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Hello:

Just joined today and hope to meet others who are in a similar situation that I am or who wish they were. My first wife died several years ago and I am now remarried, this time to a MTF transgender. I am a lifelong crossdresser who knew a lot about transgenders. And after 4 years of being lonely and trying to figure out what the next chapter of my life would be I decided to try to find a transgender for a relationship. I was very lucky and found my current wife and we have a great marriage and she is totally accepting and encouraging of my crossdressing. So anyway...that quickly sums up why I'm on here.  Hope to learn more from others and share my good fortune and provide encouragement as best I can.

 

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Hey Patti! Welcome to Transpulse! We're glad you're here!

 

Yes, you could certainly do worse than a trans-woman. We're amazing. ?

 

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Hi Patti, Welcome, I’m new here too. I’m really curious how you found your current wife. I am starting transition mtf, but I’m not attracted to men so far.  But I think Transgender Women can be attractive and may be more sympathetic.  I have my doubts about AFF and Sissy Finder or whatever it’s called. My plan so far is get involved in my local LGBTQ Org. in the near future to meet people. Thanks, Vini

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On 6/20/2021 at 7:27 PM, Vini said:

Hi Patti, Welcome, I’m new here too. I’m really curious how you found your current wife. I am starting transition mtf, but I’m not attracted to men so far.  But I think Transgender Women can be attractive and may be more sympathetic.  I have my doubts about AFF and Sissy Finder or whatever it’s called. My plan so far is get involved in my local LGBTQ Org. in the near future to meet people. Thanks, Vini

Vini: I first met my wife online in early 2012 at a site called Transpassions. I think it still exists but not sure if the format is the same. It was what I would call 'fairly legitimate' as far as not being just an outlet for meeting casually. I was and still am very lucky. Patti :)  

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Patti.  Please have a look around the site and ask any questions that come to mind.

 

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Hi @PattiCakes!  nice to meet you, and Welcome!

 

That's a very interesting situation you have and I wonder about that myself.  I am currently married and hope to stay that way, but IF for some reason I was single again and looking for a new partner I definitely would consider this type of relationship.  I am not emotionally attracted to me either and I don't have confidence if a woman would be attracted to me as Transfeminine. 
I think its the Heart (rather than the Parts) that is most important.  I wish you the best in your new relationship.  Sounds Wonderful❣️

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5 hours ago, KayC said:

Hi @PattiCakes!  nice to meet you, and Welcome!

 

That's a very interesting situation you have and I wonder about that myself.  I am currently married and hope to stay that way, but IF for some reason I was single again and looking for a new partner I definitely would consider this type of relationship.  I am not emotionally attracted to me either and I don't have confidence if a woman would be attracted to me as Transfeminine. 
I think its the Heart (rather than the Parts) that is most important.  I wish you the best in your new relationship.  Sounds Wonderful❣️

My first wife died suddenly and unexpectedly 3 weeks short of our 40th wedding anniversary. She knew of my crossdressing as I told her about it a few years after we married but it was something she couldn't come to grips with, at least as a participant. So I stayed in the closet with it. We had a really great marriage in spite of that and she was such a wonderful companion for me. But after she died I did a lot of soul-searching of myself trying to figure out what to do with my life and how to move forward. Crossdressing was a big part of me, had been almost too big a part of me but something that just couldn't be denied. After 4 years I knew I needed companionship and that living alone wasn't the answer. I had no children so my emotional support was mostly just myself. I knew a lot about the whole crossdresser/transgender scene because of what I was, and I knew any further relationship would have to allow me to be myself. I also knew that there were a lot of 'genuine' transgenders in the world who were truly female and only wanted to live their life happily as the gender they were meant to be. So I decided to try to find someone who I could make happy and who could totally accept me also.

I lived in a rural area and had no way to find what I was looking for in person so the web was the logical place to start my search. I tried to find a meeting site that was for transgenders and their admirers and happened to find Transpassions. I checked it out and it seemed to be more about meeting than just casual sexual flings like so many are. The very first day after I joined there I found my current wife. Seriously. It is a long story and was the start of an adventure I could have never dreamed would happen to me.

What you need to know is....it can happen. It did for me and I now have a perfect 2nd marriage to someone who loves me and who I dearly love. And she is as female or even more so than most genetic females I've ever known. As KayC said.....it's the heart rather than the parts that is important. :)

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21 hours ago, PattiCakes said:

So I decided to try to find someone who I could make happy and who could totally accept me also.

I guess that is what every human being is searching for @PattiCakes.  I'm sorry for the loss of your first wife, but Thank You❣️ for sharing "the rest of the story".  I'm really happy you found that very special someone, and I am sure your experience will be encouragement to many others here in the Forum. 

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6 hours ago, KayC said:

I guess that is what every human being is searching for @PattiCakes.  I'm sorry for the loss of your first wife, but Thank You❣️ for sharing "the rest of the story".  I'm really happy you found that very special someone, and I am sure your experience will be encouragement to many others here in the Forum. 

That's one of the reasons I've joined here. Especially to possibly set an example for others who may have a desire to find a transgender for a serious relationship or even marriage. It worked out for me because I knew what I wanted and went for it. I doubt many others would go to the extent I did in order to make it happen but if you are sincere in your goal you will do what has to be done. I did and it was totally worth it. :)

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Well for my own part, I would be happy to find another trans person that I could have a relationship with MtF, FtM or about anything else as long as we could bond in a good way.   I don't need anymore toxicity in my life.

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