. Aren't there heterosexual transwomen and transmen? At any case, what about people who want to have surgery during active duty?

That won't happen, Hon.....

You'd be out in a nano-second....

In the USA you cannot transition in the service.. any shape or form...

There are a couple of girls here on Laura's in the military that have started hormones while in.

If caught...they will be out..............

Fair?

Nope...

Just the way it is right now....

Did my service in the 60's...they didn't know that I was Transgendered....for that matter...neither did I!

Love....

Donna Jean

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Guest erorave

Oh dear that.. kinda hurts.. but it wont stop me from trying to get in.. *sigh* it seems enlisting into the military is the only choice i have at this moment considering where my family and I stand financially.

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Guest Donna Jean
Oh dear that.. kinda hurts.. but it wont stop me from trying to get in.. *sigh* it seems enlisting into the military is the only choice i have at this moment considering where my family and I stand financially.

What are you thinking of joining? Army, Navy...?

Some branches are far easier to live in than others...either way...you'll probably be tied up for the next 6 years...

Probably 4 years active and 2 years inactive reserve...

I know, Sweetie....in these times lots of folks are going in because of financial reasons...

But just remember....If you are able to get on hormones and are caught it will be a general discharge for you....Transition is out of the question ...

And then you'll be out and still be in bad financial shape...

Have you explored other options that are non-military?

I feel bad for you , Sweetheart...I'd like to help if I could....

Huggs...

Donna Jean

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Guest erorave
Oh dear that.. kinda hurts.. but it wont stop me from trying to get in.. *sigh* it seems enlisting into the military is the only choice i have at this moment considering where my family and I stand financially.

Well to the best of my knowledge there may be one but it requires money that i dont have which is about 5500USD if I am correct.. It's this LPN/LVN program that lets you study at home for 9 months, youll have monthly exams, then youll have clinical rotations in the Philippines(the program won't cover flying tickets) for 3 months which doesnt bother me at all since i lived there for quite some time. But like i said it requires money I nor my father has.

I was thinking of navy.. enlisting seems like the fastest and most awarding even though not the easiest way i guess and i keep on hearing about the benefits and what not..

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Guest Chad Micheals

beign in the miliatry my self i haev done hard core stuidng on how not to be booted under an regs we have that AR, DADT, and so many other books we have to rules in..

here is lots of infor on the issues faced by us beside if the worgn perosn find out ur going to be kill.. if u ever watched soldier's grl it was true life but changed location of the movie... my one goo mtf friend lefted that unit and came to this one and he on duty was scaried to death at time of beign found out..

this is legal site for miltiary LGBT issues

palm center feed

there is lot out there that can give u head ack while reading it all up.. in just if ur found out to be TG u are kicked out under mental health and can lose ur va and IG bill.. u hind for ut life.. i;m FTM but i still hidnm for the most part..

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beign in the miliatry my self i haev done hard core stuidng on how not to be booted under an regs we have that AR, DADT, and so many other books we have to rules in..

here is lots of infor on the issues faced by us beside if the worgn perosn find out ur going to be kill.. if u ever watched soldier's grl it was true life but changed location of the movie... my one goo mtf friend lefted that unit and came to this one and he on duty was scaried to death at time of beign found out..

this is legal site for miltiary LGBT issues

palm center feed

there is lot out there that can give u head ack while reading it all up.. in just if ur found out to be TG u are kicked out under mental health and can lose ur va and IG bill.. u hind for ut life.. i;m FTM but i still hidnm for the most part..

Thank you very much Chad, I almost missed your post. I hope you and your friends are doing fine out there

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Guest Chad Micheals
Thank you very much Chad, I almost missed your post. I hope you and your friends are doing fine out there

its all good.. we got 4 months left here then we get back to gremany then i get be home, we dogin ok just missign real life ... do hope that helped.

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