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Guest Bethany

Being in the preliminary stages of transition, what being out means to me, is still much about being out to myself. to go about ones's daily chores in an open and honest way. Being out is what gives me the freedom to walk into any store, and to purchase any item of jewelry, clothes, or makeup that I may want no matter how I am presenting. It is the freedom of honesty. The concept of being at a point of going stealth may never present it's self to me, but if it does I hope I remember how liberating it feels from the point I'm at now.

/hugs Bethany

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Being in the preliminary stages of transition, what being out means to me, is still much about being out to myself. to go about ones's daily chores in an open and honest way. Being out is what gives me the freedom to walk into any store, and to purchase any item of jewelry, clothes, or makeup that I may want no matter how I am presenting. It is the freedom of honesty. The concept of being at a point of going stealth may never present it's self to me, but if it does I hope I remember how liberating it feels from the point I'm at now.

/hugs Bethany

Big Big Big Hugs Bethany Joy,

Being comfortable with where you are at..No matter at what stage you are...Is the most important thing there is my dear.Congratulations just for making the effort,and the rewards you will get just for trying.Shoot,i went girl shopping as my old self many times.There was this one place i went so often...

That the girl starting asking if the clothes were for gifts or me?And i was blatantly honest...Why Of Course They Are For Me,Who Else Would I Be Buying Them For?lol big time. And true too.

Bethany,i am so proud of you for the adjustments you are making regarding your future>Good Girl.

Hugs Lady,

Angelique Michelle(Angie)

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Zufrieden,

I'm glad to know I'm not the only person who thinks that I have to wear feminine clothings all the time too. phew. I wear things like the slim fit shirts, low rise jeans, and maybe some flashy belt in the first place and I don't feel the need to change it...

So I'm also in the preliminary stages of transitioning, in fact, I haven't really came out to anyone close to me, and I'll go with whatever I'm comfortable with I think. For few folks, even though they're friends, I don't think it's their business to know unless they have questions themselves. I'm sure when I start changing, that'd be a good clue. For my closest friends, I think I will let them know what's going on...

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Guest silverpetals
Zufrieden,

*looks side to side*

shh!

we don't say that name any more. for some reason :(

I'm glad to know I'm not the only person who thinks that I have to wear feminine clothings all the time too. phew. I wear things like the slim fit shirts, low rise jeans, and maybe some flashy belt in the first place and I don't feel the need to change it...

i don't know actually...both of the therapists i've seen made some comment like "you aren't dressed very femininely" or "so i suppose you're dressed quite androgynously", because i was wearing (girl) jeans.

okay, so i'm not a 'girly' girl and i always end up looking somewhat...emo :huh: , but it seems like i'm expected to always wear a dress or skirt, which i *suppose* could be part of the stereotype of 'exaggerated femininity' that seems to define transwomen, at least in the media.

anyways, i was kind of wondering if when i get an appointment to a gender clinic (probably the portman), i know that part of their judgement of me would be how i was presenting (like, girl or boy). but if i was 'dressed androgynously'...would that label me to them as 'not dysphoric enough' or something? i'm confuuused...and kind of worried :(

hi ootgoo anyway, it's always good to see new faces ^_^

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Guest Madison_Always

yeah i dont exactly have ton of girls clothes none id go out in so if i tell my parents or something along those like what silver said about the therapist will they autmatically deem us confused teens and send us home :?:

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Hey Ladies,

I must be a lucky girl.When i go to my therapist or my doc.I have to go straight from work.

Therefore i'm not exactly the picture of femininity.Though i do wear women's jeans and a cute top under my work shirt,plus hoop earrings.Most still call me(sir)uggg,how i hate that part.

But my therapist has seen me at my most femme too.Not my doc though...yet.

And truthfully,it shouldn't matter what you wear as long as you present female.

I wear womens jeans all the time.Pants do not make the girl.

I would like to advise going to your assessment very girly.Just play the game on their terms.

Once you get the OK then be yourself.

Hugs,

Angie.

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Kia Ora all,

Just a tip on 'what to wear' it's important to wear what makes you feel comfortable and just as important is the comfort that you feel should shine on through-as if the clothes on your body have become transparent...It's not what you wear but who you really are that counts...If you worry too much about what to wear that worry's bound to show through in the form of 'nervousness' when interacting with others...

A little warped story about 'what not to wear'...I was on my way back to the UK travelling on the channel ferry from Hook Van Holland to Harwich...One of the passingers was off his face he had just come from Hashsterdam/Amsterdam he had a bag of crisps/thin potato chips...He was so nervous he ripped the bag open and all the chips went all over the place he was shaking and sweating...What he was wearing was the cause of his discomfort 'about a KG of hash stached under his clothes'...And what happened to him! I didn't wait around to see but I doubt that his 'assessment' with British customs fared well...The moral of this weirdness...You should always wear what makes you feel comfortable otherwise you WILL definitely be caught out!

Metta Jendar

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ooo, sorry about that silver petals :(

!!!! haha, i'm not the only one dressing emo here. :) *raises hand for a high five* yay!!! Hmm, maybe they just don't understand the younger generation ^^. If my opinion matters, at least from how you post...it feels genuinely female. :)

I definitely definitely would love to have an occasional dressing. I still like the idea of occasionally being in a good dress if the time calls for it. I'm going to plan to meet a therapist Wednesday...thank you for the advices. I'll definitely keep them in mind :)

As for the topic of this post, I just came out to two of my closest friends. They both told me they weren't surpised. wow. I guess that wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. And I definitely feel like I got a huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuge load off my back and I don't feel alone anymore. Two down! more to go! :)

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Heey Silver Petals,

It's been over a month since you posted about going to your assesment.

Soooooo pray tell,how did it go?I am curiuos to know,you had a bit of anxiety going in.

Curious,

Angie.

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