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Places to go as a crossdresser


AlexG

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Until recently I've only crossdressed (MTF) in private.  Lately I've decided to afford myself more freedom in exploring my gender.  The idea of going out in public presenting as female really appeals to me.  I put a lot of effort into my dressing and have some good outfits/looks, but I'm not as passable as I'd like to be.  Most people would know I'm a crossdresser.  Where can someone in my situation go out fully dressed? 

 

In my area there aren't really any crossdresser friendly clubs or establishments to go to.  I looked on meetup.com for groups to socialize with but there aren't any near me either.  I've considered using my vacation time to go to Las Vegas, as I've heard Las Vegas is a crossdresser's paradise.  I'm not sure of all the opportunities in Las Vegas, but from what I understand you can dress however you want and it won't raise any eyebrows.  I know Las Vegas has several MTF makeover services, and I'm sure there must be clubs friendly to our community.  

 

I would love to hear anyone's experiences and suggestions.  

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I know Las Vegas quite well, and while for the most part you will be left alone as long as you are just out parading around the Strip, other places you can be in pretty risky territory.  Unless you know the city, it would not be my first recommendation.  It is always safer to be in a group at least the first few times you go out.

 

That being said, your best bet as #1 is to call a fairly local LGBTQ Center and find out what activities they may have at The Center.  Many of them have special CD support meetings and groups where you do have make-up parties or clothing modeling parties at the center or at a safe location where they hold meetings.

 

Next in line are going to be yearly Conferences or Conventions that are held in several places around the U.S.  This topic talks about one of them https://www.transgenderpulse.com/forums/index.php?/topic/84574-keystone-conference-2022/&tab=comments#comment-778993.  Conferences are a lot of fun, especially if you suspect you may be in further than just CDing because you are talking IRL with people on your level.  I have been to many over my years of being fully OUT and am raring to get back to one. They are safe and much more fun than standing in front of a slot machine in a dress while being ignored by all but the wrong people.

 

Just remembered, there is a Trangender Conference that takes place in Las Vegas in May, and that would be the way to go there in my opinion. 

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Alex, @VickySGV's suggestions are excellent.  If you do happen to go to Las Vegas and have some $$, check out "Just You."  Someone close to me has used Amy's services many times and her clients have a wonderful time going out together on the town.  She'll dress you, do the makeup, and take you to all the right places.  Her clients are transformed.  Here's the Link.

 

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3 hours ago, Carolyn Marie said:

If you do happen to go to Las Vegas and have some $$, check out "Just You."  Someone close to me has used Amy's services

 

I had forgotten about that. Too many trips to Lost Wages since coming out.  Actually I knew it under another name, and YES that would be a way to do it there.

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Alex,

 

Vicky and Carolyn make excellent recommendations and I have to second the notion of attending a conference.  Just coming out, you'll probably feel most comfortable at a conference.

 

Another real good option is to go out with a CD or trans friend who is already comfortable being out in public; a big sister, so to speak.  Of course, that would assume you know someone.

 

As for places to go, I go where other women go; places like the shopping mall, department stores, or eating establishments.  Night clubs and bars were never places I enjoyed or felt comfortable, but a bar that is part of a nice restaurant is actually appealing.  Often, I'll end up there waiting for a table.  

 

Going out is so much fun and it is a great way to express your inner woman, so whatever you decide, I have no doubt you'll enjoy yourself.

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On 10/14/2021 at 3:18 PM, Sally Stone said:

As for places to go, I go where other women go; places like the shopping mall, department stores, or eating establishments.  Night clubs and bars were never places I enjoyed or felt comfortable...

 

I agree about the mall.  It's been my go-to place for many years and I've always felt safe inside of one. (Knock on wood)

 

However with that said, I have been followed out to my car on two separate occasions. Luckily I had enough distance between them to get in my car and leave before they could reach me, but it makes me wonder what they had planned?

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