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Hi everyone!

 

I'm Aoife Mary M. and I live in Nashville, but should be moving soon. I am 34, married and with one child and hopefully another one soon. I have been on a long road to acceptance and am a long way to any kind of transition, but I feel great.

 

I am looking for other transfem friends, especially around my age to finally have someone I can relate to. I've lived all over the country and have been a musician and lived a pretty reckless bohemian life on the edge until I met my wife. I don't miss it.

 

I really cracked when I found my full name. I initially chose Aoife because it's difficult and Irish, but felt no attachment to it. My birth name can be abbreviated genderless, but I never liked it as a boy either. I got into the musician Aoife Nessa Frances and it felt worth keeping. Then I was thinking about my full name. My wife and I decided we're going to restart my family name and create a new strain far from the monsters in my family, so that stayed. I went with Mary in the middle as a tribute to the lat Mary Hansen of Stereolab and said "Aoife Mary M..." and finally heard my real name. 

 

Well, that's just the start!

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@Aoifewelcome to the group! We're so happy to have you here! I hope you feel welcome! Thanks for sharing your story with us! Happy Pride! ?️‍????❤️????? 

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Welcome Aoife Mary! Beautiful name! I'm glad you're here, I too had a long road to acceptance. It is so much better today, being okay with me. It sounds like your wife is supportive, that's wonderful.

 

Hugs!

Delcina

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Hi Aoife Mary,

 

Welcome to TransPulse. I think you will find many here who can relate. I am about twice your age and have two children. I'm glad you found acceptance. Thanks for sharing your story.

 

Hugs,

Mike

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Hi Aoife Mary M,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here!

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf?

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Hi Aoife Mary M and welcome. I’m another woman twice your age but still trying to find my way. I have learned a lot about myself here and I’m sure you will too. There is plenty of support and love here.

 

Looking forward learning more about you.

 

Hugs

 

Sandra

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Welcome dear.  My tongue  is all tied up trying to pronounce your name.  I know mine is hard for some as well but it always makes a conversation opener.  Enjoy.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Hi @Aoife! nice to meet you, and Welcome!

I think you've found a great place (as I think you have already discovered) for sharing experiences and having a Community where you feel safe.
Looking forward to hearing more from you❣️

Deep breaths ... one step at a time

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