What's a good way to get people to stop misgendering me?

[whatishappening]

I’m out as a trans guy to the people at my school, and they still misgender me often. I like to think I look pretty masculine, and I’ve been out for a few months. How do I get them to stop misgendering me without coming off as rude?

[VickySGV]

For a few, you may have to get rude with no shame to it.  If it is people you have been around all your life in school it may take you and your counselor to get on the teachers, who in turn get on the students to accept the change and let them know how to behave.  People who have known you across genders are the worst at the gender thing even if you bulk up like heavy weight wrestler or weight lifter. Pick good allies and get them to help you is the best way to do it.  I had a young (now older) friend who had to go to he ACLU to get a School District to buy in to her transition 9 years ago, but it happened and she graduated in the top 10 in her class.

 

You cannot do it alone!!

[whatishappening]

Thank you!

[A. Dillon]

Keep two things in mind:

 - A majority of well meaning people just forget or don't understand why it is important to you. Try to talk to them, most come around.

 - There are some people who will never call you what you want to be called, specifically because you asked them. They can be ignored or reported to a teacher if it gets too bad.

 

Have you tried voice training? You don't have to take voice classes for it, like everything there are tons of tutorials on YouTube. It has helped a lot for me. I have only just started T but my voice has been passing for over a year. Also gave me a lot more confidence.

 

Really, confidence is the most important part. Most people just don't really care, they will just call it as they see it. Hold your head high, no matter what your dysphoria says you are and always will be a guy. I would suggest looking up Gottmik, a ftm drag queen, to just absorb the confidence. Every time I watch Gottmik talk about their identity, it just makes me smile.

 

Light correction works fine, I try to have a friend refer to me as he/him. That way it doesn't feel forced.

 

This is a weird one, but it should work if you look even the slightest bit masc - go to a thrift shop and buy a men's t-shirt that says something like "Smithville boys cross country team." That way it is pretty clear, plus thrift shops rule. 

 

Don't worry too much. Everything is a matter of time. Good luck, and good wishes.