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I'm glad I found this site!  What a wealth of expierience and information. I'm Tamsyn (Name picked by my eldest daughter on a Poll at school!)  My name became legal this week after three years of personal struggle admitting and accepting who I am.  Like so many on here, I hid my true feelings from a young age. Was bullied terribly as a child- obviously just queer! To prove I wasnt, married had children. Thought of myself as a "Shouldnt have been", a freak, disgusting.

 

Had that reoccuring thought about being a women... Bought clothes, threw away clothes... "Shudder, whats that about?" finally decided, with much councelling that it's something I can do and can achieve. I'm 40 and bald, but feel bloomin fantastic being the real me!

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Welcome Tamsyn.

1 hour ago, LusciousTheLock said:

To prove I wasnt, married had children.

There's a lot of us here.  I spent years running from myself.

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Delcina B

Tamsyn,

Love the name! That's so special your daughter helped pick it out. Tell me about throwing out the girl things thinking I wouldn't be who I really am. 

So glad you're here!

Delcina

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3 hours ago, LusciousTheLock said:

I'm glad I found this site!  What a wealth of expierience and information. I'm Tamsyn (Name picked by my eldest daughter on a Poll at school!)  My name became legal this week after three years of personal struggle admitting and accepting who I am.  Like so many on here, I hid my true feelings from a young age. Was bullied terribly as a child- obviously just queer! To prove I wasnt, married had children. Thought of myself as a "Shouldnt have been", a freak, disgusting.

 

Had that reoccuring thought about being a women... Bought clothes, threw away clothes... "Shudder, whats that about?" finally decided, with much councelling that it's something I can do and can achieve. I'm 40 and bald, but feel bloomin fantastic being the real me!

Very similar story to mine. Not transitioning yet.😥 Welcome

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3 hours ago, LusciousTheLock said:

but feel bloomin fantastic being the real me!

Welcome Tamsyn,  That's great that you feel good about yourself!  Please join in when you can.

 

Cheers, Jani

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Timber Wolf

Hi Tamsyn,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf🐾

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LusciousTheLock

Thanks for the welcomes!  Just reading other peoples stories, its amazing how similar we all are. All those years, all the times I thought "I cant talk about of that, its weird" and "I'm so alone.",  Well I guess there are likeminded people :D

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Hi Tamsyn, pleased to meet you! It was such a relief to see other folk who had done the same things as I had for years! :) 

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Hi Tamsyn.  Indeed you are not alone.  just knowing that helped me.  We can support and understand each other as few are able to do.  Glad you've joined us.  As another bald person i've grown to enjoy my wigs.  Kinda like wearing a hat and warts and cosy in the winter.  Your picture is lovely without one!  Enjoy.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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I do love a nice hat :)  My counsellor was initially excited by my choice of wig options, but to be honest, I hate the feeling. When I first admitted that I wanted to be / was a woman. I felt like a fraud. And a wig kinda added to that fakeness. I decided to see if I could feminise what I had. Sadly with the Covid causing lockdown in the UK there is nowehere to get laser hair removal for my smooth look. My last session was January last year and its traumatising! I have to shave every day, head and face then apply thick foundation to hide my beard and bald spot. But I can hide it for a good 8hrs now, but it all gets so very sore :(

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