Out Of Closet,feel The Same

[Guest Sandy]

Hi everyone. Let me explain. I told my wife a while ago that I love to dress as a woman. I really felt good about coming out. I have taken the slow approach(very, very slow) so that she could get used to it. The problem is she will not talk about it, so I feel just as stressed out as I did before coming out of the closet. I thought with her knowing over the last couple of years, she could see that I'm still the same person and love her very much. I allways thought we could tell each other anything, I guess I was wrong. When we walk past a skirt I really want or anything else, I just want to scream out, please can I have that? I get so tense when we go shopping, I see all the beautiful womans clothes and I wish my wife could understand my emotions are just going crazy. When a lady shops, do they not get some enjoyment from that? I wish she could understand that I feel the same way, but I have no one to tell. So everything is bottled up again. Sometimes I just want to cry. Nope, can't do that, have to keep that tough guy look going.......Bye for now...Sandy

[Guest Sally Stone]

Sandy,

You can always tell the girls here on this forum. We all do listen. Keep your chin up young lady. All is not necessarily lost. Think about how difficult being a crossdresser can be, and then imagine the internal turmoil of someone who doesn't understand or have any of the feelings each of us lives with. It is really challenging for a wife.

I think you need to be persistant but gentle with your wife. She married you for better or for worse, so she needs to know how you are feeling and how those feelings are affecting you personally.

I'm not saying she has to embrace crossdressing, but she needs to understand that it is a part of you that can't be suppressed. You have to ensure you don't push crossdressing on her but you have to be honest with her about how it is affecting you.

I wish you all the best, and I think I speak for many of us here when I say that we are always here to listen. You aren't alone.

Hugs,

Sally

[Guest joan eden]

I understand.My wife knows but she won't talk about it.She started crying when I told her about fourteen years ago and ,I perhaps made the mistake of saying I would never bring it up again, if she didn't want me to.About a year ago she found on my E mail some pics I had taken. They were of me and some were like cheese cake poses.Half nude. they were fun to make.She hit the roof. It took a least a month for her to forgive me.Still not talking about dressing.I've read it many times before being a CD is a blessing and a curse.I read of a guy whos wife went to were he worked and told everyone.She told everyone they knew.She went nuts.His life was over he said and, maybe it was.I don't know the out come divorce it least.Once you let the Genie out there's no going back.