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Hello I just joined this site. I'm a pre op transman, I'm still pretty closeted about it some people online know about it but most people who know me still see me as a female. Tristan is the name I chosen for myself when I began to realize I'm trans I felt like a boy as soon as i began to hit puberty I felt as if I was meant to have a male body and did not enjoy the changes happening. I don't fit under the usual male definition as I do still enjoy wearing makeup, keeping my hair long and even wear some gender non conforming clothing still this is due to the fact that I'm into the gothic subculture as well as 70s and 80s glam rock and japanese visual kei all of these things involve men who have more androgynous looks. I feel its because of this though that my gender identity would seem confusing or not be taken seriously. I really do want to medically transition though. I joined this forum in hopes of finding more likeminded people and discuss trans related topics. I'm a shy person but quite friendly as well. 

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Welcome Tristan,

I firmly believe you will many friends here who are going through a similar situation and many along the spectrum in both directions.

Ask as many questions as cross your mind and you'll get honest, truthful and loving answers from people who support you and want the best for you.

I personally am glad you found us. I am going the other way MTF after a long lifetime of denial. I am so happy you have been brave enough to stop denying yourself and doing something about it.

I can also relate to shyness and that in itself is a tough thing to overcome.

Let me say I an very proud of you.

Hugs

Heather

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Tristan.  I just want to reassure you that there is no right or wrong with gender presentation; if you like it, then its right for you.  Please look around the forums and post questions or comments anywhere you like.  We'll be here to help and offer support.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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9 hours ago, Heather Shay said:

Welcome Tristan,

I firmly believe you will many friends here who are going through a similar situation and many along the spectrum in both directions.

Ask as many questions as cross your mind and you'll get honest, truthful and loving answers from people who support you and want the best for you.

I personally am glad you found us. I am going the other way MTF after a long lifetime of denial. I am so happy you have been brave enough to stop denying yourself and doing something about it.

I can also relate to shyness and that in itself is a tough thing to overcome.

Let me say I an very proud of you.

Hugs

Heather

thank you very much I appreciate your supportive words !

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3 hours ago, Carolyn Marie said:

Welcome to Trans Pulse, Tristan.  I just want to reassure you that there is no right or wrong with gender presentation; if you like it, then its right for you.  Please look around the forums and post questions or comments anywhere you like.  We'll be here to help and offer support.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

thank you I appreciate that very much !

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2 hours ago, Jandi said:

Welcome Tristan

thank you !

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Welcome Tristan! Glad you're here. I too at a young age felt confusion when how I felt & looked didn't match. It seems a common thread here. It was so helpful to learn gender is on a spectrum & doesn't have to fit a binary mold. I hope you find the wonderful support, advice & acceptance here as I have.

 

Hugs!

Delcina

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Hey Tristan, clothes are for decoration, what matters it what you feel on the inside. You're on your way and that's the way that is right for you.

 

Cheers,

Corto

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