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Calling LGBTQ People "Groomers" is Now Against Twitter Rules


Carolyn Marie

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I just published a rant about that over on my Face Book page.  I had had a person telling me that a Gay Relative reading a book to their collected nieces and nephews was the "G" word and that the parents were neglectful of their children and leaving them open to abuse.  Funny item to me was the person did not read me as Trans and keep up her ranting.

 

Shortly after I was near another  group where a 12ish boy was putting his hand in a 8ish year olds  "lap" and the 8 complained to their parents about it, and was told the older child was just playing, and the 8 year old should show some manners. 

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Wow I thought Elon Musk buying twitter would make things worse but luckily it’s better 

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7 minutes ago, Jandi said:

I suspect that the vast majority of actual "Groomers" are cis-het people.

 

Reading the news over the last few years, that does seem to be the case.  Many of them are religious leaders of one type or another.  I could say more, but I don't want this thread to get heated.

 

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Pardon me for being a bit snarky towards big social media establishments, but...It took them long enough. 😒

 

I suppose better late than never though. At least it's in place now.

 

3 hours ago, WillowA113 said:

Wow I thought Elon Musk buying twitter would make things worse but luckily it’s better 

 

He still hasn't actually bought Twitter yet. He seems to be playing power games with them. There was some big back and forth between him and Twitter regarding stats on number of bot accounts, so then he decided "I don't wanna buy them anymore." Now Twitter's suing him to make him buy them. The whole thing's a bit of a circus at this point.

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2 hours ago, Heather Nicole said:

The whole thing's a bit of a circus at this point.

Exactly. 

Global scale narcissism.

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I had never heard that term until i read this thread.  I guess being disconnected from twitter isn't so bad after all.

 

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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13 hours ago, Jandi said:

Exactly. 

Global scale narcissism.

Well said.

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3 hours ago, Charlize said:

I had never heard that term until i read this thread.  I guess being disconnected from twitter isn't so bad after all.

 

 

It certainly isn't just a Twitter phenomenon.  I'm seeing "groomer" allegations everywhere in the media and politics these days, and not just aimed at trans people (although that seems the current favorite).  Anyone in the Gay and Lesbian community, liberals, Democrats, LGBTQ allies, and teachers who support trans students, are all lumped together.  "Groomers" is the "Newspeak" for the "Communists" of the 1950's, and for the same purposes. 

 

Carolyn Marie

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I think about the pet grooming places I drive past that will have to change their signage at some point as the right wing hate machine has gone all out using that word for their latest hatefest.

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I feel most of the people who use the term "groomer" don't actually know what it means.  Or they do, and just want to point the finger at the LBGTQA+ community because it's easy. Never mind that the...particularly religious crowd...are the ones more commonly found to be groomers. Not saying all of them are, of course! But it's an observation that I think many people aren't ready to acknowledge.

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6 hours ago, RhondaS said:

I think about the pet grooming places I drive past that will have to change their signage at some point as the right wing hate machine has gone all out using that word for their latest hatefest.

I have wondered the same.  

 

 

It seems that "grooming" is a new way of saying "attempting to indoctrinate.". And that may or may not be true.  One person's indoctrination is another's education.  Totally depends on perspective.  We use language mostly to be insulting anymore, rather than descriptive.

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1 hour ago, awkward-yet-sweet said:

We use language mostly to be insulting anymore, rather than descriptive.

Unfortunately too true.

We're talking at each other rather than to each other.

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