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So I read everywhere that being on HRT for MTF results in these amazing orgasms, that it is so different, a mind blowing full body experience (one transgirl I was talking to mentioned having multiple orgasms in a row). My experience is nothing like that. In fact I don't even do it much because it takes a lot of work for very little results. Am I missing something? Or did I just win the lottery on having lackluster orgasms.

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Orgasm's do change on HRT and do move away from just the place below your belly button and become more generalized, but it is pretty much like fishing.  The biggest one  was too big to get on the boat to take a picture of.  Having been on HRT for 12 years now, I do not have a large number, and they usually come from gentle touch in a lot of body areas, and they take a LONG TIME to work their way up to a climax.  The biggest problem is getting a partner who can put time in with you, and too many guys can't do it that long.  Nipples, other breast work, long slow body rubs, a nibble on the ear or two, breath and repeat until big O happens.  On T, it is lock, load, and fire.  You do have to practice and you do have to find out how YOU work.  Nothing is guaranteed, but all O's are created equal, it is that that is how they are created, not finished.  It will take 6 months to 3 years for your hormones to create the finished big event, but don't lose hope.

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3 hours ago, ElizabethStar said:

You and me both.

Nice to know I'm not alone, I thought I was the only one.

Vicky I guess I will just keep waiting for it.

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Got my first version of this the other day...was not anticipating that it would happen so when it did it was quite surprising...it was strange to go through it and as Vicky said, not have one's focus on that one area of your body but almost all over. 

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I find that it's more of a mental game now. If I'm in the right head-space they come and they're amazing, but like Vicky said, they're more work.

 

The head-space is the most important bit. Once I'm in the mood, you've got between thirty minutes and two hours of work ahead. I can get in the mood pretty easily with a partner, but I have yet to have somebody else bring me to climax. It's an education thing. I need to show my partner what to do without making her feel inadequate, so delicate balance.

 

It's a work in progress.

 

Hugs!

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Claire, you are definitely not alone in this. Over the past few months similar thought was on my mind. I am a bit ahead of you on hrt, but definitely not experiencing any difference in the big O. And paradoxically, I even have less sensations from area like breasts that should have been improving, go figure.

On the other hand, who is to say I never experienced full female orgasm before? This is one of those areas where it’s your personal experience with your own body that creates all the magic. And you just need to find the right incantation ?

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@AwesomeClaire, you're not alone on this. I've been on HRT for just over 6 months and I can attest to the fact that the O's don't come as easy as they once did for me. And I can't even manage it more than once at a time. I really hope that changes. I think I still might be on the guy orgasm thing. I find that it usually takes me days of winding myself up if I'm even going to come close to the O. I'm finding the when they say that most cis women don't have them or rarely have them, they aren't kidding. :( . The times I do manage to have one, I find it's a mix of touch and mental stimulation, I have to get ready by reading stimulating stories in advance just to get my mind going in the right direction. Thank god for the site literotica! Most of the time it's a no fire. So much different than the male me, just looking at a dirty movie and I would be ready to go in minutes, not so much now.  :)

 

Not trying to go into the TMI territory, but this morning (not even joking) one of my girlfriends was telling me about these books shes reading about these brothers who are into BDSM, I thought that was going to be my ticket, but nope, close but no cigar.  I was really mad, she got me going and nothing happened. She at least has a husband.. No one for me at the moment. lol. I'm finding that when I do get them, they last longer and are more enjoyable and so much less messy.. lol. I've only seen them twice in all this time. :(  

 

Just remember Clair honey, anything worth having is worth working for. It's going to take longer now, but when it happens, I find it's all over mind and body blowing. Just keep working at it, you shouldn't just stop having them. 

 

For me, I just wish they happened more often and easier. But I prefer this because it's more inline with cis women, and that to me is what really counts. I do miss them and just how easy they were to have though!!!!!!!

 

Orgasms for us are now like that old boyfriend that you had a real connection with, right now they don't show up as often as you wish they did, but when they do, it's so great that you really miss them when they leave.

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5 hours ago, ValerieRun said:

 

On the other hand, who is to say I never experienced full female orgasm before? This is one of those areas where it’s your personal experience with your own body that creates all the magic.

@ValerieRun, Oh honey you hit the nail on the head, who says we've never had the perfect female orgasm before as boys. With guys the O is over so fast. Who knows if males would have the perfect full body orgasms like girls if it lasted for more than a few seconds.. lol

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That makes sense, thanks. I wouldn't give up on it, was more or less wondering if something was wrong with me. 

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No! Clair, in fact I say everything's right with you Hun. lol

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1 hour ago, AwesomeClaire said:

if something was wrong with me

 

Big NO

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I should point out that I don't have a partner at this time of my life, but…

In my experience, there are different kinds of them.  The kind I associate with the guy thing tends to be pretty directed toward one area.  And then there is a more full-body sort, that is more internal, but pretty intense.  At least in my experience this doesn't necessarily require the involvement of "down there" but is quite satisfying.  But, I suspect this is a very individual sort of thing.

2 hours ago, HollyNoel said:

I find it's a mix of touch and mental stimulation, I have to get ready by reading stimulating stories in advance just to get my mind going in the right direction.

I find that these days I am less visually stimulated than I used to be.  I'm kind of developing a taste for "steamy romance" paperbacks.  Whoo…  

But I'm kinda weird I think.  I suspect I'm more pansexual. At times I think there is a type of spiritual thing involved.   But then, like I said, I'm kinda weird.

 

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@Jandi I don't have a partner. I never dated hardly at all. I don't want to sound pathetic, but I've only ever been with two people, a girl and a guy once each. So this girl has no experience with getting the O with anyone else. I'm hoping that changes now that I can feel more free to be who I am. I'm still basically still a virgin, speaking of, anyone know if they are making the sequel to the 40 year old virgin. I will be available to play the 52 year old virgin.. lol

 

Anyway, i am lacking in a partner right now, I am hoping that it's different with someone else as it is solo.

 

And no! I'm not making a joke. 2 people in the 52 years. Yes I know, pathetic.. lol

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1 hour ago, HollyNoel said:

@Jandi I don't have a partner. I never dated hardly at all. I don't want to sound pathetic, but I've only ever been with two people, a girl and a guy once each. So this girl has no experience with getting the O with anyone else. I'm hoping that changes now that I can feel more free to be who I am. I'm still basically still a virgin, speaking of, anyone know if they are making the sequel to the 40 year old virgin. I will be available to play the 52 year old virgin.. lol

 

Anyway, i am lacking in a partner right now, I am hoping that it's different with someone else as it is solo.

 

And no! I'm not making a joke. 2 people in the 52 years. Yes I know, pathetic.. lol

 

Um, sweetie? I've been with exactly two women. One of them was just one time. One of them is my wife. I turn 51 in... let's see... 22 days so your experience isn't that unusual I don't think. At least I don't FEEL like a freak.

 

I'm teaching my spouse (slowly and gently) to give me an O with the new hardware. Heck, I had to figure out how to do it for myself first. For both of us now that I think about it. I mean I had to figure out how her hardware worked without an instruction manual and she didn't really know either. Fortunately if you approach the problem with enthusiasm and a "can-do" attitude, solutions present themselves. :thumbsup:

 

Hugs!

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Jackie, I bet she thinks its not fair, she may have owned the equipment all her life, but you girl, have learned how to make it purr. She basically has to learn someone else's from start. Having one and knowing what pleases you is a long way to knowing how to please the same equipment on someone else. lol. I bet she knows the ins and outs of YOUR old equipment. lol

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1 hour ago, HollyNoel said:

I bet she knows the ins and outs of YOUR old equipment.

 

Oh, if only that were true. She tried bless her heart, but... I love her dearly, but she doesn't have my flair. She never really got the hang of things. Fortunately, I enjoy pleasing her and my own O is secondary to that.

 

Hugs!

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OMG Jackie, that is so sweet. I'm not crying because of this, I have a lash in my eye. I hope I can finally find someone like you..

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3 hours ago, HollyNoel said:

2 people in the 52 years. Yes I know, pathetic.. lol

I've only been with 2 women, a brief time with an older one, and then my ex for over 40 years.  There was one time with a guy before either of them when I was wondering if I was gay.  There was one time beside that, but it was kinda complicated…   

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Jandi hun, you had a 40 year relationship. I haven't even had more that a couple hour thing. I really hope I can find someone that's willing to put the time in on me. And I hope I find them soon, playing cards solo only gets you a sore hand. Especially now that it just takes so damn long!!!  lol

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Okay, maybe I am the weird one here.  I am generally asexual.  I find a lot of guys cute, and I am not very interested in women at all anymore.  I am just not interested in more than friendship.  I am pretty happy being single, but about like once every three or four months I get feeling just a little bit of an "urge".  (I totally can't believe I am talking about this, but since the topic came up...).  Most of the time I kinda ignore it and it goes away.  Usually lasts a day or two at most.

 

A couple of months back I was laying in bed and I let my mind wander about how it would be like to be with a guy.  The more I thought about it, the more I got kinda aroused, but not in my genitalia.  It was kind of a whole body thing.  Then I had like this massive "WHAT THE HECK IS THAT !?!" orgasm, without even touching myself.  It was just from imagining what it might be like.  Totally shook my world and left me feeling all idk euphoric, warm, tingly, or whatever inside for some time after.  It was def whole-body experience, like arms, legs, my whole tummy, breasts, everything was involved.  Repeated the whole thing a couple of weeks later to see if it was just a one-time thing.  It wasn't.  So, uh...  yeah... is that a thing or am I crazier than I previously thought?

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1 hour ago, KimmieElise said:

So, uh...  yeah... is that a thing or am I crazier than I previously thought?

 

Totally a thing. Like I said, mental. I can wok myself up into some, um, interesting sensations all on my own. I can't get my O that way, but the mental game sets up the "pins" so to speak.

 

Hugs!

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