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Dropping libido is awesome. Sexual desire down from Male level to Female level.


Moira Arista

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Hi Everyone. I'm here to report that my libido for sexual desire has dropped significantly. I was on vacation for 9 days before I realized I had not thought of self gratifying myself (aka masturbating). I for once in my life did not have male levels of sexual desire. It felt awesome. This is without being on HRT or blockers.  One of the hardest things for me to accomplish during my transition was/is the lack of sexual desire. It bothered me to such an extent that I felt like it was the hardest hurdle to negotiate. For me personally I feel like there is no way I could be my genuine Female self when I was stuggling with male sexual desire patterns. Lets be honest here, men partake in the act of masturbation a lot more then women generally, because of the level of the sexual desire hormone testosterone in the male body. We ladies don't do it anywhere near as often, nor do I feel we think about it. I'm now happy to report that my libido is down to a female level

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I'm still Pre-HRT but my dysphoria is taking care of my libido in a brutal way.
I just don't have ANY sex drive left. Thou it's sad in a way it's also kind of liberating not having to have

those thoughts and desires while not yet being in my intended body.

Whenever a few years down the line that that has been corrected i will welcome those

feelings and desires with open arms. But currently it's actually helping my cause by letting me

feel less dysphoric about it. I feel sexy as a dumptruck as it is so no loss ;)

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After nearly 18 months of hormones. I'm literally maybe 2 times a week. Compared to 5 plus times a day as a 35 year old male. Now I can easily go 5 times before the fireworks happen. Yea it takes a lot longer, but the journey to get there is a lot better.

 

Also while ill never experience a full on female one. When I started having them. I started asking the females i know if that's how it feels. They all reported similar feelings. When I had my first real big one. I explained to a female how it felt. She just laughed and said welcome..

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I’m also pre HRT and have notice my sex drive going down as well.   I think for me what’s caused the change is the the shift in being sexually aroused by females to wanting to be female.  

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On 6/11/2022 at 5:21 PM, Michelle_Anne said:

I’m also pre HRT and have notice my sex drive going down as well.   I think for me what’s caused the change is the the shift in being sexually aroused by females to wanting to be female.  

Unfortunately, I'm still sexually aroused by females, because on top of being a Transgender Female, I'm also gay. So transgender Lesbian. 

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My libido has all but died. While that might not be what some aim for, I am practically rejoicing. It’s such a huge weight off my mind. It triggered my dysphoria and sense of self shame and loathing. I love how much HRT has nuked it.

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My libido is pretty much nonexistent.  I am kind of curious about the female orgasm, but I just can't get motivated to make the attempt.

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On 5/19/2023 at 5:36 PM, KathyLauren said:

My libido is pretty much nonexistent.  I am kind of curious about the female orgasm, but I just can't get motivated to make the attempt.

I'm nearly two and a half years in now. Been on my level of Progesterone since last July. I lost all intrest in sex, and I didn't get up off for nearly 3 months. I stopped taking Progesterone in January, but resumed it in early April. I have noticed since. I was super in the mood for a few weeks. Now I'm like I was last year. I could care less. 

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On 5/12/2023 at 1:16 AM, Moira Arista said:

Unfortunately, I'm still sexually aroused by females, because on top of being a Transgender Female, I'm also gay. So transgender Lesbian. 

 

 

I love women, always have, and my libido hasn't dropped. I don't see this as any kind of problem for me and would not use the word 'unfortunately' for myself. I recognise it's different for different people. For some MtF if this then involves penile erection and orgasm through a male organ then it can exacerbate dysphoria.

 

For me personally it's a cause of celebration. I play with myself in a female way but I'm also half-way to fully female sex organs anyway. I had a girlfriend who said she'd like to be the first person to go down on me after vaginoplasty 😃 Loved that comment. Sexy. Funny. Affirming.

 

One thing I would query is the idea from this thread that sexual desire is lower from male to female. I think this is a bit misleading. Certainly there is evidence that libido drops with the menopause. But there's no real evidence to back up the suggestion that natal women who have monthly cycles have less of a libido than men. 

 

It follows that transgender females whose estradiol levels are equivalent to pre-menopausal natal women may have similar libidos. Some MtF women also follow the now fairly common HRT practice in menopausal women of taking a micro dose of testosterone to mimic levels seen in natal females, and this can also boost libido as well as energy.

 

Chacun a son gout.

 

 

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5 hours ago, Tilly said:

 

 

I love women, always have, and my libido hasn't dropped. I don't see this as any kind of problem for me and would not use the word 'unfortunately' for myself. I recognise it's different for different people. For some MtF if this then involves penile erection and orgasm through a male organ then it can exacerbate dysphoria.

 

For me personally it's a cause of celebration. I play with myself in a female way but I'm also half-way to fully female sex organs anyway. I had a girlfriend who said she'd like to be the first person to go down on me after vaginoplasty 😃 Loved that comment. Sexy. Funny. Affirming.

 

One thing I would query is the idea from this thread that sexual desire is lower from male to female. I think this is a bit misleading. Certainly there is evidence that libido drops with the menopause. But there's no real evidence to back up the suggestion that natal women who have monthly cycles have less of a libido than men. 

 

It follows that transgender females whose estradiol levels are equivalent to pre-menopausal natal women may have similar libidos. Some MtF women also follow the now fairly common HRT practice in menopausal women of taking a micro dose of testosterone to mimic levels seen in natal females, and this can also boost libido as well as energy.

 

Chacun a son gout.

 

 

I guess what I meant by this is that I feel like woman generally do not think about sex as often as men. With male levels of testosterone in body, the desire is almost always there weather they want it or not. For myself the constant onslaught of desire was a curse. I was self gratifying even if I didn't want to. I fought desperately to control my urges in a more feminine way to hardly no avail. Now however, I'm getting control of this. 

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Hi Moira,

 

Yes I totally get that and I understand and respect the way you have put it. I guess the way I see it is that testosterone is a much more aggressive hormone. It's a very powerful steroid. It tends towards predatory behaviour.

 

Estrogen is a much more gentle, slow-burn, hormone and the libido which comes with it mirrors that.

 

Just my take on it but I did have a time when I had to take testosterone and, blimey, it was horribly powerful. It was also incredibly difficult to come off it. 

 

xx

 

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I'm a little obsessed with this issue, not because I'm rampant in any sense, but because I have done far too much research into the effect that hormone treatment has on libido.

 

Personally, my libido is almost zero now. This, despite testosterone level being in the normal range, but slightly less than mid point (I get mt T level checked regularly thanks to an ongoing medical issue). I have no idea what my latent E level is. 

 

One day I expect to be chemically castrated due to recurrent prostate cancer. A major side effect is loss of libido, ha! 

 

I'm with Moira; a translesbian. In my case, I think my libido would increase with a further reduction in T because I would be less masculine. Food for thought.

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I'm really sorry to hear about the prostate cancer Mirra.

 

Well it's interesting: I've had a bilateral orchidectomy (erm, castration) and afterwards my libido shot up. In fact in the six years since then it hasn't really come down. That might be because I don't need to use any anti-androgens. My T is zero if I let it be but my libido is high: I've known lots of cis women and I'd say it's in a typical pre-menopausal / ovulating female status.  

 

Personally, for me, this is great. I love women and I have the libido to do something about it ;) 

 

Incidentally, slightly tmi, but when I come it's a small amount of clear fluid - from the prostate.

 

I like having libido but then I like having energy too. I hike every day. It's cool.

 

xx

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@Tilly Thank you, but it's all good. My recurrence is just a technicality that will have to be dealt with at some stage, but I am healthy otherwise, symptom free and my life expectancy hasn't been compromised at this stage.

 

Regarding not using the 'trans' bit lol, I get what you are saying! I probably only used it because I haven't actually properly transitioned. Yet.

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4 hours ago, Mirrabooka said:

@Tilly Thank you, but it's all good. My recurrence is just a technicality that will have to be dealt with at some stage, but I am healthy otherwise, symptom free and my life expectancy hasn't been compromised at this stage.

 

Regarding not using the 'trans' bit lol, I get what you are saying! I probably only used it because I haven't actually properly transitioned. Yet.

I only use the the term Translesbian for my safety more or less. That way I let the person know right up front. However, I may change this as I get further in to my transition. I would love to just say, I'm a lesbian. its a hard thing as I might get backlash even from a cute woman I want to have S with if she finds out I have a ELLC (Extra Long Large Clitorus)

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So welcome to our world lesbian world many many kisses from Natalie and dont forget this we are not alone on this planet!

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I have a different take on this one. I apparently have always had high estrogen levels, I have PMDS (intersex). 

My libido is down to zero now, but when it did exist it was quite strange. 

I could hit the fireworks 4-5 times with a wonderful grand finally in the end. It was always full body!

Even my ex used to comment about it. 

I can't even imagine what "coming around the bend" one time only would be like. It sounds frustrating to me. 🤔

 

 

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I'll add this to it. I miss my old drive, and how simple it was to get off a bit. I love the fact I can ride the high of being turned on all day, and still be able to function. 

 

What I miss is how easy it was to get off. Now I csn be fully in the mood. Trying to get off, and all of a sudden. Some random thought comes into my head, and boom I'm done for. 20 minutes wasted. According to me female friends. That is typical for woman. 

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4 minutes ago, Red_Lauren. said:

I'll add this to it. I miss my old drive, and how simple it was to get off a bit. I love the fact I can ride the high of being turned on all day, and still be able to function. 

 

What I miss is how easy it was to get off. Now I csn be fully in the mood. Trying to get off, and all of a sudden. Some random thought comes into my head, and boom I'm done for. 20 minutes wasted. According to me female friends. That is typical for woman. 

"Did I let the dog out" thought pops into your head, and now you have to start from scratch. 

That can be frustrating for both involved. 🤔

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27 minutes ago, Red_Lauren. said:

I'll add this to it. I miss my old drive, and how simple it was to get off a bit. I love the fact I can ride the high of being turned on all day, and still be able to function. 

 

What I miss is how easy it was to get off. Now I csn be fully in the mood. Trying to get off, and all of a sudden. Some random thought comes into my head, and boom I'm done for. 20 minutes wasted. According to me female friends. That is typical for woman. 

 

I miss "my old drive" too, but not enough to stop HRT. Instead I consider, and feel and experience, the amazing changes that the HRT provides. They are different but they also offset the loss of that old drive, any everything else that went along with it. Worthwhile in the end, at least to me.

 

 

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I'm on HRT and have noticed it went down some but not all the way. Which I'm fine with either way. I don't really have much time for it. I have two boys a seven and two year old and they take up most time anyway.

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14 hours ago, Birdie said:

"Did I let the dog out" thought pops into your head, and now you have to start from scratch. 

That can be frustrating for both involved. 🤔

Yea it duck's. My female joke its like a when a dog sees a squirrel. 

 

13 hours ago, Kristen Sehr said:

 

I miss "my old drive" too, but not enough to stop HRT. Instead I consider, and feel and experience, the amazing changes that the HRT provides. They are different but they also offset the loss of that old drive, any everything else that went along with it. Worthwhile in the end, at least to me.

 

 

I only miss how easy it was to get off. I enjoy the half hour to hour it takes to get off now. I enjoy being able to go mutiple time. Till the big one happens. Then passing out. I hosntly enjoy everything hry has done to me. 

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Interesting to see how the MtF side of things is working...  One of my friends has shared similar experiences. 

 

In my girl form, I always had a high libido.  Probably because my body was meant to be a boy, I guess?  Well, since the doctor gave me a mild testosterone cream starting last summer, high drive became *overdrive* 😏  It wasn't supposed to, but it did.  Be grateful that your experiences seem to be the opposite....

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