Who was the person you least expected to accept YOU and how did it feel when they did?

[Heather Shay]

I haven't had the experience - I've lost only 1 who I thought would be most accepting and couldn't handle it. I haven't dared try those I think would be least willing. But I'd like to know how and why you did it. Maybe at work because you had to? 

[Jackie C.]

My father actually. I was pretty sure he'd reject me or even get violent. I came out via e-mail because I didn't think it would be safe to come out to him while we were in the same room.

 

I came out to him because, well, he's my dad. It would have made some awkward later meetings if I hadn't.

 

He's completely supportive. I make him cookies.

 

Hugs!

[kimberlyk]

My mom has been supportive and did confess to me she did dress me in infant girl's clothes when I was an infant.Came out to her on Mother's Day as a crossdresser 5 years ago.It was in person.Work,it didn't go well and was let go.Boss didn't like it

[Kasumi63]

Nice to hear Jackie’s answer because my dad would have been at the very top of my list. However, he passed away just before I came out, and I doubt I would have told him because I know he was anti-transgender. Still, it’s nice to imagine that maybe he would have been okay. I wasn’t going to tell my mother either, but she’s been somewhat accepting. Not completely accepting but much better than I imagined.

[Heather Shay]

@Kasumi63 I am sure your dad is smiling now and would highly approve now that he knows the why.

[Charlize]

I had done business with two brothers who ran an excavation company for years.  They are a tough pair of Italians.  I was doing a project on the farm and they brought tandem loads of crushed stone.  Climbing up to the cabs i remember thinking i'd take a bit of flack.  Instead i got "Whatever makes you feel good" followed by my dead name.  I felt both good and badly. Good as i was seeming at least on my way to acceptance but i guess partially badly as i had lost something.  I had to kind of morn my loss of him.  The tough guy of the past was gone and a new life was real.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Heather Shay]

@charlize I'm glad the real you won out. If not we wouldn't be blessed with you here.

[LusciousTheLock]

This would be my line manager. He's a 63yr old man full of "ist's". I had told everyone in the office, directors, everyone. But the one person I hadnt told was my line manager whome I sat next to and shared vehicles daily.   Despite his opinions, I really like the fella. We work together in a good cop / bad cop kinda way. I'm the diplomatic one, where he is the more knowledgeable and experienced but generally shouty one. He is a dinosaur of a man. I had tested the water several times with him without much positivity so I resigned myself to the fact that he wouldnt understand.

 

One day I got into work, and the account manager summoned me for a private chat. He asked me if I had told Kev yet? I replied that I had not. I was then told that my coming out had been discussed on a skype call the night before and that one of the regional directors (who was freindly with Kev) had called him, whilst live on that call to ask how he had taken the news and see how the contract could assist me.

 

Anyway, when he came through the door of the office, I grabbed him for a private chat in the meeting room and explained the situation. He told me what our director had told him and he didnt have a clue what he was on about? I explained to him that everyone in the office knew and had offered they're support. He asked me three times if I was serious? I told him that I was. I then explained why he was the last to know based on his own views and opinions.

 

That man has never once failed to get my name wrong or fail to call me she / her. He admitted he had no idea what made me do this or want to do this, but knowing me, it wasnt a rush decision and he would try and understand , support and learn as I progressed with my transition. He's also defended me several times against clients who may not have been so accepting which has been both respectful amd brilliant.

 

The dinosair evolved

[Heather Shay]

@LusciousTheLock that is one of the sweetest stories I've ever heard about support. It brought a smile then tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing it has made my day lighter.

[KymmieL]

It was one of my co-workers. Before I came out at work. I had thought he was a bigoted ass. boy was I wrong. He uses proper pronouns, Just yesterday we had a discussion on name change. 

 

Kymmie

[Heather Shay]

@KymmieL that is so heartwarming.